Okay, I'm starting to get a little bit concerned, because I work with my brother daily, and lately his health has started to physically decline from his bad habits. And he's stubborn as a mule so no one, not even an INTP like me, seems to be able to reach him.
I thought he would work things out if things get to bad, but clearly that's not going to happen.
For years he has had terrible sleeping patterns, rarily eats anything before 6pm, and only little for dinner, he can be quite stressed out and depressed quite a lot. But he is also extremely stubborn. Lately, like the past few weeks, his health has been in steady decline, the symptoms are worsening, seems to have a low tolerance and weak immune system, just barely did we manage to force him to go to the hospital to check up on the pain he had in his intestines, which is likely to be kidney stones or a liver problem.
He doesn't drink anymore, much like me. Perhaps he should though, but anyways. I am stubborn too and can't boast living an extemely healthy lifestyle myself, but when I start to notice I feel weaker, or sickly, I adjust my diet and lifestyle accordingly in order to battle that. Plus, I haven't been ill (apart from some minor ailments) for like 12 years now, so I must be doing something right.. But more and more, he just seems to want to feel sick.
I, and others around him, have tried reasoning with him. Ignoring him. Calling him out on his behaviour. But nothing seems to reach him. It's like he is completely closed off to other peoples influence.
Now I'm not exactly the most caring person when it comes to my brother as he is doing this to himself. And if he wants to kill himself, he can go ahead and do it. But I don't think that is his intention at all, but effectively that is what he is doing. although very slowly.
He seems to be addicted to (ibuprofen) painkillers. 5 to 6 400mg pills before his first meal every day seems to be the norm.
His girlfriend (INFJ) is suffering quite a bit because of it too, and although I've told her she should cut her losses and leave him, as I too feel sorry for her situation, she seems unable to do so.
Anyone, ENTP's or otherwise, have experience with people or have been in similar situations themselves that have any advice on how we can deal with his issues?
His job isn't even very stressful. He drops in at work at around 10am, drinks coffee until 11, handles some emails and phonecalls, takes a break from 12pm to 1pm, does some administration work, procrastinates some more with as excuse to be talking to co-workers, does some more email work, bitches at some people for not doing the things he has on his mind at his personal whim, has a moment of clarity where he suddenly appears normal and kind, although not talking about anything work related. Hangs around a bit and goes home at 6pm. That;s all he needs to do. But lately, he has been procrastinating at work to the point of sticking in the office until late like 10/11pm, probably to avoid going home, claiming to be extremely busy. But yesterday when he was going to the hospital, I did his job and finished it in like 3 hours and had plenty of time to focus on my own things as well. And coming off stressed more often, bitching more often. Although everyday he still has that moment where he is suddenly perfectly normal for a short period of time. Like nothing has happened.
He's basicly House, but without the genius. :P