priestessofmars
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
I haven't made him take the test or anything but I'm as sure as I can be that he is an INTJ, the only other possibility would be ENTJ and his behavior with females (from what history I've been able to gather from my friend who has known him longer) and all around vibe seems to indicate a socially well adjusted introvert.
My main purpose of this thread is to ask other INTJ's what gets their attention. How/why would an INTJ be able to tell that someone may be attracted to them and interested in pursuing a romantic relationship?
I was sure that he hated me (thats dramatic i know) or just wasn't intrested at all until I got more info on him from my friend and realized hes introverted then realized hes probably an INTJ. I know INTJ's tend to not notice when someone is interested in them and I'm concerned that I'm not sending the right signals since I'm quite introverted myself. I suspect he may be intersted in me, or is at least aware of my interest in him at this point but I'm just not sure and its driving me fucking crazy.
I don't necessarily want to make him my boyfriend as I just got out of a very long relationship but I really like him a lot and want to spend more time with him.
How would I go about befriending this INTJ while making it clear that I'm attracted to him?
Background:
I've been hanging around his circle of friends for a couple of years but a lot of them seem to be pretty introverted and of course I'm an INFJ so I have difficulty just walking up to people and making friends so we've known OF eachother for some time now but haven't even stood around eachother at parties very much until the last few months. On my end, I've had a crush on him since I first saw him but I have no idea what he thought/thinks of me.
Lately I've been making a determined effort to be in his presence at social gatherings and talk to him. I don't think he noticed at first, I thought I freaked him out. Now I don't think he's freaked out and he may understand what I'm up to. Can't be sure though.
I'm having trouble starting this thing. Sorry. I hardly ever develop true obsessive-ish crushes on people and its quite frustrating for me, it uses up a lot of my mental energy and leaves me feeling pretty scatter brained.
Maybe yall can just give general advice on my bolded questions first and I'll supply info as needed?
My main purpose of this thread is to ask other INTJ's what gets their attention. How/why would an INTJ be able to tell that someone may be attracted to them and interested in pursuing a romantic relationship?
I was sure that he hated me (thats dramatic i know) or just wasn't intrested at all until I got more info on him from my friend and realized hes introverted then realized hes probably an INTJ. I know INTJ's tend to not notice when someone is interested in them and I'm concerned that I'm not sending the right signals since I'm quite introverted myself. I suspect he may be intersted in me, or is at least aware of my interest in him at this point but I'm just not sure and its driving me fucking crazy.
I don't necessarily want to make him my boyfriend as I just got out of a very long relationship but I really like him a lot and want to spend more time with him.
How would I go about befriending this INTJ while making it clear that I'm attracted to him?
Background:
I've been hanging around his circle of friends for a couple of years but a lot of them seem to be pretty introverted and of course I'm an INFJ so I have difficulty just walking up to people and making friends so we've known OF eachother for some time now but haven't even stood around eachother at parties very much until the last few months. On my end, I've had a crush on him since I first saw him but I have no idea what he thought/thinks of me.
Lately I've been making a determined effort to be in his presence at social gatherings and talk to him. I don't think he noticed at first, I thought I freaked him out. Now I don't think he's freaked out and he may understand what I'm up to. Can't be sure though.
I'm having trouble starting this thing. Sorry. I hardly ever develop true obsessive-ish crushes on people and its quite frustrating for me, it uses up a lot of my mental energy and leaves me feeling pretty scatter brained.
Maybe yall can just give general advice on my bolded questions first and I'll supply info as needed?