** Casual relationship I need advice**
So the story goes…I met this man (an INTP I believe) who said he was only interested in having a “causal relationship”. I was attracted to him and was not interested in a serious relationship, so I decided to give it a whirl.
Thus far we have been interacting for 6 months. From the beginning he told me he was not interested in anything serious, but brought up he wants to get married someday. He texts almost every day, though we have only met in person 3 times. He travels nearly half of the time for work and is a single father, so he says his time is limited. He continually tells me how wonderful he thinks I am, that he is thinking about me, how much he misses me, and how he wishes I were there with him. He went so far to invite on business trip with him to Europe. He even brought up us getting married in a joking manner and when I question him he said “it is nice to think about”.
As an INTJ I have a difficult time reading relationships(go figure). I have come to really like him. Because of the manner of his texts it seemed like he was thinking beyond something casual.
So what brings me to writing this post, is a couple days ago he was traveling and he told me how much he wished I was there with him. Then a few hours later I received a very explicit and intimate text from him begging someone to meet up with him, which was actually intended for someone else (ops). I didn’t know how to respond, so I asked him what he meant (because we had no plans to meet) and his response was “Ok, I get it. And I have not heard from him since.
I understand we are involved in a causal relationship, but his texts eluded to otherwise. I feel angry, hurt, and led on. (yes INTJ’s have feelings..well every once in awhile anyway). What do you think? Am I overreacting or do I have something to be angry about? What should I do? Any advice would be appreciated.