Resentful? Sometimes. Comforting. Sometimes. Mostly fearful that I will make a mistake. Letting myself believe something good and then it not happening, which is what I basically anticipate in nearly every situation.
It is ironic, though, because I often go about creating mayhem between people so that I have a known bad outcome rather than an unknowable outcome.
One thing I've been working on lately is to just be positive. Or, at least not gloom and doom negative. I always expect the sky to fall. Most often I am wrong. I ramp myself up for battle for nothing. So, before any event where I am feeling anxious I really try to remember that there is no reason why it should not go well.
I am bad at seeing how other people feel. I am mistrustful.
My first reaction is "Why not?" Did someone else already post that btw?
This is common enough. Many make themselves feel better by expecting the worst, so that if it happens they are prepared, and if it doesn't they are pleasantly surprised. I used to do that. Not any more though.
Because control is comfortable whether good or bad?
I like this. I think of myself as a realistic idealist. I think it best to be logical, but sometimes the realistic outcome is the good outcome. I'm sure you know this, I'm only saying that's how I am. Please don't take offense.
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My advice: Stay away from it, as far as you can. It's a boost to your deepest fears about urself and a shared insight into the world, like you always had, but never shared.
Try it out, but die alone at all costs. An entp must die alone, there is no other tragic ending nor hope to insanity
Yeah. I just can't stand the agony of not knowing. This is why I sometimes express skepticism about knowledge. I hate my need to know. It is definitely related to control. By knowing, I try to anticipate. I think we often find security in our "knowledge". But, knowledge is bullshit.
Yea, in a way. It is like a security blanket. Security blankets make a child feel more secure, but, really, it's also just a blanket. Control is like that. It makes you feel better, but it's also a meaningless ragged piece of cloth that you clutch onto.
I guess early on as a child (this is very enneagram 7 it turns out) I decided I had better look after my own needs. Part of this is protecting one's self is trying to find your way out of problems. Or, developing really odd ways to provide security for yourself and to stave off anxiety.
Right. Also, as far as it goes with other people. Most people prefer to be liked and to like. So, why should I go out of my way to expect the opposite?
I dont know, I havent met an infj yet like mine. Just be careful
Sure they're all ENTPs? We're not all that common, you know.
An entp must die alone, there is no other tragic ending nor hope to insanity
I think people find security in anything they can. I don't understand how you can hate a need to know. It seems to be that wanting to delve into something deeply is a good thing. Knowledge can be bullshit, because it can always be negated by new ideas, but overall, it is what we as humans have. I don't feel we are on the same page, if this isn't going on too long, will you explain? If not, no worries.
Having to have too much control can ruin a person. In many ways. Many times it just creates a storm of negative emotions.
Aha! My Trap and Release sterilization program is working!
Your testicles will never be the same.
My advice stands be careful, they are insane and if you fall in love with them you'll leave one world.
You Americans obviously have a different way to fall in love with each other, but lemme tell you this: I vomitted on my hand when I saw the sparkling and then draw ur names in it
I love your word pictures.
Entropie's vomited again. Who's turn is it?
Wondering. Questing. Nothing wrong with that. It is a joyful cleaving to life. Attentive to the great mysteries of existence.
Answer seeking. Forming conclusions. This is treacherous. Many people lead themselves into the dark waters of certainty and become shipwrecked on submerged things they never saw. What is real is often beyond knowledge. Better to accept one's position of ignorance than to convince yourself that you are in possession of answers.
I was watching this show on Netflix. An Atheist had to stay with some evangelical Christians. I find Christianity useful, in theory. But, these people were appalling in their misguided certainty. I think this is very natural for humans. Checking off little checkboxes. Boxing in reality.
The problem is. There is always more to control. It becomes obsessive. And, like all obsessions, there is no satiety.
I'm not quite understanding who is insane? INFJ's?
Wow, you sure have a way of talking to the ladies. You should write greeting cards.
I'm kidding you know...