So... how many times does this topic appear monthly if not weekly right?
I have a friend who is an ENFP and it's I guess odd in a way to figure out where he is in some respects in his approach towards me. We are both VERY much unavailable romantically but I feel this persistence in the friendship if that is the appropriate term... an effort in a way still coming from this ENFP to remain consistent in my life, to ask deeper and deeper questions, and an effort at reciprocating how much I do care for him. He's just difficult to figure out, and I have this need to square up in my mind exactly where we are and who we are to each other. I feel as though I am constantly overthinking things.
I want to hear from fellow INFJs as well as ENFPs on this subject, how do you feel in forming close bonds with those of the opposite gender and how do you quantify relationships with opposite genders as adults, and define this bond between INFJ and ENFPs?
Here are some specifics:
So any and all advice is of course welcome. This is my first post here so just want to stick my toe in the water on a subject Ive been curious about for some time.
I have a friend who is an ENFP and it's I guess odd in a way to figure out where he is in some respects in his approach towards me. We are both VERY much unavailable romantically but I feel this persistence in the friendship if that is the appropriate term... an effort in a way still coming from this ENFP to remain consistent in my life, to ask deeper and deeper questions, and an effort at reciprocating how much I do care for him. He's just difficult to figure out, and I have this need to square up in my mind exactly where we are and who we are to each other. I feel as though I am constantly overthinking things.
I want to hear from fellow INFJs as well as ENFPs on this subject, how do you feel in forming close bonds with those of the opposite gender and how do you quantify relationships with opposite genders as adults, and define this bond between INFJ and ENFPs?
Here are some specifics:
He texts regularly, like almost daily and several times a day, even though I know he is very busy. Makes an effort to let me know when he will be unavailable and his timeline(s) for being out of pocket for swaths of time. In fact our primary communication is written which I understand to be quite difficult for him to process, but again I sense this concentrated effort coming from him to maintain communication.
As in typical INFJ fashion I give words of affirmation from a deep seeded spiritual place: I want him to know he is loved and appreciated just as he is; warmly accepted in my home and with my family. But I also don't want to overstep my boundaries and insert myself in areas I do not belong. I wait for his lead in these areas.
As I said, we are both highly unavailable, I am married so I am trying to balance being supportive, caring, a true honest to goodness friend to a man who is not my husband. But there again there is this connection which I find difficult to comprehend. He is as well unavailable but I sense this effort, and I don't want to ever lead him on or be considered out of my social mores But I do care, and in fact love him quite deeply. So I have to work consistently to reconcile this with my own internal value system. The relationship must never cross one of these internal boundaries if that makes sense.
So any and all advice is of course welcome. This is my first post here so just want to stick my toe in the water on a subject Ive been curious about for some time.
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