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I think as an INFJ grows (hopefully!) they don't have to process stuff and they're more spontaneous. also, ennegram instinct/type play into the expression of spontaneousness (<is that a word
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• I love beautiful things. especially nature / outdoors. It is very spiritual for me to be outside taking in the beauties of the earth. A beautiful sky can make me feel like my heart will overflow and explode with appreciation, aw and gratitude (on the right day). ... rain drops on roses, and all that jazz. Perfection. but cold and rain and snow, too. I love the smell honeysuckle in the air.
• Sentually ~ I love being pampered / touched. massages, pedicures, getting hair done, snuggling. I like feeling things - breezes, sunshine, water, bathes. Smelling things. Tasting things > love new/fine dining.
• Environmentally ~ I like feel like to feel like I am fluid in my world. making effortless decisions, prioritizing actions/decisions with ease, no angst ... driving to new places, packing up the kids on a moments notice for a quick trip somewhere, anywhere... the beach..., without planning or feeling anxiety over details; my mind just knowing what we'll need. -- "going with the flow", feeling like I am my estp friend. very low anxiety about traversing my outer world.
• I like practicing imperfection. If I have an ideal of how my kids bday party should/could be - I like stepping back, living in the moment, listening to my body, doing what I can, and knowing that with Love - it will be good enough. it will be wonderful. I am good enough. Low Stress. That feels good. I like leaving projects - house cleaning - or whatever it might be ~ for later. not giving into the compulsion to finish it 'all or nothing'. That feels freeing. and the key to it boils down to a self-love. and accepting reality vs the Ni-ideal I have bubbling in my brains. right?
• I like working out really hard - sweating a lot. Running is usually my go to. But in recent years I've wanted to get into more thoughtful workouts - yoga, even weigh lifting. maybe martial arts even. Its on the to-do list.
• This might be more Si -- but sometimes I decorate cakes. it drains me. but some part of me likes it. or maybe i just like it when its done.
• I want to hang-glide. I want to explore/wander around new cities. travel. hike. go. ... I think some of my more daring desires stem from my sexual-instinct.
• Taking time to worry about clothing feels like Se to me. And I am starting to get more into it lately. I enjoy it. I have found my preferred clothing items are usually -- bright (maybe even neon), comfortable (love sports attire), and structured. If its a dress, or a blouse, I like structure, not flow. Things like that I am learning about myself.
• Love driving a stick shift.
• Love being good at getting a basketball into the hoop. I've always been better than a lot of boys/men; as a kid I felt a bit smug.
• I find myself referencing movies and songs a lot - think I heard that was Se-ish 'pop-culture'-y.
• I am very 'natural' in my body language. dont tend to move/be artificial. but I think thats a 9w8, or 9w8 sx/sp, thing. I'm a little hippy-ish-bohemian-esque. I like being barefoot. no, Love being barefoot. anywhere. Have found myself kicking off my heels at church to walk the halls with my friends new fussy baby. I like the feel of it. I like grass between my toes. I like dirt. I like when my hair is sorta curly and crazy. I like feeling free.
• I can drive too fast and laugh too loud. I can be aggressive. I can have a lot of facial-freatures & physicality to my humor. I'm theoretically attracted to the performing arts
• I love feeling at-one with my environment. I love just Being. and I think these are indictive of my type-9-ness.
• I love the feel of a busy marketplace ... observing, smelling, feeling, strolling, ... no plans. no pressure. alone. a little cash in my pocket. a beautiful day. I love cities. I love sand between my toes. I love music. I love feeling alive. I love to dance. I love color.