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    14 21.88%
  • ENFJ

    14 21.88%
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    25 39.06%
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    Default Which NF type would you pick for your SO?

    While I don’t rule out any type, NFs are usually the ones I’m most attracted to. To those of you like me who adore NFs, the question here is: which one is best for a geeky INXJ or (fill in your type)?

    To narrow it down, the best friend I ever had was an ENFP, but I don’t think she would have worked for me as a girlfriend or I for her, because while she liked spending time with me one on one, she was a much more social animal. As you can imagine, she wanted to go to parties, clubs, hang out with groups of her friends, fill in the rest. I did stuff like this with her occasionally, but would have been expected to much more frequently if we were in a relationship. So I think we can be good friends, ENFPs, but you’d be bored with an INXJ geek who’s happy to spend a Friday night reading at Border’s.

    ENFJ: same problem. We could be close friends, but you’re another kind of social animal whose usually big into things like family events and all that kind of fun Fe stuff that makes me want to stand by the exit door in case I have to make a quick getaway.

    INFJ: there are real possibilities here. My last INFJ girlfriend is someone I sometimes wish I could have found a way to hold onto.

    In the end, though, INFP gets my vote because I like both the INF compatibility and J/P balance, which makes us alike but not too much alike, as long as we can strike a compromise about certain things. I have a moderate J preference, about 70%, so I think it’s workable since I’m not a J fanatic out to incarcerate your gorgeously chaotic universe into orderly rows of soulless plastic boxes and you’re not going to bury me your in “creative” messes and change our plans at the last minute more than 50% of the time.
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    Default Hope this works!

    Maybe I am a weird ENFP, but I never have the drive to go to parties and clubs. BLEHHHHH!!!! Of course, I am exuberant and love engaging people, but NOT in a setting like that. How can you have any kind of meaningful exchange (ideas, feelings, intellectual debate, or even chit chat) in a place full of glaring lights, drunk idiots, and blaring music? It's like being trapped in a virtual MTV world - a world virtually swimming in SP or some other crazy thing I do not even WANT to try to characterize.

    I don't know: traditional partying - drinking a lot, barfing, burping, and farting a lot (either with your ass or your mouth) - ain't my idea of a good time!

    Now a group of friends (small) around an open fireplace, discussing about fascinating topics or books, debating the world into a better place, expressing feelings, sharing stories, or having a movie marathon (maybe even with a discussion about the plot and characters over a bottle of wine with a cat and a dog in a wooden basket with a fleece blanket) and classical music (Baroque, Romantic, whatever - assuming there is no film on) in the background - that's a party.

    What the hell, why not throw a few stuffed animals into the mix and bring them to life and tell stories about how the dog ate so much potato salad that he farted his way to the moon! :-))) That's how I make my husband take the IXXJ out of his butt.

    But I seriously need "down" time, or else I get burnout. I work six days a week, twelve hours a day sometimes as a teacher. While it energizes me to no end (I feel better if I work 12 hours than if I work 2), I do need those times when I zone out in front of the computer, read a book, etc.

    In fact, I was also a fan of camping out at Border's in the States. That was before I got married and moved to Germany, though.
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    That's a really tough question.

    I don't know that I can answer it. Maybe infp (or a tame enfp lol).

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    I voted ENFP on the assumption she wouldn't be a slut and cheat, which I've read can be a problem for 'em. I can handle the social butterfly stuff, but infidelity = out

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    ENFP, I think. I've seen an INFJ/ENFP pairing that has lasted a long time and seems very happy.
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    I don't think I would pick another NF.

    Variety is the spice of life.

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    I think any of these types could make for a compatible SO. It all depends on personality factors and other factors outside MBTI type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silently Honest View Post
    I don't think I would pick another NF.

    Variety is the spice of life.
    Me neither. I seem to have a thing for INTPs, but if we're being hypothetical and stuff . . .
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
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    I tend to get on really well with INFJs but I don't see why I couldn't get along with ENFPs or ENFJs INFPs are too much like me, that while I can hang with them I just don't think we'd be good SOs too many similarities
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    I've never been attracted to an NF before (or an SF for that matter), and don't see it happening in the future, but INFJ would probably be most likely, since they tend to be more rational, at least in my experience. I can't ever see myself dating an FP - it would probably end in great carnage.

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