While I don’t rule out any type, NFs are usually the ones I’m most attracted to. To those of you like me who adore NFs, the question here is: which one is best for a geeky INXJ or (fill in your type)?
To narrow it down, the best friend I ever had was an ENFP, but I don’t think she would have worked for me as a girlfriend or I for her, because while she liked spending time with me one on one, she was a much more social animal. As you can imagine, she wanted to go to parties, clubs, hang out with groups of her friends, fill in the rest. I did stuff like this with her occasionally, but would have been expected to much more frequently if we were in a relationship. So I think we can be good friends, ENFPs, but you’d be bored with an INXJ geek who’s happy to spend a Friday night reading at Border’s.
ENFJ: same problem. We could be close friends, but you’re another kind of social animal whose usually big into things like family events and all that kind of fun Fe stuff that makes me want to stand by the exit door in case I have to make a quick getaway.
INFJ: there are real possibilities here. My last INFJ girlfriend is someone I sometimes wish I could have found a way to hold onto.
In the end, though, INFP gets my vote because I like both the INF compatibility and J/P balance, which makes us alike but not too much alike, as long as we can strike a compromise about certain things. I have a moderate J preference, about 70%, so I think it’s workable since I’m not a J fanatic out to incarcerate your gorgeously chaotic universe into orderly rows of soulless plastic boxes and you’re not going to bury me your in “creative” messes and change our plans at the last minute more than 50% of the time.