Hello, there. I apologize if this has been discussed before. I searched and didn't find much.
I am an INFP male in a relationship with an ENFP female and I was wondering what everyone's thoughts were on this dynamic.
The INFP and ENFP have reversed Dominant/Auxillary functions. The INFP leads with Fi/Ne, and the ENFP leads with Ne/Fi. I am an INFP with well developed Ni, and at times I feel like this leads our relationship into an almost telepathic nature. Overall, our relationship is a sucessful one, but at times there feels like there is a pretty strong communications barrier. Why is this?
Benefits I notice are that we are both very sensitive to the other's emotions. This, however, can be a hindrance, as we both at times seem to almost expect the other to read our minds. Often, I am frustrated by day to day tasks and schedules that require planning and structure. For instance, we share a car, and her schedule is never the same each week. I have to ask her almost every day if and when she is working. I never receive this information without asking. Similarly, I rarely am good at expressing my wants/needs as I often don't really know what I want/need.
I appreciate the deepness of our relationship at the emotional level, however, I sometimes find myself desiring a mate who is more organized to keep me in check. I am more J than she is, but having to do the J side of things all the time gets kind of tiring. At the same time, SJ types often (not always) annoy me with their frequently displayed inflexibility in routine. Routine annoys the crap out of me. If it's for the sake of something I enjoy, then great. Otherwise, what's the point?
Does anyone have any experience with this? What are your thoughts on general compatibility? What are your thoughts on general challenges?
Thanks for reading.