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    Default Dear INFJs, whose feelings have you hurt today?

    Noticed this happens accidentally to INFJs quite often.

    Other types maybe, make this mistake more often than INFJs.

    It is just that INFJs lament more?

    Or

    A Si failure on Riva's behalf?

    Or

    INFJs do hurt feelings quite often? (Accidentally or Deliberately)

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    I rarely hurt people's feelings on purpose... only if I'm very angry and can't contain myself, and then I usually apologize later. As far as I know, I don't often hurt people's feelings accidentally either, though it has happened once or twice.
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    Ah you have Jatzia Dax as your avatar.
    I remember you being a Star Trek DS9 fan. And I telling you how much I loved it.
    I just thought about Star Trek DS9 episode (Pale Moonlight) today.

    Lolz...

    How relevant is that to this thread? None at all.

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    By some amazing fortune, most people's impression of me is that I'm so benign, I could say almost anything and they will not take offense. But often I say stuff that I realize is stupid or possibly offensive, just I don't actually manage to offend anyone.
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    Apparently I hurt Riva's feelings today.

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    I don't really know what you're talking about. Why do you say this?
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    This is what happens to me.

    I say something in conversation that seems perfectly harmless.

    Later that night, in recalling the conversation I realize that what I said probably could have or was hurtful to the person.

    I am filled with horrible regret, because I would never want to hurt anyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    Apparently I hurt Riva's feelings today.
    Stop kidding around Peguy and be serious!

    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    This is what happens to me.

    I say something in conversation that seems perfectly harmless.

    Later that night, in recalling the conversation I realize that what I said probably could have or was hurtful to the person.

    I am filled with horrible regret, because I would never want to hurt anyone.
    See what I mean people???

    Ps -

    Recalling events of that night.
    Who does that?
    Introverts do?
    Do all introverts do this?

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    I hurt an alleged friend's feelings a few weeks ago and he unfriended me on Facebook. Fuck him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Riva
    Ps -

    Recalling events of that night.
    Who does that?
    Introverts do?
    Do all introverts do this?
    I do it an awful lot. Partly, I think this is because of Ti and Si. When I am unfamiliar with something (situations, people, information), I often go through it again and again with a fine-tooth comb. It's an important part of how INTPs learn, I think. It's basically an unconscious process. A kind of fixation that happens in the background of my mind.

    At the moment, I am facing a lot of unfamiliar people-situations so, yes, I've been recalling events a lot. I'm not so concerned that I've accidentally said something hurtful, though. I'm more concerned that I wasn't considerate enough or that I could have been friendlier or that I was remiss in some small way. I worry that I cause a whole lot of awkwardness for all parties involved. Once I convince myself that I've learnt enough about Fe things to make it all work smoothly, I'll stop feeling compelled to recall things all the time. Probably. I hope.

    You make it sound like this is completely alien to you, Riva. Is it?
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