"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
I have been deeply hurt by someone recently and been bathing myself in swamps of anger, resentment, self-pity and despair from time to time.
When I tell my story to people, they only see it as a misunderstanding, something I'm taking way too personally, I'm megasensitive, etc.
And at some moments, I see clearly and understand it is not so tragic as I take it.
Why do NFs need to feel upset so easily? What is the purpose of this, what's its usefulness?
The only logical answer I find is compassion and empathy. When an event has wounded us, we remember the feelings so vividly that whenever we see someone else suffering, we want to help and listen. Does this makes sense to you?
I have found that the moments I feel the happiest are those when I am counseling a friend and encouraging him when he opens up to me about his hardships. I am happy to help him carry the burden.
I think it has a lot to do with being able to summon a great deal of compassion and empathy for others, including strangers. As you say you are happiest when counseling a friend and encouraging him to open up about his hardships, I am happiest when I am defending the weak or encouraging people who are treated badly to stand up for themselves and be more confident.
"Sentiment without action is the ruin of the soul." - Edward Abbey
I can and never will be able to rationalize it. Ask me when I'm dead.
Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?