ladypinkington
Rubber Nipple Salesperson
- Joined
- Jul 19, 2007
- Messages
- 1,126
- MBTI Type
- INFJ
I am curious. Indulge me if you will,lol.
I have a very elaborate and well defined heirarchy system for any relationship situation- even emotional attatchments to things. I know who or what I would save in any hanging off a cliff and you can only save one scenario,lol.
I have a heirarchy for top closest people or a ranking of personal relationships- things I would grab if the house were to catch on fire-favorite and most prized possessions, even the rooms in the house are ranked, I have an emotional heirarchy system for everything,lol. There can be ties too in my system and somethings are just put in a tier,lol. Other things are very very defned one by one though,lol.
Based on the tier a person is at in my rankings of relationship also determines the budget for gifts for them. If you are an aquantance it is between nothing and 5 dollars,lol. To me, the price and thought of a gift is very deliberate and is very dependent and reflective on how close I feel to the person,lol. This also includes the time I put into and share in the relationship and how involved and interested I am in the person's lives- it is based on where they are in the closeness and ranking factor,lol.
My husband is an ENTP and is the complete opposite. A stranger that he clicks with - he'll be able to be as close to as someone he's known since high school and he'll spend the same amount of money and time on people be it aquaintance or good friend, my ESTP best friend is like that as well,lol. They have a heirarchy but it is a lot looser and not as defined and is a lot more basic.
Is this an NF thing or maybe an NFJ thing since it deals a lot with relationships? Or maybe just a basic crazy person thing?
Can anyone else relate?
I have a very elaborate and well defined heirarchy system for any relationship situation- even emotional attatchments to things. I know who or what I would save in any hanging off a cliff and you can only save one scenario,lol.
I have a heirarchy for top closest people or a ranking of personal relationships- things I would grab if the house were to catch on fire-favorite and most prized possessions, even the rooms in the house are ranked, I have an emotional heirarchy system for everything,lol. There can be ties too in my system and somethings are just put in a tier,lol. Other things are very very defned one by one though,lol.
Based on the tier a person is at in my rankings of relationship also determines the budget for gifts for them. If you are an aquantance it is between nothing and 5 dollars,lol. To me, the price and thought of a gift is very deliberate and is very dependent and reflective on how close I feel to the person,lol. This also includes the time I put into and share in the relationship and how involved and interested I am in the person's lives- it is based on where they are in the closeness and ranking factor,lol.
My husband is an ENTP and is the complete opposite. A stranger that he clicks with - he'll be able to be as close to as someone he's known since high school and he'll spend the same amount of money and time on people be it aquaintance or good friend, my ESTP best friend is like that as well,lol. They have a heirarchy but it is a lot looser and not as defined and is a lot more basic.
Is this an NF thing or maybe an NFJ thing since it deals a lot with relationships? Or maybe just a basic crazy person thing?
Can anyone else relate?