FFF
Fight For Freedom
- Joined
- Apr 24, 2007
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- 691
- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 9
I met this guy at a mini-golf place, and I ended up staying at his place until 6 in the morning. I was playing music and talking with him. Then a few days later I stayed at his place until 4 in the morning. A few days after that, he called me and was just rattling off about how people at work were yelling at him and mean to him. We were on the phone for probably twenty minutes, and he probably talked for eighteen minutes. I'm just sitting there marveling at how much of a high need for stability he has for a guy (in MBTI terms, he's an F type), and I'm thinking about how he just won't let me talk. He keeps rattling on and on about one thing and just switches to the next.
As a result of these interactions with him, I've noticed myself on overload. I just can't tolerate more time around him. After that phone call where he wouldn't let me say much, I didn't even want to pick up the phone the next morning or call him back. I was afraid the same thing was gonna happen. Then I realized it was like that with my friend David at first. Now I don't have any trouble being around him.
I think certain new people have been much easier for me to be around, like I don't remember having much trouble with my friend Vinnie or my friend Jenny. So, I guess this overstimulation problem only has to do with certain people.
I really don't have a lot of offline experience making new friends that are of any significance. So, anyway, I'm wondering if other introverts have similar experiences as these. Do certain new people cause you to be terribly overstimulated? If other yes, are there other new people that are easier to deal with?
As a result of these interactions with him, I've noticed myself on overload. I just can't tolerate more time around him. After that phone call where he wouldn't let me say much, I didn't even want to pick up the phone the next morning or call him back. I was afraid the same thing was gonna happen. Then I realized it was like that with my friend David at first. Now I don't have any trouble being around him.
I think certain new people have been much easier for me to be around, like I don't remember having much trouble with my friend Vinnie or my friend Jenny. So, I guess this overstimulation problem only has to do with certain people.
I really don't have a lot of offline experience making new friends that are of any significance. So, anyway, I'm wondering if other introverts have similar experiences as these. Do certain new people cause you to be terribly overstimulated? If other yes, are there other new people that are easier to deal with?