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    I think knowing your type can help a lot! This New Years I sat down and tried to figure out why last year had been so stressful and horrible despite finding a job, finishing projects, getting "prettier" through clothes and a haircut, etc. I found that I hadn't been nourishing my INFP self and had, in fact, been spending a lot of time talking down to myself and hiding my feelings from people. I wasn't doing anything to nourish my strengths/interests (spirituality, giving back, private reflection time, art). So maybe reading about the strengths of your type will help you realize what's missing in your life that would make you happier and more relaxed. Similarly, you can work on reducing the weaknesses that may make you more stressed out.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    Yes. It helps tremendously, especially the thought that I'm ENFP explains sooooo much. I'm happy to know that if I don't grow up to be an SJ that doesn't mean something is wrong with me, and if I don't grow up to be an NT, that doesn't mean I'm dumb.

    That's a great stress reliever by itself.
    This resonates hugely with me! Coming to embrace my personality is a long process, but I know it will be harder to be a stressed out mess if I am content within my own self.
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    Thanks for all the replies. I've been doing a little bit more reading on personality type theory (I find it difficult keeping track of the letters and jargon - dyslexia!) and it's highlighted so many things about myself that I've taken for granted and just struggled with. For example, I feel other people's feelings as if they are my own. And I'm too nice! It gets on my nerves, as if I'm constantly giving my power away even when I'm not. Hah.

    I don't know if I'm an INFJ or an INFP, but that seems like a pretty common doubt from what I've read.

    Quote Originally Posted by Kasper View Post
    Understanding your stress, what causes it, what subdues it and so on can help, understanding your type (and Enneagram) can sometimes give some specific questions or answers that help narrow that down as well as some ideas on how to avoid becoming too stressed, it does depend on the individual though. If other people are the cause of what stresses you than understanding their type can also help. Basically it's a tool that may help.

    Btw, INFJs already have a "rationalist bent".

    This link my be of help: http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...rior-injs.html
    Thank you, I'll take a look at it! When I read the type descriptions, I saw red flags waving over my areas of stress. It's a good highlighter and certainly makes me feel validated, and more accepting of myself too.

    I thought I was weak or "wrong" to feel the way I do, or to feel as much as I do.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    Yes. It helps tremendously, especially the thought that I'm ENFP explains sooooo much. I'm happy to know that if I don't grow up to be an SJ that doesn't mean something is wrong with me, and if I don't grow up to be an NT, that doesn't mean I'm dumb.

    That's a great stress reliever by itself.
    Yes! I agree. It's funny but one of the descriptions mentioned that INF types often wish they were "SP wannabes." That's definitely me, and even though you know the cliche that everyone is unique and to just be yourself... it's still just a meaningless cliche unless it clicks.

    Typology has given me quite a few clicks over the past couple of weeks. I'll be interested to read more about how it's played a role in other people's lives here on the forum.

    Quote Originally Posted by Metaphor View Post
    If you have a chance, stalk cascadeco and fidelia's posts and see if they resonate with you. Both are intelligent INFJs.

    +3 for Kasper's suggested link/read!
    I will, thank you!

    Quote Originally Posted by wildcat View Post
    You are a brave lass.
    Can knowing your type help you manage stress?
    Very much so.

    I found typology, and therefore my type, when I was bedbound. It is 25 years hence.
    A friend had bought me an open book with empty pages to fill, and pens.

    Typology helps you to make the decisions you have to make. Because finally you are able to see yourself from outside.
    Good and evil are not rational terms.
    Difference is.
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    Thanks, wildcat

    Quote Originally Posted by Mouse Army View Post
    I think knowing your type can help a lot! This New Years I sat down and tried to figure out why last year had been so stressful and horrible despite finding a job, finishing projects, getting "prettier" through clothes and a haircut, etc. I found that I hadn't been nourishing my INFP self and had, in fact, been spending a lot of time talking down to myself and hiding my feelings from people. I wasn't doing anything to nourish my strengths/interests (spirituality, giving back, private reflection time, art). So maybe reading about the strengths of your type will help you realize what's missing in your life that would make you happier and more relaxed. Similarly, you can work on reducing the weaknesses that may make you more stressed out.
    Good for you! I also found it useful seeing my strengths and weaknesses laid out in this way, and it made me realise some areas I perhaps should look at and give more of an outlet to, like my desire to be more creative or more assertively say how I feel rather than "bravely" playing it down (it isn't really bravery!)

    I might come back an ask a few more questions in the next couple of days; I'll keep checking back for replies. Thanks again!

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    No, knowing your type doesn't help you manage stress. Knowing how to manage stress, helps you manage stress. Can type give you more insight on how to manage stress? Yes, a theoretical insight. Is it enough? I don't think so. Experience with managing stress, helps you manage stress.

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    I don't think anyone has suggested typology is a way to replace stress management, just that it could help. I think the more you know about yourself (especially about your strengths and weaknesses, preferences and processes) the better you will be able to implement stress management techniques.

    As part of the standard care for teenagers with chronic conditions, I was sent to see a psychologist and (later on) I went to stress management classes that were run by the hospital. A lot of the focus was on learning about who you are, what you are like and using that knowledge to figure out what works for you. It's self-awareness, and this is especially true in my occupational therapy sessions. As many people have said in this thread, knowing yourself and having validation (such as from typology) can help a lot.

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