Patrick
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- Joined
- Aug 13, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
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- Instinctual Variant
- sx
My wife put you up to posting that, didn't she?And as I get older, I find a lot of enjoyment in sharpening those functions. I take a lot of pride in getting those functions up and running and being a good Leader. ...
Any couples dance is good. But Swing is fast and spinning (good for Se) and has lots of programmed steps to learn (good for Si); you just string them together into longer routines (Te planning).
Thanks. For some reason, though, I don't take pride in strengthening weak functions; on the contrary, I find it makes me more and more uncomfortable--pushes me into places I just don't want to go. (I just took a DISC test the other day, and I scored 99 in Cautious and about 89 in Stable, but only about 14 in Decisive and 21 in Interactive. I do not do well being the leader, taking the initiative, or pulling myself up by my bootstraps.)
All my life I've said that there are two jobs/careers I'd never want to have: farming and sales/marketing. So of course my wife gets big into gardening and starts her own business. Like it or not, if I want to be with her and be helpful, I end up doing what seems to me like farming and sales/marketing.
I've also said that there's one thing I'd never want to do for recreation: dancing. I don't see the point in it, don't much like to watch others doing it, and don't have any interest in it. The closest I come is standing up and swaying to the music at a rock concert. The few times I've actually been on a dance floor (many years ago), I was either embarrassed or drunk or both.
But my wife would like to take up dancing. She has brought it up a number of times, and once I went so far as to take her to an introductory Arthur Murray class. It went badly, though. For me it was a romantic thing, but to her it was more a way to just move and have fun. I was also clumsy; I heard the music differently than others, i guess, and I couldn't identify the strong beat I was supposed to be moving to.
We also took a tai chi class together a couple times. That was better, but I didn't have the patience for it and couldn't stick with it.
My favorite recreational activities would be long, slow, repetitious things like canoeing/kayaking, bicycling, hiking, or cross-country skiing. We've done all those things together at times, but she doesn't love them, and we're both such homebodies that we rarely seem to get around to such activities anyhow.