Kasper
Diabolical
- Joined
- May 30, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ENTP
- Enneagram
- 9w8
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
5w4 sp/so. I find it makes me a rather un-F-ish INFJ in comparison to a few of the INFJ's I know irl. I also think the enneagram in conjunction with instinctual stackings is why I tend to always test out as INTJ and relate to INT's in several ways as much as INFJ's, especially regarding relationship dynamics/issues/struggles. I could go into more detail, but I've done that in other places on here! (check out the e5 relationship thread the_state created).
Oooooh, more Sp/So's
Do you find close relationships difficult?
Trinity said:Will check out, thanx.
I wonder how that plays in other's eyes though, because of the So part, esp when mixed with being a Fe user, I expect you'd come across as quite a team player even if people are kept at arms length to a degree or are read as a bit unreachable.
Short answer... Yes?? lol.
Sp. divided on what comes next though.
Self-pres/Social
This subtype is the least volatile and fiery of the type Four stackings. They can resemble type One in terms of their efficiency and practicality. Although their focus will be more on the emotional aesthetic, these Fours do have a considerable practical side. Less flashy than some of the subtypes of Four, they nevertheless have a quiet charm and developed sense of style. They are likely to value their possessions, to perhaps collect items of personal emotional significance. They may, for instance, have shelves and shelves of books and have a place for each book. This subtype can also resemble type Six in terms of having a great deal of anxiety. This anxiety often revolves around self-pres concerns such as those surrounding health issues and mortality. Their strong self-pres instinct also lends a degree of independence to this subtype. As the sexual instinct is least pronounced, this subtype of Four is prone to romanticize intimacy without actually pursuing real relationships. When healthy, these Fours can be very productive; when less healthy they might suffer from boughts of melancholy or self pity. The strong self-pres instinct however often helps these individuals to recognize how their state of mind is impacting their health and well being. This enables them to become action oriented.
Self/Sexual
This subtype also cares very much about their surroundings and their possessions. They feel as if these things help to express who they are. There is more of a passionate sense about them as compared to the self/soc. They have more of a sensual relationship with their environment. These Fours are much more tortured by their difficulty with respect to maintaining close relationships. The self-preservational instinct tends to be in conflict with the sexual instinct, causing this subtype to habitually analyze their relationships to the point where they find it difficult to be present to them. When unhealthy, these Fours can become very disdainful of the social environment. They also start to envy the ease with which others seem to form relationships and maintain friendships. When Fours of this subtype are healthy, they find that they can form relationships without feeling as though they are sacrificing authenticity. They no longer feel that they have to automatically define themselves as "different from others," as outside the group. They are able to see the ways in which their emotionality might cloud their better judgment and to use that insight to establish equilibrium. 
As I mentioned on the SX thread, I have long assumed I was SP/SX, but have also been considering SX/SP as a possibility based upon more recent reading. SO isn't even close. The part highlighted above, however, does sound alot like me, especially when not at my best.4w5 sp/so. Dominant sp makes me very down to earth, driven towards efficiency with everything, I think, and I consider it as something positive. However, it also provides an edge to my personality, one that might not be that "nice", especially when I'm leaning towards the unhealthy spectrum at that moment. Personally, the dominant sp makes me very self-absorbed, egotistical, maybe even rigid. It gives me the drive to only take care of things on my own and refuse any help and it's possible that I might butting into the lives of people close to me as well. Because, well, I do know best.![]()
Oooooh, more Sp/So's
Do you find close relationships difficult?
Oooooh, more Sp/So's
Do you find close relationships difficult?