Which social rules do you think don't make sense?

[Earl Grey]

At least they dont stone us as much anymore.

They can stone twice as fast, but at least the medic can get to you twice as fast, too. I think it is on the whole a fair exchange. You even have double the limbs to protect yourself, too. I need to mail this world's GM explaining that this patch is one that'll balance itself.

 

[Earl Grey]

True story. some of us also like to spar. It forges a bond of some kind. On some level.

This is enjoyable, and with how PC people have been getting I can't even roughhouse without people thinking I'm out for blood now, and it's even sadder for the ladies.

Don't do that, who's gonna date you now if they know you're violent?
If only that same ridiculous standard applied to men. Weed out the broken alphas.

 

[The Cat]

This is enjoyable, and with how PC people have been getting I can't even roughhouse without people thinking I'm out for blood now, and it's even sadder for the ladies.

Don't do that, who's gonna date you now if they know you're violent?
If only that same ridiculous standard applied to men. Weed out the broken alphas.

I would. I like warrior women.

 

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

I personally find the 'firm handshake is telling of character' thing as useless and frivolous as the Chinese 'how do you eat your crabs?' measure. I suppose this can double as another contribution of mine to this thread.

I think a lot of guys give too firm handshakes and, it leaves somewhat of a negative impression on me for about 30 seconds. "Are they viewing even a simple handshake as a dick measuring exercise?" is what it makes me think.

But I think it would be silly to use that to judge a whole person based on that, and pretty soon I start using the other information I learn.

I'm not terribly convinced that you can use a handshake as a judge of character, although it doesn't surprise me that a lot of people believe that they can.

 

[Earl Grey]

I think a lot of guys give too firm handshakes and, it leaves somewhat of a negative impression on me for about 30 seconds. "Are they viewing even a simple handshake as a dick measuring exercise?" is what it makes me think.

But I think it would be silly to use that to judge a whole person based on that, and pretty soon I start using the other information I learn.

I'm not terribly convinced that you can use a handshake as a judge of character, although it doesn't surprise me that a lot of people believe that they can.

Exactly. And it backfires on them, themselves. It is the equivalent of telling the burglar exactly where your burglar alarm is located- now the thief can work around it. What does it matter what else I said? You've already assessed me as a great person based off a 1 second handshake, because I've given you exactly what you wanted.

 

[Stigmata]

I think a lot of guys give too firm handshakes and, it leaves somewhat of a negative impression on me for about 30 seconds. "Are they viewing even a simple handshake as a dick measuring exercise?" is what it makes me think.

But I think it would be silly to use that to judge a whole person based on that, and pretty soon I start using the other information I learn.

I'm not terribly convinced that you can use a handshake as a judge of character, although it doesn't surprise me that a lot of people believe that they can.

You gotta admit, though, there's a correlation between douchebaggery and people who intentionally try to shake your hand with the full force of Thanos wielding the infinity gauntlet.

 

[The Cat]

A handshake should be tailored to the person receiving it. Whenever a guy shakes my hand too firmly I send his penis a sympathy card, cause he's got be strangling the poor thing.

 

[Stigmata]

A handshake should be tailored to the person receiving it. Whenever a guy shakes my hand too firmly I send his penis a sympathy card, cause he's got be strangling the poor thing.

I always interpreted as ostentatious display of overcompensation.

 

[Earl Grey]

I always interpreted as ostentatious display of overcompensation.

A handshake should be tailored to the person receiving it. Whenever a guy shakes my hand too firmly I send his penis a sympathy card, cause he's got be strangling the poor thing.

How do the ladies overcompensate?

 

[The Cat]

How do the ladies overcompensate?

They breathe fire of course.

 

[Tellenbach]

I have a firm grip; I once got an "owww" from a dude when I shook his hand in some creative drama exercise; there was even some crackling sound. I'm sorry but some of you have weak hands.

The one social rule/expectation I dislike is wearing ties to job interviews; I hate ties because they're uncomfortable.

 

[The Cat]

I always interpreted as ostentatious display of overcompensation.

 

[Earl Grey]

They breathe fire of course.

You've got wonderful ladies.

 

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

I have a firm grip; I once got an "owww" from a dude when I shook his hand in some creative drama exercise; there was even some crackling sound. I'm sorry but some of you have weak hands.

I broke my wrist.

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You gotta admit, though, there's a correlation between douchebaggery and people who intentionally try to shake your hand with the full force of Thanos wielding the infinity gauntlet.

Sometimes, not always, though.

 

[anticlimatic]

I think a lot of guys give too firm handshakes and, it leaves somewhat of a negative impression on me for about 30 seconds. "Are they viewing even a simple handshake as a dick measuring exercise?" is what it makes me think. But I think it would be silly to use that to judge a whole person based on that, and pretty soon I start using the other information I learn. I'm not terribly convinced that you can use a handshake as a judge of character, although it doesn't surprise me that a lot of people believe that they can.

It's a reliable metric for measuring the strength of character, will, and physicality of whoever you're meeting. I aim to crush any mans hand I shake, but I hold back for women- unless they surprise me with something other than the usual limp burrito. I don't often expect women to be strong in any of those ways.

If firm handshakes are painful for people, I recommend growing a pair and squeezing as hard as you can yourself- it doesn't hurt if you put some effort into it. Muscle rigidity and whatnot.

 

[Doctor Cringelord]

It's a reliable metric for measuring the strength of character, will, and physicality of whoever you're meeting. I aim to crush any mans hand I shake, but I hold back for women- unless they surprise me with something other than the usual limp burrito. I don't often expect women to be strong in any of those ways.

If firm handshakes are painful for people, I recommend growing a pair and squeezing as hard as you can yourself- it doesn't hurt if you put some effort into it. Muscle rigidity and whatnot.

Yes, I have gotten accustomed to limp towel grips from women and 12000 psi vice grips from men. Neither are particularly pleasant; there must be a happy medium.

 

[Schrödinger's Name]

How could I have forgotten. That in some cultures, doing things with your left hand, using it at all, is horrendously impolite and the person can look at you like you just stabbed their mother in front of them if you do something with / take something from them with your left hand.

These cultures! One PERFECTLY GOOD LIMB rendered useless!

In some cultures, it's more polite and socially acceptable to talk behind people's backs than in front of them. Bah!

In some cultures, you have to call people by honorifics if they are different ages, immediately creating a power imbalance off the bat.

Isn't that because they wipe their butt with their left hand?

About the 'honorifics'... This doesn't exist in English anymore, but as English people used to say 'thou' = informal and 'you' = formal. My ex, she had to use 'you' to address her parents. I was truly shocked when she told me that, they are your parents??

I even asked her to please... not to address my parents with the formal 'you' since that would make things awkward.

In The Netherlands they are much more focused on these 'civil' pronouns, when you're young and you're talking to an older person. As a form of 'respect'. Well... Let me tell you that first of all I don't have to respect you just because you are older. And... just no, I won't use it. It makes me uncomfortable, my respect is not enforceable (through language). But some older people really become 'angry' when you don't use 'you' because it's 'disrespectful'. They have to give you permission to use the informormal 'you'. (well good buddy, I surely don't respect you anymore now, go cry about it in a corner)

What's kinda funny is that even though we speak the same language, in Belgium we use a different word for 'you'. So in some way... I felt more comfortable talking to her mother like that, but the idea that my girlfriend had to use 'you' made me feel very awkward... Since I just didn't do it and it would've been stupid if her mother perceived me as impolite because of that. And it weirds me out when people address me with 'you'... Just behave like a normal human being, I am begging you please. :') It makes me feel so old.

 

[anticlimatic]

Yes, I have gotten accustomed to limp towel grips from women and 12000 psi vice grips from men. Neither are particularly pleasant; there must be a happy medium.

Most of the reason I go for the crush is purely for 'best defense is a good offense' reasons.

 

[Coriolis]

Isn't that because they wipe their butt with their left hand?

I knew a left-handed person who lived in Indonesia for several years and had terrible trouble on that account. That was the first time I had heard of such customs.

About the 'honorifics'... This doesn't exist in English anymore, but as English people used to say 'thou' = informal and 'you' = formal. My ex, she had to use 'you' to address her parents. I was truly shocked when she told me that, they are your parents?? In The Netherlands they are much more focused on these 'civil' pronouns, when you're young and you're talking to an older person. As a form of 'respect'. Well... Let me tell you that first of all I don't have to respect you just because you are older. And... just no, I won't use it. It makes me uncomfortable, my respect is not enforceable (through language). But some older people really become 'angry' when you don't use 'you' because it's 'disrespectful'. They have to give you permission to use the informormal 'you'. (well good buddy, I surely don't respect you anymore now, go cry about it in a corner)

I do appreciate that modern English lacks such distinctions. The flip side is also true, though. Just as you don't need to use honorifics or a formal "you" to show or feel respect, you can use them without feeling any shred of respect for the recipient. What this means is all we can enforce with such language is the show of respect, not the actual attitude. That must be earned on a case by case basis. All that being said, I can be bothered by excessive familiarity. It's not that I desire the show of respect that more formal interaction brings, more that I find it a convenient and generally accepted way to keep one's distance, unless dealing with close friends.

 

[Firebird 8118]

I knew a left-handed person who lived in Indonesia for several years and had terrible trouble on that account. That was the first time I had heard of such customs.

Ouch, that sucks.

I'm the only left-handed person in my family, as far as I know. I haven't been forced to use my right hand or anything, I just always thought it was weird that I couldn't use my right hand well...

Also, sometimes when I'm helping Mom in the kitchen I have to turn the pan/pot handle in the opposite direction that she kept it (just makes it convenient for me as a leftie). And then she gives me an odd look like "OMG why are you like this you're doing this in reverse". We end up laughing though, so it's all good.