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  • 10 - About as happy as a person can be

    2 6.06%
  • 9 - I'm very happy

    1 3.03%
  • 8 - The significant majority of time, I'm very happy

    6 18.18%
  • 7 - I'm pretty happy but not always

    6 18.18%
  • 6 - I'm happy about some things in my life but there are things that I'm unhappy about

    7 21.21%
  • 5. I'm not happy or unhappy - just in the middle

    5 15.15%
  • 4. I'm more unhappy than happy

    2 6.06%
  • 3. I'm mostly unhappy

    1 3.03%
  • 2. I'm pretty darn unhappy

    2 6.06%
  • 1. I'm very unhappy

    1 3.03%
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    Quote Originally Posted by KDude View Post
    What's with the threads today? "What causes happiness?" "The truth about love"..
    Two interesting thread topics in a day. Unbelieveable.

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    Often ive found happiness comes from perspective. Once I change the perspective it often helps to change the problem. And once ive changed the problem ive changed the perspective and I revel in the new angle of happiness I have found.....at least for a brief time.

    So I suppose this goes along with the idea of needing some kind of constant progress, (regardless of how large or small it is), because to me life is a constant stream of changing perceptions.

    When im unhappy it is often because ive forgotten or missed an angle that I should have considered. Of course once found it is like an old friend you didn't know you had.
    'One of (Lucas) Cranach's masterpieces, discussed by (Joseph) Koerner, is in it's self-referentiality the perfect expression of left-hemisphere emptiness and a precursor of post-modernism. There is no longer anything to point to beyond, nothing Other, so it points pointlessly to itself.' - Iain McGilChrist

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    "Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
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    I have been feeling quite content lately. I am moving in a direction I would like to be moving in. That was the thing that was causing me the most bummed-out feelings. Now I don't feel so bummed out, so default I guess is content. I have enough food, a nice bed, kind family, thoughtful people in my life. So what causes it? I guess a bunch of factors.

    But yeah, maybe it does boil down to gratitude and sense of autonomy.
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.

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    One thing that occurred to me as I was listening to this guy is that he talked about habitual thought patterns and just having awareness of those patterns is very helpful. That's what Enneagram is about.

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    I agree with OP and what I'm hearing in the video. The pursuit of happiness frequently compensates for dissatisfaction, bumping us up to stability. When I'm drained in giving my happiness, I'm not actually giving anything. Sharing true happiness is also the production and maintenance of happiness.

    On a scale of 1 to 10? I'm about a 6. I've been a cynic but I'm making a conscious effort to think in terms of what is affirmative. Being an assertive voice and being a voice of dissent are two sides of the same coin.

    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    One thing that occurred to me as I was listening to this guy is that he talked about habitual thought patterns and just having awareness of those patterns is very helpful. That's what Enneagram is about.

    Yes. I'm curious. If you've made an effort to be aware of the thought patterns, what results do you have?

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    I'd say I'm a 9

    Not that I never get unhappy, but I gravitate towards positive energy and am repelled by negative energy. So even if a situation makes me very sad or depressed, the status quo leans back to happy.

    It's kind of like a spring for me, really. You can compress it but it isn't going to stay there if you let it go.

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    My unhappiness drives me towards happiness.

    If I was happy clappy all the time, I'd loose my edge, I'd stop looking, I'd stop feeling, I would find nothing new. My unhappiness is my greatest gift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ginkgo View Post
    Yes. I'm curious. If you've made an effort to be aware of the thought patterns, what results do you have?
    Less nerves in some situations. Less critical of myself in some situations. Realizing I prepare for the worst possible thing that can happen when it is extremely unlikely. Basically moderates some of those thought patterns. They are small incremental steps though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    Less nerves in some situations. Less critical of myself in some situations. Realizing I prepare for the worst possible thing that can happen when it is extremely unlikely. Basically moderates some of those thought patterns. They are small incremental steps though.
    Do you wind up any happier?

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    8 - I would consider happiness as more situational and personality anchored.
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    1- Could be the opposite for some people, or the difference between helping people one on one or in a group.
    2- Could be a 50/50 split between giving and receiving.
    3- Sounds good.
    4- Unfortunately, the Richard Kuklinski thought process works poorly with most church people who tend to fall into the touchy feely grouping .
    5- Agree.
    I can also be cynical, sarcastic, nit-picky, pessimistic and critical over situations while still being happy. I sometimes get the feeling that many preachers try to fit too large a group into a small box while attempting to lobotomize every one else (pity the wife having to drive home with me every Sunday after church).

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