I dont think they failed me in anyway, I do wish that I'd grown up in a dry household or one in which my parents if they took a drink recognised a very clear, clear trade off, ie if I take a drink I will not converse with anyone, there where far, far too many arguments between siblings or between parents which where badly mediated, escalated or caused which where forgotten just the next day which could have and should have been avoided altogether.
I think that I've been fine but then I'm aware that I relied on uncles too for a good bit, became an avid reader, with a particular interest from as early as eleven, in analytical perspectives, mainly politics and sociology, while it was pretty blinkered and authoritarian to begin with it effectively meant that I developed some insights, appreciation and gratitude for what I had warts and all, and I mean that in a much more than materialist sense.
My siblings have perhaps different experiences, I know that one of them closely mirrored the behaviour, expectations and travils which his friends or popular culture represented to him.
The third child, my sister, is pretty much lost, she's a self-absorbed adult who I think had a crisis and started drinking really early, like not left school and possibly around about sixteen or there abouts.
The very youngest is very responsible, very organised, very out going and pretty resilient in the sense that he does not get stressed by challenges, unfamiliar situations or new tasks. He's undertaken long trips in my mum's car without anyone else who is a driver (I dont believe that you can be a useful co-pilot or give directions unless you are)which I would have been concerned about (although perhaps not shown).