My mother is the same way when it comes to accepting the truth about herself and her situations in life. 8 and 9 both have inner-resistance. My mother will even lie and say she doesn't understand things that she can understand, to avoid the topic, and therefore avoid responsibility or the acceptance that there are any negatives or problems at all. I've been unhealthy, gone through a living hell, figured out how to solve it, and done so, and she's still in the stage of trying to accept that there ever was a problem at all. Boy, what help she was.