I long for many things, and they are not always related to one particular person, people in general, or relationships. I was trying to find a word to match my feelings once and I googled and found hiraeth. I experience that feeling so much. Many times, or maybe almost all of the times, my inner world, my safe place, my imagination get-away is constructed around whatever/whoever I'm currently longing for. It's like, I might not even really care that much about having whatever it is, but I just need something to daydream about. So, I'm comfortable in my longing. I don't know if this is a 4 thing for sure.
I would like to ask 4's how they figured out their wing. I have tested both ways and even tested to have equally balanced wings. I feel like I can see myself being both ways in different times/moods/situations. I can't figure out if my tritype is 468 or 469 either. Again, I can be both ways. Anyways, I'm not asking you to analyze me and figure out my type. I'm asking what resources or particular areas of the descriptions helped you to determine yours.
Also, does everyone feel that way about their enneagram descriptions, or do a lot of sites just make 4s sound really awful?