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[Type 2] Type 2 Enneagram Profile

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Enneatype Two

Type Description

People of Enneatype Two are essentially related to other people, and they relate to them from a standpoint of helpfulness. Twos have a built in radar for what the other might need, and they see themselves as the correct person for satisfying that need. This places Twos, even though they are serving others, in a sort of “one up” position with respect to those they are serving. Twos see themselves as being not only strong enough to care for themselves, but able to care for others as well. They want to occupy a central position in the lives of chosen others, and they accomplish this by being “indispensable.” From the standpoint of the Two, it is always others who are needy and dependent, not the Two. In reality, the situation is a bit more complex, as Twos also have needs. They need to be appreciated; they need to be needed; they need to receive a considerable amount of attention and gratitude.

Twos are warm people. They are emotionally demonstrative and are generally comfortable with the physical expression of emotions. They place a very high value on their personal relationships and devote an enormous amount of time and energy to them. They tend to be practical people who thrive in the “hands on” helping professions such as teaching, nursing and counseling. Metaphorically speaking, the Two is not afraid of rolling up the sleeves and getting the hands dirty. Twos are also drawn to the role of parent – specifically what we traditionally think of as the more nurturing, mothering role. This is true whether the Two is male or female, although these qualities will typically be societally reinforced in female Twos and somewhat suppressed in males.

Twos are often seductive in their presentation. This might seem at odds with the description of Twos as being “mothering,” but both seductiveness and nurturing are manifestations of the same unconsciously manipulative desire to find a way to engage the other’s attention. Seductive Twos are often performers or entertainers; they simultaneously give their performance while receiving the adulation of their audience. Twos who adopt the seductive approach are often competitive with members of the same sex and jealous of those they deem more desirable. This competitiveness is at cross purposes with the Two’s desire to be admired for virtue however, so the Two tends to keep this dynamic in check and is frequently unaware of its existence.

It is entirely true that Twos are other oriented individuals who provide a great deal of nurturing and support to those in their charge. The Two’s self-image of being giving and helpful is not at all without merit. Twos often serve as the social “glue” which, for instance, keeps the office staff informed of everyone’s birthday – they are the ones who pass the cards around for others to sign. They are the ones who make sure that large families get together for reunions – they cook the food and strongly encourage everyone to attend. In an increasingly fractured society, they are often the ones working indefatigably to make sure that everyone is cared for.

The dark side of type Two revolves around their frequently unacknowledged need for appreciation. Twos don’t simply give; they give to get. And what they want in return for their service is the undying gratitude of those that they serve and to have their self-image as being loving and selfless reenforced. They tend to overestimate the nature and extent of what they have given however, so that the ledger of debit and credit always seems to remain in the Two’s favor. Twos tend to feel that, because they have extended themselves for others, gratitude is actually owed to them; they are entitled to it. When they don’t receive what they feel is owed them, they can become bossy and manipulative, feeling entirely justified in being so, because they “have earned the right” and because their intentions are good. When Twos become truly unhealthy, they begin to fear that the love and appreciation that they so deeply desire will never materialize. Under such circumstances they can become hysterical, irrational and even abusive.

Unhealthy Two energy can sometimes manifest in what is known as the classic co-dependent personality. Such Twos actively encourage dependencies in others so that they can feel needed. These are the Twos who are so solicitous of their children that their children are never allowed to grow up. They subtly encourage weakness in their spouses and friends. They want others to be weak so that they can feel strong and so that their ties to their intimates will remain uncut. Other Twos, when unhealthy, become dependent themselves. They find themselves the victim of a host of physical ailments which make them unable to care for themselves. Such Twos, then, require that others pay them back for all that they have done. Nothing is ever enough.

In the traditional Enneagram, Twos are believed to manifest the vice of “pride.” Pride, in this context, seems to be a technical term which indicates that the Two has, and needs to maintain, a distorted image of him or herself as being good, kind and loving. The Two will strive to maintain this self-image even in the face of enormous evidence to the contrary – and if the Two is unhealthy, there will be plenty of evidence to the contrary. Ichazo describes this psychic mechanism as ego-flat (ego-flattery). Sometimes this term is construed as indicating that the Two is prone to flattering others. Twos sometimes do flatter others, but, as the Two’s underlying program is “to give in order to get,” the ego most in need of flattering here is actually the Two’s. Being unlovable is the Two’s deepest fear, and Twos generally will simply not allow into their consciousness any evidence that contradicts their positive self-image as being loving and giving. Unhealthy Twos then, are masters in the art of self-deception and something of this quality attaches to all Twos who have not consciously worked to see through it.

Twos are likely to object that they do not in fact “give to get.” They give out of the fullness of their hearts. There is indeed some truth to this, but it is only a partial truth. Twos are not consciously aware of their need for appreciation, of their need to be needed. And it is true that when they give, they are fully attending to the other person; they are trying to be helpful. Because they are focusing on others, they are, and tend to remain, unaware of their own neediness, while those in the Two’s life will often be very much aware that the Two’s giving is not entirely selfless. The truth is that the Two’s program of “giving to get” is, like all of the Enneagram programs, largely unconscious. One of the benefits of learning the Enneagram, perhaps the central benefit, is that it can enable us all to become more aware of the unconscious agendas that underlie much of our behavior and determine much of our fate.

Healthy Twos are truly loving and gentle. They offer the love and support that all human beings consciously or unconsciously need in order to be whole. The religions of the East pay homage to this ideal in the image of the boddhisatva, who renounces entering into Nirvana so long as even one sentient being remains in the realm of suffering. Kwan Yin, the boddhisatva whose compassion inspired the Chinese for centuries, was undoubtedly a Two. A good case could be made for typing Jesus of Nazareth as a Two as well. His love of children, the helpless, the downtrodden and overburdened is, at the very least, reminiscent of type Two energy.(Perhaps this represnts Christianity’s way of paying the often unappreciated Feminine principle its proper respect. Only a feminine divinity wishes for the meek to inherit the earth.)

Twos with a One wing tend to be more emotionally restrained than those with a Three wing and are frequently attracted to causes as well as people. Something of the idealism of type One attaches to their giving. They can become self-righteous if they are unbalanced or don’t receive the appreciation which is their due. Twos with the Three wing are more expansive, ambitious and image oriented than those with a Two wing. They are frequently competitive but are also extremely generous with their time and energy.

Type Exemplars

Many of the saints in the Catholic pantheon are undoubtedly Twos, but Mary Magdalene stands out in this regard (but not Jesus’ mother who was likely a Nine). While all others were looking to Jesus as their savior, Mary recognized that Jesus was tired and in need of a bath. More recently, Mother Teresa is frequently cited as a Two.

The recently deceased playwright (and feminist) Wendy Wassertstein was a Two. In her obituary, the New York Times bemoaned the fact that, in addition to losing a talented author, New York City had lost a genuinely nice person.

Monica Lewinsky: her “giving” nature almost brought down a government.

As indicated above, many performers are Twos. One such is Dolly Parton. Billie Holiday is another. On the road, she was always the one who sewed and cooked for others. She was everyone’s confidant and protector, even as she neglected her own needs. Also, John Denver.

Comedians Bill Cosby and Will Ferrell are also Twos, as are actors John Ritter, Kathy Bates and Alan Alda.

Some Twos turn their compassion to larger social causes. Archbishop Desmond Tutu was one such; he frequently reminded his followers of the need for reconciliation even in the darkest of times.

Some Twos combine their capacity for nurturing with a well developed intellect and utilize the latter in service of the former. The pediatrician and child advocate T. Berry Brazeleton is one such example. His books have been designed to provide comfort for children and their mothers alike. James Dobson is another specialist in child psychology whose One wing and connection to Eight is quite apparent.

Famous chefs Emeril Lagasse and Julia Child are Twos, and many Twos do, in fact, love to cook.

Not all Twos have a profession that one might think typical. Consider Magic Johnson for instance. Comedian – Wayne Brady.

Fictional examples include Sesame Street’s, Big Bird, Star Trek’s Dr. McCoy and Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond. Marie exemplifies the classic “Jewish mother” syndrome without actually being Jewish.

Possible Mistypes

Twos can mistype as Ones, especially if the wing is strong. Male Twos are somewhat more likely than female Twos to mistype in this way as type Two qualities are typically encouraged more in females than males. Twos are more feeling oriented and emotionally demonstrative than Ones however; Ones are more likely to be motivated by principles of abstract justice and are far more emotionally restrained than Twos.

Twos and Threes can cross-type, especially when the wing is strong. Again, it is more likely for a male Two to mistype in this fashion. Threes, however, are far more oriented to competency issues than are Twos and can much more readily put their emotions on hold, when necessary, in order to get the job done. In addition, Threes tend to be more ambitious and focused on their personal concerns than the is more other oriented Two.

Twos might mistype as Four, especially, if they have artistic inclinations or believe themselves to be depressive. These qualities are not confined to Four however. In general, Fours are much more withdrawn and introspective than is the other focused Two who is frequently unaware of underlying motivations.

Twos and Fives are not likely to mistype. Such a mistype could occur if the Two was “intellectual.” It is not uncommon for Twos to be attracted to teaching and some intelligent Twos are successful academics. Intellectual Twos who mistype as Five however, are likely unaware of how deeply motivated they are by the desire to serve others. Fives pursue knowledge for its own sake, and while they might very much enjoy teaching, they tend to keep some distance between themselves and others. Twos are far more emotionally expressive and drawn to service than is the more reclusive and withdrawn Five.

Twos and Sixes commonly mistype, although it is more common for the Six, especially if female, to mistype as a Two than the reverse. But Sixes suffer from ambivalence, whereas Twos generally know exactly how they feel and what they want. Sixes are far more likely to suffer from self-doubt than is the more self-assured Two.

Twos and Sevens are both generally extroverted and generous and can sometimes crosstype. But Twos are primarily feeling oriented whereas the more mercurial Sevens are oriented to thinking. Twos are far more helpful to others than is the more self oriented Seven; Twos are more likely to follow through on promises of aid whereas Sevens have sometimes “moved on.” Twos are primarily oriented towards their relationships; Sevens towards their activities.

Twos can be quite bossy and could conceivably mistype as Eight. But Twos are far more emotionally vulnerable than is the much tougher Eight and Twos only resort to bossiness under stress and when less direct methods fail to produce the desired results. Twos are far more likely to engage in manipulative behavior than are Eights who are up front about where they stand and what they want.

Twos and Nines might cross-type, although it is far more likely for Nines, especially those who identify with a nurturing role, to mistype as Twos, than for the reverse to occur. But Nines are self-effacing and humble; Twos are proud and have a strong sense of their self worth. Twos under stress become domineering; Nines under stress tend to withdraw. Twos are quite strong willed; Nines struggle with self-assertion.
 
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Intellectual Twos who mistype as Five however, are likely unaware of how deeply motivated they are by the desire to serve others.

Aaaaand I think I just discovered why I often score as a 5w4 on Enneagram tests. I am nerdy and introverted, but I do not have the detachment 5s have.
 

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Some Twos combine their capacity for nurturing with a well developed intellect and utilize the latter in service of the former. The pediatrician and child advocate T. Berry Brazeleton is one such example. His books have been designed to provide comfort for children and their mothers alike. James Dobson is another specialist in child psychology whose One wing and connection to Eight is quite apparent.​

That's interesting. Even more so, since I want to specialize in children psychology in my Master's degree :)
 

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I am a 2. I definitely relate to the description of 2's. I was a caregiver of my sick mom before she died when I was a teenager and I definitely want to be loved. I havr noticed that 2's can rely get a bad rap for not respecting others boundaries and for being manipulative at times. I wish I could honestly say that I had never overstepped a boundary or been even the teensy bit manipulative, but that would not be true. When I was younger (I'm now in my 30's) I used to be oblivious to my boundaries and other people's. I would see someone sad or in need and just want to help any way that I could. I think I have grown a lot in that now I realize often it is better to let someone figure something out on their own and grow, instead of rushing in to "help" (especially when not asked) all of the time. I think the enneagram really helped me to see that I am me and totally separate from others. Also, that being separate is not at all a bad thing. I am a bit of an odd two in that I have always liked my alone time and have always been introspective. I definitely had a big issue with not taking care of my own needs and even "giving to get" for a while (although I did it unconsciously). I think each of the 9 types have a lot to learn from the others and I do believe that there is no "right" way, just different.

Edit:I am on my phone, so please excuse the typos, etc.
 
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All twos are the ones to kiss the bottom of your boot.

They are number one enneagram to end up stabbinf someone in the back and they are not to be messed with, declared armed and dangerous despite being cuddly
 

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Twos are warm people. They are emotionally demonstrative and are generally comfortable with the physical expression of emotions. They place a very high value on their personal relationships and devote an enormous amount of time and energy to them. They tend to be practical people who thrive in the “hands on” helping professions such as teaching, nursing and counseling. Metaphorically speaking, the Two is not afraid of rolling up the sleeves and getting the hands dirty. Twos are also drawn to the role of parent – specifically what we traditionally think of as the more nurturing, mothering role. This is true whether the Two is male or female, although these qualities will typically be societally reinforced in female Twos and somewhat suppressed in males.

Twos are often seductive in their presentation. This might seem at odds with the description of Twos as being “mothering,” but both seductiveness and nurturing are manifestations of the same unconsciously manipulative desire to find a way to engage the other’s attention. Seductive Twos are often performers or entertainers; they simultaneously give their performance while receiving the adulation of their audience. Twos who adopt the seductive approach are often competitive with members of the same sex and jealous of those they deem more desirable. This competitiveness is at cross purposes with the Two’s desire to be admired for virtue however, so the Two tends to keep this dynamic in check and is frequently unaware of its existence.

It is entirely true that Twos are other oriented individuals who provide a great deal of nurturing and support to those in their charge. The Two’s self-image of being giving and helpful is not at all without merit. Twos often serve as the social “glue” which, for instance, keeps the office staff informed of everyone’s birthday – they are the ones who pass the cards around for others to sign. They are the ones who make sure that large families get together for reunions – they cook the food and strongly encourage everyone to attend. In an increasingly fractured society, they are often the ones working indefatigably to make sure that everyone is cared for.

This makes me wonder if my 2 is my core or my fix, because all of this doesn't really sound like me at all from an everyday viewpoint. I care but I am not very physical and practical in demonstrating my care; I care from a theoretical manner, and use words more so than gift giving and such. I am definitely not the kind of person to go around the office serving cupcakes for coworkers who are depressed about something, or making them sign a birthday card. It's just not me at all. At most, I'll pitch in and buy the birthday dude/chick a nice cake that I got for cheap at a nearby bakery, and that's it.

I'm surprisingly non-seductive in real life, and I'm a bad flirt on top of that. :blush: The only person I mother is my husband and its just because I love him a lot and want to make sure he is okay. I am rarely, if ever, jealous of other women. Hmm. This is interesting.
 

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haha now I get why that one person mistyped me as a 6!
 

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This makes me wonder if my 2 is my core or my fix, because all of this doesn't really sound like me at all from an everyday viewpoint. I care but I am not very physical and practical in demonstrating my care; I care from a theoretical manner, and use words more so than gift giving and such. I am definitely not the kind of person to go around the office serving cupcakes for coworkers who are depressed about something, or making them sign a birthday card. It's just not me at all. At most, I'll pitch in and buy the birthday dude/chick a nice cake that I got for cheap at a nearby bakery, and that's it.

I'm surprisingly non-seductive in real life, and I'm a bad flirt on top of that. :blush: The only person I mother is my husband and its just because I love him a lot and want to make sure he is okay. I am rarely, if ever, jealous of other women. Hmm. This is interesting.

I totes relate to this. Well, maybe except wanting to mother my husband :huh:

But ya, I'd say the way I tend to give or show my appreciation of others is through words. If they come to me with a problem, I will stop whatever I am doing and help them work out their problems with them. Or, even just listen if they need an ear. There is a sliding scale to this effort I give to others though, and that depends on how much the person means to me. If it's just an acquaintance, I'd still lend them an ear, but my attention span won't be as generous and my mind will start to wander.

I don't do the cupcake thing or dole out gestures in the physical sense so much. I think that's why I first saw it hard to identify with being a 2 since it sounded too much like a physical giving to me. Though, I realize now that I DO give, but it's through my words as you do.

I too wonder where 2 sits within me. I also highly identify with 7w6, so whether I'm a 2 fix or core, yo no se :shrug:
 

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All twos are the ones to kiss the bottom of your boot.

They are number one enneagram to end up stabbinf someone in the back and they are not to be messed with, declared armed and dangerous despite being cuddly

Omg ur rite
 

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In case you haven't noticed my enneagram lately :newwink:

Still determining whether I'm a 27x or a 72x though, but I am a two!

haha, then let's get it on homeboy!!

What I love about 2s (the person I think is it a two, I mean) is that she is not a passive person. Sure, she is sensitive but she has a zest/drive that I do not have.
I love it like it's iced tea <3
 

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So much of this is spot on for me! Wow, even some of the darker traits are recognizable. That's hard to say, that there are dark parts to who I am. I guess we really are a dichotomy of both light and dark, good and evil.
 

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The bit about 2 vs 7 was interesting to read:

Twos and Sevens are both generally extroverted and generous and can sometimes crosstype. But Twos are primarily feeling oriented whereas the more mercurial Sevens are oriented to thinking. Twos are far more helpful to others than is the more self oriented Seven; Twos are more likely to follow through on promises of aid whereas Sevens have sometimes “moved on.” Twos are primarily oriented towards their relationships; Sevens towards their activities.

^ I often am tricked (by my 2w1 pride and idealism) that I have an endless store of thankless patience and care that I'm able to provide to others. I take on big emotional tasks with confidence that I have what it takes to handle it. After it causes too much pain or is consuming too much of my time though, Dom 7w6 takes over and I'm done. What's worse is that with cerebral nature of 7, I often do so in a very self assured and somewhat cold fashion. Sorry buddy I gotta take care of me, gotta go. I've tried to take my pride in my ability to love and nurture without bounds down a few notches and respect the core seven that I know is there.
 

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Omg ur rite

Mhm. I got an ESFJ 2w3 soc friend that comes to mind. He's great when he's great but oh goodness when shit goes down it gets ugly fast with him.
 

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Mhm. I got an ESFJ 2w3 soc friend that comes to mind. He's great when he's great but oh goodness when shit goes down it gets ugly fast with him.

Yeah I can believe that readily. Pretty much it's great where everything works out super cool, but once there are disagreements forget it, hello out group whether you two are alone or even worse a group group. Social isolation at its finest. ExFJ's are masters at making people feel like shit for the uninitiated into experience and unbridled sensitivity.
 

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I have always wanted to be of service to others. That is why I'm a type 2w3.;)
 

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The bit about 2 vs 7 was interesting to read:

Twos and Sevens are both generally extroverted and generous and can sometimes crosstype. But Twos are primarily feeling oriented whereas the more mercurial Sevens are oriented to thinking. Twos are far more helpful to others than is the more self oriented Seven; Twos are more likely to follow through on promises of aid whereas Sevens have sometimes “moved on.” Twos are primarily oriented towards their relationships; Sevens towards their activities.

^ I often am tricked (by my 2w1 pride and idealism) that I have an endless store of thankless patience and care that I'm able to provide to others. I take on big emotional tasks with confidence that I have what it takes to handle it. After it causes too much pain or is consuming too much of my time though, Dom 7w6 takes over and I'm done. What's worse is that with cerebral nature of 7, I often do so in a very self assured and somewhat cold fashion. Sorry buddy I gotta take care of me, gotta go. I've tried to take my pride in my ability to love and nurture without bounds down a few notches and respect the core seven that I know is there.

Interesting way of describing it. Never thought 7s can go with 2. Or vice versa. I think I read something about 2's pride... but isn't 2w3 more prideful (narcissistic?) than 2w1? 2w1 may be more pragmatic, more accurate in assessing how much they're capable of? Just thinking...
 

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I hate 2s, only because I can't be one because the descriptions suck, but I want to be one because the motivation resonates with me.
 
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