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Anger?

LightSun

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INFP
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#9
“When one is angry they feel a perceived attack of themselves or what they stand for. It is however an illusion.

All anger and negative emotions have hidden cognitive distortions. A person gets triggered by reality or another person and lashes out against a perceived slight of self or what one stands for and believes.

Underneath all the anger are unresolved issues, unconscious conflicts, emotional baggage, and aspects of a unhealed psychic wound.

It is not the situation or person making you angry. It is your own distortions. You are triggered and now is an excellent chance to heal and grow.

The usual path is to lash out with anger because one is triggered. Instead reflect and handle the situation with reason. It is the only way to heal from this aspect of your soul which is unhealed.

If you react as you usually do, you will continue to be triggered in this soft spot of your psyche.

The only way to grow is to not react in the usual unhealthy way but to act with the level head of reason. Stop blaming people and reality for your own emotions.

No one can make you angry. They can only trigger you. If you react with the usual anger you are protecting your own ego. To rise above the ego incorporates handling situations in a more healthy, and adult reasonable manner.” LightSun
 

LightSun

Member
Joined
Aug 9, 2009
Messages
992
MBTI Type
INFP
Enneagram
#9
“Any negative emotion unless one is in extreme physical pain or in a fight or flight situation has distortions of thought in the unconscious.

It is like a psychic wound that warps a persons perception of reality. There are cognition errors all associated with the initial pain.

It is a time where one can reassess how to deal with the situation in a more beneficial and rational manner rather than resorting to being triggered and acting out.

Those who project their anger unto the world by blaming others or reality for their emotions are pollution. They don’t take responsibility for their own emotions. Instead they react, and blindly.

They further don’t acknowledge that even if the situation or person other than the self is not entirely beneficial, they themselves have an unconscious issue.

They may not be able to change reality or the other person but they can grow and learn how to deal with the situation more rationally.

It os a crossroad. Those that continue to project their issues unto the world will never grow or mature. Neither psychologically, emotionally or spiritually.

Those that take responsibility for their own emotions, thoughts and independent actions despite external stressors ultimately grow, heal and mature.

This is the psychology field. CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) has identified 10 cognitive distortions that are always present within negative emotions.

REBT (rational emotive behavior therapy) has identified 11 irrational beliefs present in negative emotions.

They are present in the subconscious. If people were aware of this, they then could take responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings and actions.

This instead of blindly and negatively reacting and projecting unto life and others their own unfinished business,

unresolved conflicts, emotional baggage, and psychic wounds, the world would be a far better place.” LightSun

Via Roy Middleton
Therefore if you feel a great sense of anger don't bottle it up. Rage it out and be done with it. Take it outside and spit it at the sky. Don't take it to bed at night with you.

Via Paul Johnson
“We must express our emotions. To bottle it up only hurts us. Yet we must be cognizant that venting our anger out towards others and reality is really our issue.

True there can be people or situations that can trigger us. But still those who have worked on themselves know these are aspects of

unfinished business, unresolved conflicts, emotional baggage and our own unhealed psychic wounds.

Those who bent their anger outward without thought of others or consequences are as pollution. Yet statistically they don’t know it for it is probable a blind spot on their part.

It is a hard skill to master. In psychology we are taught to take ownership and use ‘I’ statements instead of lashing out. So “I feel angry,” versus calling somebody names. Or “I feel anxious.” Alone times we have to vent.

The mature person takes ownership of their own emotions and acknowledges them even if it is after the fact of an explosion.” LightSun
 
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