You’re really not helping our case.probably choosing makeup
And the message society sends that love and desire heavily depend on these looks, with little emphasis on other things, like character.
Stereotypically for women, their only important accountable responsibility is raising children
I've noticed that the more responsible, accountable, and dominant the individual (male or female), the more looks are important to them in the opposite sex- because they don't need to make sure their partner's character is 'properly oriented,' because their partner is not the one ultimately making decisions for their lives. Submissive men and women- the types that never know where to go for dinner, what to do that day, how to deal with shit as it comes up- value character over looks, because they need to make sure they're with someone who will make the right decisions for them. It's a tipping scale of sorts I think, and the beautiful thing about is that if you don't like where you are on that scale you can either pull more responsibilities into your side, or push them off, to move it where you want it to be. Ultimately, you have control over this part- if you want men to value your character, put yourself into a position of power and authority over your own life, and they will value your decision making skills for what they can do for him.
The idea that a woman just needs to be more responsible, accountable, and dominant in order to be [more] valued for her character is false, both generally in my personal experience and backed by research.
Another thing that's hard about being a woman: Being boiled down to merely a receptacle in which new humans can form and an agent who ensures their survival. No importance beyond that. After 40, after your kids could survive on their own, you're worthless.
The idea that a woman just needs to be more responsible, accountable, and dominant in order to be valued for her character is false, both generally in my personal experience and backed by research. Just try being the one who outperforms most of the others in school, and who refuses to play a dumb bimbo who needs to be rescued in order to impress the boys. You'll not get very far in general. See this or this.
Picking up the fucking check for dinner once in a while, I imagine.Whats the hardest thing about being a woman?
Plus, going the other way, I am a fairly dominant person and have always put character first in choosing partners. Looks count only to the extent that they reflect reasonable efforts at fitness and grooming, which I see as a sign of respect for self and others.The idea that a woman just needs to be more responsible, accountable, and dominant in order to be valued for her character is false, both generally in my personal experience and backed by research. Just try being the one who outperforms most of the others in school, and who refuses to play a dumb bimbo who needs to be rescued in order to impress the boys.
Easy: just say no and don't bother with it. Save your money, your time, and your skin.probably choosing makeup
Sadly some guys are highly resistant to this, even in this day and age. Of course, that would be a show stopper for me. Picking the restaurant - well, they are more likely to indulge that as an ego-boosting act of chivalry, I suppose. If I let him choose, though, I learn another tidbit about him and what he likes, and knowledge is power.Picking up the fucking check for dinner once in a while, I imagine.
Related to that, picking a restaurant might be the second.