Weird Clime
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Hey all! I'm a newbie to Typology Central 
I came here because I believe MBTI and other systems could help me understand myself on a deeper level, but the multiple choice quizzes just aren't cutting it for me. I figure you experts would be a lot more useful and helpful
I'm at a bit of a pivotal time in my life right now where I am experiencing a lot of growth. This is mainly due to the fact that my roommate and one of my closest friends committed suicide earlier this year (on my 20th birthday nonetheless) and I've been forced to age years, in a way, just due to having to move on from this tragedy. So while the situation clearly fucking sucks no matter what angle you look from, I am proud of myself for maturing and adapting despite the circumstances and I think now would be a good time to bear it all (except not actually near all) on the internet.
Without further ado,
(sorry didn't answer all the questions because I was lazy)
Personal concepts
1. What is beauty? What is love?
I find beauty in a lot of things, but when prompted to define beauty, the first thing my mind thought of was that beautiful things make you want to look deeply. Pretty things are pleasant to look at and glaze your eyes over, but beautiful things make you give it a second or third glance, make you consider the small (equally beautiful) components that make up the beautiful thing.
Love, on the other hand, is impossible for me to define in words, partially because I think it varies a lot on an individual basis. For me, love is deeply tied to devotion. I don't give up easily on the people (or things) that I love.
2. What are your most important values?
Empathy, rationality, open-mindedness, generosity, and gratitude are some of the ones that pop into mind instantly.
3. Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
Personally, I don't subscribe to any religion or spiritual belief system. This is pretty easy for me to say because my parents intentionally raised me that way, believing that I could make that decision for myself when I was older (and that they would respect whatever I chose). That being said, I'm as hesitant to call myself an "atheist" as I am a "theist"; I consider myself truly agnostic, unaffiliated and not looking to join any organization but completely open to the idea that there is more out/up there than what the human eye can see.
4. Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
I'm generally very anti-war and anti-violence. I believe that human life is inherently valuable and I hate the concept of drafts, but I totally encourage people who want to join their country's military to do so if they feel empowered in it.
Evaluation & Behaviour
11. What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
I've been told by others that some of my weaknesses are my stubbornness, my self-centrism, my inflexibility, and my lack of enthusiasm. Personally, I think some of my biggest flaws are my inability to admit when I'm wrong, and my general tendency to put things off and procrastinate.
12. What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
People say that I'm friendly, outgoing, well-read, and intelligent. I would describe myself positively as thoughtful, curious, passionate, and broad in interests/views. I tend to manifest my caring side in small ways that sometimes go unnoticed - for example, doing friends' dishes because they're stressed out, or filling up a friend's water bottle if it's empty and leaving it for them to find.
People & Interactions
15. What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I appreciate people with all different temperaments, but I universally dislike bigotry, and its lesser cousin of prejudice. The difference, to me, is the willingness to consider opinions that differ from your own. If you have a conviction that I disagree with, but you are open to other perspectives, that's a whole lot less of a problem for me than someone who talks and talks and talks but puts up a wall when people try to engage in a dialogue with them.
16. How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
Sex has never been a huge deal to me - I very much encourage people to explore their sexuality in whatever ways they please. I have a lot more experience with sex than I do with romance, but I think I'd best suit a partner that helps me pick up the slack on areas where I'm weak (and it would be reciprocated on my end). I'm attracted to people who have a good sense of humor but who are able to handle life squarely and maturely, and people who are good at taking care of others (which I myself really envy).
17. If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I know every parent probably thinks this, but I would raise my child with the goal of giving them a better life than the one I had, and setting them up for success once my child is old enough to carve their own path.
18. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
It really depends on context and what belief they're clashing with. For example, I am very passionate about animal rights (and human rights, they're not mutually exclusive), and I am staunchly morally opposed to the meat industry. However, most of my friends eat meat, and the majority of it is factory farmed, and I'm not going to shit on them or stop being friends with them because of that even if I disagree with their choices. But if a friend of mine were to voice anything prejudiced or hateful, especially towards humans, it would be a lot more difficult for me to look past and could be a dealbreaker in our relationship. Overall, I'm more comfortable with voicing my disagreement after the fact with people who I know will sympathize rather than causing a scene in a group that otherwise gets along well.
19. Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
Asking me to generalize a huge population (especially a vague one, like "society") is like asking a fish to run a marathon! I feel OK attributing certain problems to society, but it doesn't necessarily affect how I see people as a whole. I think that prevalant social problems such as gender inequality and racial divides exist not necessarily because the average person is hateful and prejudiced, but because the societal ideal of going with the flow/avoiding rocking the boat makes people reluctant to speak out, they follow a prejudiced rhetoric. So I would say that "society" is not inherently prejudiced, just agreeable (for lack of a better word in my mind-dictionary).
20. How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
I can get along with most people, so the way I've made friends in the past is befriending one person through a common interest and then making other friends through them or being simply absorbed into their group. "Friend" is a pretty broad word for me, and I consider a lot of people to be a friend of mine, but the way I behave around them (and my loyalty to them) depends on how close we are and how I really feel about them. For example, in high school I had a relatively tight-knit group of friends, but I didn't share too much about myself with them because I knew they were more friends of convenience than a deep bond. That being said, I treated them with love and kindness as I would with any friend, but I wouldn't go losing a limb for them or anything.
With my close friends, I am generally very open and don't hold a lot of myself back. There are dark corners that I keep to myself, but I would say I've shared about 90%+ of myself with my closest friends. The people who I'm open and honest with, who I've trusted with my deepest secrets, are few in number - but that doesn't matter because I value our relationship innumerably.
21. How do you behave around strangers?
I'm actually quite talkative with strangers, if I pick up a friendly vibe or have something to strike up a conversation about. I definitely got better and more confident in this as I started working customer service positions, but I think it's just helped me feel more comfortable doing something that I've always wanted to do. The way I see it, most people are willing to be helpful or at least amicable if you approach them kindly and earnestly, but I'm also aware that I have an advantage because I'm not physically intimidating (like, at all.)
I came here because I believe MBTI and other systems could help me understand myself on a deeper level, but the multiple choice quizzes just aren't cutting it for me. I figure you experts would be a lot more useful and helpful
I'm at a bit of a pivotal time in my life right now where I am experiencing a lot of growth. This is mainly due to the fact that my roommate and one of my closest friends committed suicide earlier this year (on my 20th birthday nonetheless) and I've been forced to age years, in a way, just due to having to move on from this tragedy. So while the situation clearly fucking sucks no matter what angle you look from, I am proud of myself for maturing and adapting despite the circumstances and I think now would be a good time to bear it all (except not actually near all) on the internet.
Without further ado,
(sorry didn't answer all the questions because I was lazy)
Personal concepts
1. What is beauty? What is love?
I find beauty in a lot of things, but when prompted to define beauty, the first thing my mind thought of was that beautiful things make you want to look deeply. Pretty things are pleasant to look at and glaze your eyes over, but beautiful things make you give it a second or third glance, make you consider the small (equally beautiful) components that make up the beautiful thing.
Love, on the other hand, is impossible for me to define in words, partially because I think it varies a lot on an individual basis. For me, love is deeply tied to devotion. I don't give up easily on the people (or things) that I love.
2. What are your most important values?
Empathy, rationality, open-mindedness, generosity, and gratitude are some of the ones that pop into mind instantly.
3. Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
Personally, I don't subscribe to any religion or spiritual belief system. This is pretty easy for me to say because my parents intentionally raised me that way, believing that I could make that decision for myself when I was older (and that they would respect whatever I chose). That being said, I'm as hesitant to call myself an "atheist" as I am a "theist"; I consider myself truly agnostic, unaffiliated and not looking to join any organization but completely open to the idea that there is more out/up there than what the human eye can see.
4. Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
I'm generally very anti-war and anti-violence. I believe that human life is inherently valuable and I hate the concept of drafts, but I totally encourage people who want to join their country's military to do so if they feel empowered in it.
Evaluation & Behaviour
11. What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
I've been told by others that some of my weaknesses are my stubbornness, my self-centrism, my inflexibility, and my lack of enthusiasm. Personally, I think some of my biggest flaws are my inability to admit when I'm wrong, and my general tendency to put things off and procrastinate.
12. What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
People say that I'm friendly, outgoing, well-read, and intelligent. I would describe myself positively as thoughtful, curious, passionate, and broad in interests/views. I tend to manifest my caring side in small ways that sometimes go unnoticed - for example, doing friends' dishes because they're stressed out, or filling up a friend's water bottle if it's empty and leaving it for them to find.
People & Interactions
15. What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I appreciate people with all different temperaments, but I universally dislike bigotry, and its lesser cousin of prejudice. The difference, to me, is the willingness to consider opinions that differ from your own. If you have a conviction that I disagree with, but you are open to other perspectives, that's a whole lot less of a problem for me than someone who talks and talks and talks but puts up a wall when people try to engage in a dialogue with them.
16. How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
Sex has never been a huge deal to me - I very much encourage people to explore their sexuality in whatever ways they please. I have a lot more experience with sex than I do with romance, but I think I'd best suit a partner that helps me pick up the slack on areas where I'm weak (and it would be reciprocated on my end). I'm attracted to people who have a good sense of humor but who are able to handle life squarely and maturely, and people who are good at taking care of others (which I myself really envy).
17. If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I know every parent probably thinks this, but I would raise my child with the goal of giving them a better life than the one I had, and setting them up for success once my child is old enough to carve their own path.
18. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
It really depends on context and what belief they're clashing with. For example, I am very passionate about animal rights (and human rights, they're not mutually exclusive), and I am staunchly morally opposed to the meat industry. However, most of my friends eat meat, and the majority of it is factory farmed, and I'm not going to shit on them or stop being friends with them because of that even if I disagree with their choices. But if a friend of mine were to voice anything prejudiced or hateful, especially towards humans, it would be a lot more difficult for me to look past and could be a dealbreaker in our relationship. Overall, I'm more comfortable with voicing my disagreement after the fact with people who I know will sympathize rather than causing a scene in a group that otherwise gets along well.
19. Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
Asking me to generalize a huge population (especially a vague one, like "society") is like asking a fish to run a marathon! I feel OK attributing certain problems to society, but it doesn't necessarily affect how I see people as a whole. I think that prevalant social problems such as gender inequality and racial divides exist not necessarily because the average person is hateful and prejudiced, but because the societal ideal of going with the flow/avoiding rocking the boat makes people reluctant to speak out, they follow a prejudiced rhetoric. So I would say that "society" is not inherently prejudiced, just agreeable (for lack of a better word in my mind-dictionary).
20. How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
I can get along with most people, so the way I've made friends in the past is befriending one person through a common interest and then making other friends through them or being simply absorbed into their group. "Friend" is a pretty broad word for me, and I consider a lot of people to be a friend of mine, but the way I behave around them (and my loyalty to them) depends on how close we are and how I really feel about them. For example, in high school I had a relatively tight-knit group of friends, but I didn't share too much about myself with them because I knew they were more friends of convenience than a deep bond. That being said, I treated them with love and kindness as I would with any friend, but I wouldn't go losing a limb for them or anything.
With my close friends, I am generally very open and don't hold a lot of myself back. There are dark corners that I keep to myself, but I would say I've shared about 90%+ of myself with my closest friends. The people who I'm open and honest with, who I've trusted with my deepest secrets, are few in number - but that doesn't matter because I value our relationship innumerably.
21. How do you behave around strangers?
I'm actually quite talkative with strangers, if I pick up a friendly vibe or have something to strike up a conversation about. I definitely got better and more confident in this as I started working customer service positions, but I think it's just helped me feel more comfortable doing something that I've always wanted to do. The way I see it, most people are willing to be helpful or at least amicable if you approach them kindly and earnestly, but I'm also aware that I have an advantage because I'm not physically intimidating (like, at all.)
