Hello there. I've identified as sp/so for a very long time, but some people have recently brought to my attention the possibility that I might be an sp/sx. In addition, a couple of people have said I seem so/sp? So I'm experience a bit of confusion and I hope you can provide me help from new perspectives.
I've recently settled on 6w5 as my core enneagram type, and 136 as my tritype. I'm starting to wonder if my relation to self-preservation comes solely from my introversion and my anxiety (which may just be from my enneagram). When reading about the variants on their own, I don't relate to the one-on-one connections and intensity that sexual variants desire. However, when it comes to variants connected to type 6, sexual is most relatable to me. It's the most rebellious and skeptic from what I understand. I can elaborate more on this if you want, but I think I'll just go ahead and answer a questionnaire.
Self-Preservation (Need to protect and preserve)
I am not attentive to my finances. I really should check my bank more often and sometimes recklessly spend. Whenever I want to buy something that I recognize is within an acceptable price range, I'm easily willing to spend my money without looking back.1. Do you tend to save money and are cautious about spending it?
I do consider myself to be security-oriented. Safety and privacy are extremely important to me. I am very protective of myself and my loved ones, as well as our belongings.2. Are you security oriented? Ready to protect yourself, those close to you and your resources?
I enjoy schedules and routines because I find them comforting, and big changes give me a lot of anxiety so I try to prevent them as much as I can. I suppose I am consistent in this way.3. Are you fairly consistent? Like things known and regular? No big changes?
I am a bit of a risk-adverse person for the most part. However, I enjoy doing all-or-nothing bets on gambling and can find it hard to stop.4. Do you dislike taking big risks unless it's a "sure" thing?
In real life I am extremely private and refuse to reveal too much to strangers. It takes me a long time to open up to other people and there are always things I would never share. However I am less private online. There are key things that I would never give out to someone I just met (such as full name and city, which I've seen many others do and I found it strange), but I'll easily talk about random embarrassing shit that I would never say in public.5. Are you fairly private? Not revealing too much to strangers?
I consider myself to be a very introverted person. I'm withdrawn and avoidant of other people, and social situations generally make me very uncomfortable.6. Do you tend to be introverted?
I don't find economics particularly interesting. I have a basic understanding of money, securities, and investments, but don't think about it often.7. Do you understand money? Securities? Investments?
I like to think about worst-case scenarios that may happen and what I would do in those situations. A lot of the time I find that there is not much I can do in a given event and just try to convince myself that I'm ready for it. However, I'm not a very physically prepared person and I often don't go out of my way to get materials that will make me ready to face an emergency.8. Do you tend to plan for the future? Ready for emergencies?
Thinking about health scares me so I try to avoid that topic. I don't like seeing the doctor, therefore I avoid trips to the clinic or hospital as much as I can. However, safety and comfort are very important to me. If my surroundings are not pleasant, my mood quickly turns to shit, and if my setting is unsafe, I experience a lot of paranoia. I don't really have too many requirements about my home except that it should fit all my stuff, be in a relatively safe neighborhood, and have air conditioning/heater.9. Are you concerned about health? Safety? Comfort? Home? Hearth?
Yes, I went into detail about this on question #8 but I do tend to worry about things that may possibly go wrong.10. Are you worried about what may go wrong? Tend to imagine worse case scenarios?
I perceive things in a very concrete way so I do appreciate instructions being spelled out in great detail. I don't like thinking out of the box so I tend to seek exact informations, and guarantees are quite assuring as well.11. Do you like things spelled out? Details? Exact information? Guarantees?
Not really, I don't think I am or should be responsible for anyone else's finances, even if they matter to me as a person.12. In relationships do you take care of others financially?
Social (Need for Social Validation) - Can show up with strong focus on groups, organizations, family, world, friends, your surroundings, your social image
I'm somewhat of an individualist and I don't like social validation in the form of conforming to other people for them to accept me, or having people become more like me showing that they accept me. (To be honest, I'm not exactly sure what social validation means in this context.)1. Do you need or really like social validation?
As much as I hate to openly admit it, my reputation is very important to me and I find it horribly displeasing if people see me in a way that I find unappealing (weak, dumb, etc.).2. Is social image important to you?
It's nice to fantasize about people acknowledging my talents in a public setting, I must admit.3. Do you have desires/fantasies of being rewarded in a social or public arena?
I think about my affect on other individuals, not so much bigger entities. I know I'm insignificant.4. Do you think about your affect on others, groups, organizations, and the world?
I try to look my best in public and find it disgusting to not put any effort into my appearance before going out. I don't understand people who leave the house in their pajamas, without brushing their teeth. I know I'd be judged if I did that, and I'd prefer not to. I do desire popularity to some extent and want people to recognize my name and remember my face, but I don't do much (if anything) to seek fame.5. Is it very important to you to look good in public, groups, work, and the world? Is name recognition important, either yours or others?
I tend to avoid doing hard and creative work for social causes because I convince myself that no matter how good it is, it won't be appreciated enough.6. Are you upset if you don't get enough validation, reward for the hard and creative work you do in a social context or for a social cause?
Not really. None of the clubs at my school particularly appeal to me and I'm not interested in joining any.7. Are you involved in groups, organizations and team oriented activities?
If I randomly get into a special group online it feels nice, but I don't actively seek them. Once in a while if I feel comfortable in said group then I might seek leadership position.8. Is belonging to special groups or being a leader of a group important to you?
This has never happened to me because my mother is very inclusive. I don't like family gatherings so I can't imagine feeling too bad about being rejected from them.9. Are you strongly upset if you feel not included or rejected by a group or family or not invited to a social event?
No.10. Do you make your money through your association with groups affecting a large number of people?
I get very embarrassed when certain things happen to me in public (falling in front of people, getting bullied, etc.), but not really stuff that are considered faux pas. Like if I burp in a social setting that's honestly not so bad in my opinion. I try to put effort into looking as nice as I can before going out, and carefully thinking about things I say before I say them around people I don't know well, but other than that I don't plan much.11. Do you get really upset if you make a social faux pas? Do you think about and plan out how you will be or present yourself in public?
Hell no.12. Are you the social instigator and connector in your family?
Relationship (Need for 1 to 1 or Relationship Closeness)
Not really, I think I'm a very independent person. I despise the idea of my identity relying on someone else.1. Do you define yourself through a romantic or close partnership? Is closeness with another person of paramount importance?
Yes, I like energized conversations with others, even though they rarely happen for me. I love having revealing conversations with Internet friends and learning a lot about them as well as sharing things about myself, but that kind of stuff would scare me in real life.2. Do you like intense energy, particularly in relating to people? Are you energized when you have a revealing conversation or engagement with another, particularly a special other?
I don't focus on either. Close relationships scare me and I don't like putting effort into them. Money just comes and goes for me, I don't do much about it.3. Do you tend to focus more attention on close relationships than money?
No, I appreciate money for my own sake. Although I must admit that it would be nice to have it boost others' perceptions of me.4. Does money relate to how a partner will see you more than security for yourself?
I put my own needs and wants first.5. Are money and resources less for self and more to please an intimate other?
Other concerns, I'm not too interested in how I relate to potential partners.6. Does your attention go more to how well you relate to a partner or potential partner than to other concerns?
I'm usually not emotionally expressive when it comes to most people but I can get dramatic when I'm alone or with someone that I know well. I like to dig deep into conversations with other people because I find personal stuff interesting.7. Would others describe you as dramatic? Do you like to go deep with things?
Yes, I'm generally an in-the-moment person. Present security is important, but I'm not too paranoid about future security. I try not to think too far into the future because I find it irrelevant, who knows if I'll even still be alive?8. Do you tend to be in the moment and not think as much about the future or your future security?
No, I don't think I've ever been able to fully connect with another person.9. Do you have an urge to merge? Do you "lose yourself" with an important other at times?
If I have to talk to the same people over and over again I tend to get bored, so I appreciate new social experiences, doing new things with other people. I do get bored without stimulation in the area of relationships, but oftentimes I'm too apathetic to seek it. I'm not really into risks, though.10. Do you like risk taking? New experiences? Tend to get bored without enough stimulation particularly in the area of relationships?
My priorities are always first on my mind. I rarely find it important to focus on connecting with someone else. People come and go in my opinion.11. Are you focused more on connection with another and forget your own priorities?
Sexuality is an interesting topic to me and I think about mine a lot. I have a lot of romantic fantasies that I like to think about, but I'd probably be scared to do them in real life. I don't like mysticism or spirituality at all, so I definitely don't think about either.12. Do you focus a lot on sexuality, romantic fantasies or mystical spiritual experiences?
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12-29-2017, 12:44 AM #1
What are my instinctual variants?
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01-02-2018, 05:08 PM #2
Nah, stick with sp/so. You don't seem to be super sx blind, but when you answered the sx questions, you answered in a sp way which focused on security. Your So section is fairly strong too, but not in an obsessive way which suggests it's your secondary focus.
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