Hi!
As said in my introductory post, I've come here to finally know who I am. I've been really confused about myself for a long time, especially after my father died when I was 12. I'm not completely new to MBTI theory and before coming on this forum, I've tried many times to type myself. But sometimes I felt I was INFP, other times INFJ or again ISFP, ISFJ, INTP... And I really can't tell where I lie. I'm going to post a questionary which, I hope, will help to type me more easily.
1-what makes you angry?
Difficult question because I rarely get angry as I hate conflicting with people and I wouldn't want to hurt someone. But what makes me angry is when I'm not able to pursue my dreams and what I want and I get even angrier when people are involved. For example, at the end of my high school years, I had the sudden idea to go abroad when I got my school cert. I went to a first exchange agency for a program in Netherlands (I had only learnt Dutch and Spanish in high school) and sat a psychology evaluation exam and an interview. The agency called a few days later to tell me I could only do a summer program and not a full one-year program because I was too "shy" for them. I went simply ballistic. I told them they were just discrimatory against quiet people and that was a shame on them! So I just went to another agency. I didn't go to Netherlands at the end but to Ireland. Anyhow, it didn't matter much to me (even with my zero level in English at that time). All I wanted was to discover a new country.
2-what do you like/dislike most about people?
Like: They can be wonderful and have exciting personalities. I love learning new thing from people I meet.
Dislike: When they are irrespectful, narrow-minded, have views that are utterly contractitory to mines (even if I respect anyone's opinion as long as they don't impede on mines)
3-do you like animals? why?
I like them yeah (except maybe cats because they can be so bitchy ^^). In fact when I was a child, I had set up a conservation club where I tried to protect the environment and animals the best I could (like building niches for birds). I'm also an antispecist which means I'm against ranking species according to their alleged superiority. For me, a monkey is not inferior to a human, just different and all animals need to be protected.
4-what do you like most about the favorite people in your life?
They have supported me no matter how difficult I could be sometimes and they have just dazzling personalities! With them, I'm able to laugh a bit in life.
5-what do you like/dislike most about yourself?
Like: my kindness, my respect for people and other beings
Dislike: my terrible low self-esteem. I also wished I could be more outgoing.
6-do you care about being fashionable? why/why not?
Not particularly. My type of clothes is pretty casual. There's nothing special about them. I don't really care about appearance. In fact sometimes I don't even respect fashion codes. I could wear a shirt at college one day, then a t-shirt the other. Conversely I could wear a t-shirt one nightout and then a shirt the other. I just dress according to my mood.
7-do you prefer to fit in or stand out?
Stand out
8-what activities do you enjoy?
I like reading and watching stuff about anything like politics, social sciences, cultures, geography, travel, languages... I also like wandering around in cities and nature.
9-what makes you feel secure?
Being around my loved ones
10-do you like being in a relationship? why/why not?
I do but as I've already mentioned, I can be difficult at times. But the person I just love the person I am with at the moment. He's so kind, always taking care of me, very intelligent and open-minded.
11-what do you love and why? Could be people, things, places, etc...
Like I've already mentioned, I love a lot of things (when I feel at my best and not in a depressed moment). But the things I love the most are languages and culture. I just have a great passion for it. I wish I could learn one thousand languages. Currently, I can speak French (my mother tongue), English, German (just learning), Dutch (especially when I'm drunk ^^) and a bit of Italian and Spanish. I guess that's already a good thing but I wish I knew more!
12-what do you spend the most time thinking about?
About the past (prone to nostalgia, which made me think I had Si) but also about the future. I'm always wondering "what if I did that, what would that do?". I'm also thinking about what kind of man I could be later.
13-How much have you changed over the years? Who were you as a child?
Well I've changed a lot over the years. I had a kind of attractive personality, withdraws, recovering, draw-backs, recovering... As a child, I was quite witty, always curious about anything. But I was also always in the clouds. Yet I managed somehow to get high grades at school, which both surprised and marvelled my teacher. I had big dreams like any child I guess: I wanted to be astronaut, archeologue... Just something that could make me discover new things, that could make me travel. And despite having been withdrawn at time, I feel this one of the only feature that never left me.
Besides this, I was already quiet but I remember having had a good number of friends. I was liked by everyone for my sweetness and kindness. I was very close to the people in my class to the point I was afraid to skip class because I could see the smart skipping class. I didn't want to be treated as too smart by the teachers.
But then my father died and it changed everything. Entering high school, I went to a new school in the city, knowing nobody. Struggling with bereavement, I was unable to make friends and it became like a circle. As I was deemed too quiet and too "uninteresting", I quickly lost confidence and self-esteem. And well consequently, I was even less able to make friends. There were time where I felt very low but on the verge of suicide. But the thought of having at least my mum helped me to survive. After a while, I started to get my life back. Then after high school, as I said already, I went to Ireland. I went back having gained a bit more confidence about myself but I'm still very fragile.
So yeah I hope someone will be able to help me here! Looking forward for an answer
As said in my introductory post, I've come here to finally know who I am. I've been really confused about myself for a long time, especially after my father died when I was 12. I'm not completely new to MBTI theory and before coming on this forum, I've tried many times to type myself. But sometimes I felt I was INFP, other times INFJ or again ISFP, ISFJ, INTP... And I really can't tell where I lie. I'm going to post a questionary which, I hope, will help to type me more easily.
1-what makes you angry?
Difficult question because I rarely get angry as I hate conflicting with people and I wouldn't want to hurt someone. But what makes me angry is when I'm not able to pursue my dreams and what I want and I get even angrier when people are involved. For example, at the end of my high school years, I had the sudden idea to go abroad when I got my school cert. I went to a first exchange agency for a program in Netherlands (I had only learnt Dutch and Spanish in high school) and sat a psychology evaluation exam and an interview. The agency called a few days later to tell me I could only do a summer program and not a full one-year program because I was too "shy" for them. I went simply ballistic. I told them they were just discrimatory against quiet people and that was a shame on them! So I just went to another agency. I didn't go to Netherlands at the end but to Ireland. Anyhow, it didn't matter much to me (even with my zero level in English at that time). All I wanted was to discover a new country.
2-what do you like/dislike most about people?
Like: They can be wonderful and have exciting personalities. I love learning new thing from people I meet.
Dislike: When they are irrespectful, narrow-minded, have views that are utterly contractitory to mines (even if I respect anyone's opinion as long as they don't impede on mines)
3-do you like animals? why?
I like them yeah (except maybe cats because they can be so bitchy ^^). In fact when I was a child, I had set up a conservation club where I tried to protect the environment and animals the best I could (like building niches for birds). I'm also an antispecist which means I'm against ranking species according to their alleged superiority. For me, a monkey is not inferior to a human, just different and all animals need to be protected.
4-what do you like most about the favorite people in your life?
They have supported me no matter how difficult I could be sometimes and they have just dazzling personalities! With them, I'm able to laugh a bit in life.
5-what do you like/dislike most about yourself?
Like: my kindness, my respect for people and other beings
Dislike: my terrible low self-esteem. I also wished I could be more outgoing.
6-do you care about being fashionable? why/why not?
Not particularly. My type of clothes is pretty casual. There's nothing special about them. I don't really care about appearance. In fact sometimes I don't even respect fashion codes. I could wear a shirt at college one day, then a t-shirt the other. Conversely I could wear a t-shirt one nightout and then a shirt the other. I just dress according to my mood.
7-do you prefer to fit in or stand out?
Stand out
8-what activities do you enjoy?
I like reading and watching stuff about anything like politics, social sciences, cultures, geography, travel, languages... I also like wandering around in cities and nature.
9-what makes you feel secure?
Being around my loved ones
10-do you like being in a relationship? why/why not?
I do but as I've already mentioned, I can be difficult at times. But the person I just love the person I am with at the moment. He's so kind, always taking care of me, very intelligent and open-minded.
11-what do you love and why? Could be people, things, places, etc...
Like I've already mentioned, I love a lot of things (when I feel at my best and not in a depressed moment). But the things I love the most are languages and culture. I just have a great passion for it. I wish I could learn one thousand languages. Currently, I can speak French (my mother tongue), English, German (just learning), Dutch (especially when I'm drunk ^^) and a bit of Italian and Spanish. I guess that's already a good thing but I wish I knew more!
12-what do you spend the most time thinking about?
About the past (prone to nostalgia, which made me think I had Si) but also about the future. I'm always wondering "what if I did that, what would that do?". I'm also thinking about what kind of man I could be later.
13-How much have you changed over the years? Who were you as a child?
Well I've changed a lot over the years. I had a kind of attractive personality, withdraws, recovering, draw-backs, recovering... As a child, I was quite witty, always curious about anything. But I was also always in the clouds. Yet I managed somehow to get high grades at school, which both surprised and marvelled my teacher. I had big dreams like any child I guess: I wanted to be astronaut, archeologue... Just something that could make me discover new things, that could make me travel. And despite having been withdrawn at time, I feel this one of the only feature that never left me.
Besides this, I was already quiet but I remember having had a good number of friends. I was liked by everyone for my sweetness and kindness. I was very close to the people in my class to the point I was afraid to skip class because I could see the smart skipping class. I didn't want to be treated as too smart by the teachers.
But then my father died and it changed everything. Entering high school, I went to a new school in the city, knowing nobody. Struggling with bereavement, I was unable to make friends and it became like a circle. As I was deemed too quiet and too "uninteresting", I quickly lost confidence and self-esteem. And well consequently, I was even less able to make friends. There were time where I felt very low but on the verge of suicide. But the thought of having at least my mum helped me to survive. After a while, I started to get my life back. Then after high school, as I said already, I went to Ireland. I went back having gained a bit more confidence about myself but I'm still very fragile.
So yeah I hope someone will be able to help me here! Looking forward for an answer
