Hi, i am really really "despearte" about this issue since I can't narrow my type don. I read everything about functions I could but I somehow can not say what really applies to me.
The 4 types which I listed in the title are the types that I think I could be. I'm not so sure if INFP is in the set of possibilities really since I don't think that I use Fi. Buuut I had people telling me that my descriptions are SCREAMING INFP, although you somehow can't sense Fi, don't know about that but maybe someone can solve that issue also.
I don't really know where to start.. I think I'll tell you overall things first; I'm turning 19 in a few days, I had a pretty pretty hard youth, had to deal with several mental health issues like an eating disorder, depression and I had an abusive boyfriend till June. Since I broke up with him I got a lot better, the relationship showed me a lot of underlying motives and vicious circles I was in and I managed to overcome the most. So, now I'm a pretty positive, cheerful and happy person! More about that later on.
I started studying biological chemistry a month ago und I like it so much, although it is so much to do. I am having only chemistry the first year and what I like so much about it is, that you can understand it all so utterly and deeply, and make sense of all the things that are happening around you. (Like why water boils at higher temperature (and you need more energy) if you put salt in it and why you put salts on the streets in winter and things like that) We had the most important exam of this semester a week ago and I passed, so I had to study a lot by now, just for the reference. I would really like to go into promotion to do my PhD and become a researcher.
I also started to become really really outgoing since university started, I am surrounded by a crowd or gang of people I met most of the time and I really enjoy those new aquintances (also made friends so far) I'm the one who always helps everyone when I can, I share every bit of information that I have and other's don't (I know a few people from higher semesters) and I'm pretty crazy, bubbly and motivated so I guess people like me for that.
So, on the one hand I'm pretty helpful and just like people and like being sociable and all but I can also be very observant and intuitive. I have the feeling that I often just "get" people, I'm having gut feelings of whom I can trust (although I really need to work on trusting and going by them more, I just find myself mistrusting these bad feelings about people and then later on I see the mess) And I also somehow can premonitor in which a situation may be going. For example: I was having a small group of friends and I knew that because of former events, trouble may be caused. I tried to take steps to prevent that, talked to one person about that (and he was SO oblivious to it all, it hurt) the point was, he was so so oblivious to it and didn't understand me or wanted to understand me and then the thing which I thought would happen happened.
I think that generally I am not that bad in figuring people's motivations out, just.. know about the dynamics in a group (whom likes whom for what reason) but if I get emotionally involved it becomes pretty blurry and impossible to interpret a situation right.
I also had people tell me, that I am interpreting things in situations where there wasn't anything and that I tend to accuse people of doing things they didn't intend to. (Although this only happened when my emotions are getting into it too, so, yeah, like I said it gets blurry) So I somehow find myself more comfortable with non human things like science or sth., because you can predict things without getting too involved. I also like to keep relationships shallow because of that, although I need real friendships or the relationship to a significant other to be really really deep. I just can't manage to do that easily. -
I'm easily in tune with what people "are", or what they need and I can (to some extent) transform myself in what is needed.
e.g.: I know someone is against refugees (I'm pretty pro refugees, I also did a bit of social work, helping them to learn german in my summerholidays) and I know that they like ..idk, chemistry, partying and cars. I would like chemistry and partying, and not like talking about cars. So what I will do is to try to focus the relationship more on the aspects that we are both having in common (chemistry and cars), I will let the person talk about cars but won't really say anything to it - but I will show interest in their interests- and I will try to avoid the refugees issue. But if it does come up I will tell them how I see the topic, why I think that it is bad to be against them but without trying to seek a heavy confrontation. So, Im trying to maintain the harmony, but I do have strong values which I will protect. If I see that I can't maintain a relationship because the other person tries to change my view aggressively I will simply leave that person. I guess that's also the reason it is hard to build a deep relationship with me, I'm very accepting and transformative but if I think that there are too many things you could fight about, I will just leave or get really unreachable for that person, because I'm not changing people, I'm just like, getting to know people and decidinq very quickly if I could let that person really know me or if it just isn't right, then I will be pretty nice but maintain my .."aloofness".
I don't know what to add.. maybe.. okay, I think the above paragraphs would maybe indicate some sort of Ni/Fe?
The thing is, I easily sense people who are using Ne in their top functions and I can really join their argumenting and theorizing (that thing is easier for me with Ne+Ti that with Ne+Fi but both works) and I find that pretty funny. Therefore I thought if I can easily get along with Ne doms I may be a Ne aux, so INTP or INFJ. Because I also sense people wo don't use Ne tht much and I have the feeling that these people also don't really get my humor or that it's difficult for me to really really have fun with them. Not that this wouldn't get along or something but just not on that fun level I have with others. But I do not think that I am a Ne dom because it's not that strong as I see it in other Ne doms (my two best friends are ENTP and ENFP)
I'm having my problems with the intro/extro thing, As I was depressed and everything I was really really shy and needes so much alone time. But now I really can't tell since I started to really lke people and going out for drinks.
But I don't find parties that fun, or maybe just for an hour until Im getting overwhelmed and want to go home.
I prefer smaller group interactions; 4 to up to 10 people I know.
I would really appreciate any insight, typing or anything else that maybe help me, thanks for reading and feel free to ask any questions!
The 4 types which I listed in the title are the types that I think I could be. I'm not so sure if INFP is in the set of possibilities really since I don't think that I use Fi. Buuut I had people telling me that my descriptions are SCREAMING INFP, although you somehow can't sense Fi, don't know about that but maybe someone can solve that issue also.
I don't really know where to start.. I think I'll tell you overall things first; I'm turning 19 in a few days, I had a pretty pretty hard youth, had to deal with several mental health issues like an eating disorder, depression and I had an abusive boyfriend till June. Since I broke up with him I got a lot better, the relationship showed me a lot of underlying motives and vicious circles I was in and I managed to overcome the most. So, now I'm a pretty positive, cheerful and happy person! More about that later on.
I started studying biological chemistry a month ago und I like it so much, although it is so much to do. I am having only chemistry the first year and what I like so much about it is, that you can understand it all so utterly and deeply, and make sense of all the things that are happening around you. (Like why water boils at higher temperature (and you need more energy) if you put salt in it and why you put salts on the streets in winter and things like that) We had the most important exam of this semester a week ago and I passed, so I had to study a lot by now, just for the reference. I would really like to go into promotion to do my PhD and become a researcher.
I also started to become really really outgoing since university started, I am surrounded by a crowd or gang of people I met most of the time and I really enjoy those new aquintances (also made friends so far) I'm the one who always helps everyone when I can, I share every bit of information that I have and other's don't (I know a few people from higher semesters) and I'm pretty crazy, bubbly and motivated so I guess people like me for that.
So, on the one hand I'm pretty helpful and just like people and like being sociable and all but I can also be very observant and intuitive. I have the feeling that I often just "get" people, I'm having gut feelings of whom I can trust (although I really need to work on trusting and going by them more, I just find myself mistrusting these bad feelings about people and then later on I see the mess) And I also somehow can premonitor in which a situation may be going. For example: I was having a small group of friends and I knew that because of former events, trouble may be caused. I tried to take steps to prevent that, talked to one person about that (and he was SO oblivious to it all, it hurt) the point was, he was so so oblivious to it and didn't understand me or wanted to understand me and then the thing which I thought would happen happened.
I think that generally I am not that bad in figuring people's motivations out, just.. know about the dynamics in a group (whom likes whom for what reason) but if I get emotionally involved it becomes pretty blurry and impossible to interpret a situation right.
I also had people tell me, that I am interpreting things in situations where there wasn't anything and that I tend to accuse people of doing things they didn't intend to. (Although this only happened when my emotions are getting into it too, so, yeah, like I said it gets blurry) So I somehow find myself more comfortable with non human things like science or sth., because you can predict things without getting too involved. I also like to keep relationships shallow because of that, although I need real friendships or the relationship to a significant other to be really really deep. I just can't manage to do that easily. -
I'm easily in tune with what people "are", or what they need and I can (to some extent) transform myself in what is needed.
e.g.: I know someone is against refugees (I'm pretty pro refugees, I also did a bit of social work, helping them to learn german in my summerholidays) and I know that they like ..idk, chemistry, partying and cars. I would like chemistry and partying, and not like talking about cars. So what I will do is to try to focus the relationship more on the aspects that we are both having in common (chemistry and cars), I will let the person talk about cars but won't really say anything to it - but I will show interest in their interests- and I will try to avoid the refugees issue. But if it does come up I will tell them how I see the topic, why I think that it is bad to be against them but without trying to seek a heavy confrontation. So, Im trying to maintain the harmony, but I do have strong values which I will protect. If I see that I can't maintain a relationship because the other person tries to change my view aggressively I will simply leave that person. I guess that's also the reason it is hard to build a deep relationship with me, I'm very accepting and transformative but if I think that there are too many things you could fight about, I will just leave or get really unreachable for that person, because I'm not changing people, I'm just like, getting to know people and decidinq very quickly if I could let that person really know me or if it just isn't right, then I will be pretty nice but maintain my .."aloofness".
I don't know what to add.. maybe.. okay, I think the above paragraphs would maybe indicate some sort of Ni/Fe?
The thing is, I easily sense people who are using Ne in their top functions and I can really join their argumenting and theorizing (that thing is easier for me with Ne+Ti that with Ne+Fi but both works) and I find that pretty funny. Therefore I thought if I can easily get along with Ne doms I may be a Ne aux, so INTP or INFJ. Because I also sense people wo don't use Ne tht much and I have the feeling that these people also don't really get my humor or that it's difficult for me to really really have fun with them. Not that this wouldn't get along or something but just not on that fun level I have with others. But I do not think that I am a Ne dom because it's not that strong as I see it in other Ne doms (my two best friends are ENTP and ENFP)
I'm having my problems with the intro/extro thing, As I was depressed and everything I was really really shy and needes so much alone time. But now I really can't tell since I started to really lke people and going out for drinks.
But I don't find parties that fun, or maybe just for an hour until Im getting overwhelmed and want to go home.
I prefer smaller group interactions; 4 to up to 10 people I know.
I would really appreciate any insight, typing or anything else that maybe help me, thanks for reading and feel free to ask any questions!
