I'm very sure about Te, I'm equally sure that F is my weakness. I'm also sure that Fe would be in my "shadow" functions.
I was analyzing myself and found Te standing out the most.
Ni was due to this definition: Foreseeing implications and likely effects without external data; realizing "what will be"; conceptualizing new ways of seeing things; envisioning transformations; getting an image of profound meaning or far-reaching symbols. Envisioning yourself in an outfit or maybe envisioning yourself being a certain way.
Why? Well, I'm a visual thinker, I have a very good imagination. Hmm.... I don't make sense to most people. Actually, I'm not good at explaining myself, sometimes. I have to research everything, I love the big picture, repetitive details drive me insane. (Maybe I misunderstood?)
How sure are you that you are Te Dom or Aux? You are clearly a N type, but I see an independent streak..... if no one understands you, perhaps you are not so Te after all...... or at least not at external judging type.... it seems that Te/Fe doms and auxs have the easiest time expressing their ideas and Ji types struggle the most. What took said about others not getting what you are saying or trying to say seems very NFP
Do you realize F is about having the meaning behind things, but just emotions? It is about your values and how you make decisions.
I am still a relative novice at all this stuff compared to most here.
But your stressed out mode is pretty much IFP in the grip mode..... baby Te in charge.
Moreover, that you pay attention the least to what others want you to do is very Fi. But that doesn't make you a Fi dom, just you are not a Fe user, clearly.
Now, you could be a ISFP: Fi Se Ni Te rather than the INFP: Fi Ne Si Te. INFP requires you to use Ne, which you believe you don't use.
That you feel inferior when your opinions are invalidated seems like a F Dom (both Fe and Fi Doms hate that).
Again, just some observations....