First of all, Hi!
Been doing these MBTI tests and been getting ESFJ. But I'm not really sure about that. Some things match and I'l get to that soon but first of all even if I feel I'm social now. I wasn't some years ago. I was or at least I acted introverted. Now this might had only been because I have tendency to social anxiety which really doesn't sound like something a ESFJ guy has. But maybe it doesn't exclude that personality type. The thing is I always wanted to be really social but I was afraid of. I ended up mostly just gaming my childhood and even high school. I think I was just too afraid to go out. I remember I was depressed about it a lot and I wanted to be social. It was my biggest dream for sure.
But until some years ago with a lot of self-improvement I feel I'm actually quite social now. I have made most of my friends in about the last seven years and I made those in a helluva speed in one point after I got over my fears (mostly over, not completely) Before I didn't speak much and might even stutter time to time. Now I'm out every weekend with friends and really enjoying my time. First I met few people and then I met friends of these friends and then friends of friends of friends So now I have enough friends and acquaintances to go out to do whatever when I feel like it
What I feel is that I actually always was ESFJ but I was inflicted by social anxiety disorder which prohibited me to be my real myself. I have had a lot of compliments how much I have changed over the decade. I still have reservations and spikes of anxiety time to time. But it's so much better now.
Now about the ESFJ. I'm not sure if it really actually represents me but here are some points that I think might describe me more or less:
* From assurance/compliments I get a lot of mental boost get all giddy and energetic.
* I like stories, epic and dramatic stories. Everything with a little pow!
* To be part of something is very important for me. Like group of really close friends is of most importance for me.
* I tend to plan everything ahead. I don't like taking risk on anything.
* I'm really open. I can talk about anything and I will talk about everything But I never talk about things of other people if I feel it's not appropriate. And this is super important for me. Because nothing feels worse then saying something that I should not have said so I'm careful enough on that. But otherwise besides that I will talk about myself like I was writing private blog of my life.
* Really important that my friends don't get bored or that I don't do something that they don't like.
* I'm afraid of conflicts and I don't want to argue. I always feel bad after an argument.
* I spent a lot of time thinking how I can better myself on anything.
* But I'm usually quite lazy to go for it but not lazy enough for not having finished my education on computer programming.
* I like my life kind of simple. I don't like to do that much stuff spontaneously. I like to schedule things. But I have enjoyed spontaneous events though.
* I like traveling. Mostly to see the culture, not beaches. I have hard time staying still while traveling. I want to experience stuff but I would never go bungee jumping or anything that dreadful Like I said I tend to calculate risk and I avoid it, a lot. Though it might not me risky but it does scare me enough
* I like to analyze stuff and happenings in life.
* I reflect a lot on the past.
* I end up following feelings more then logic except if I feel there is risk involved.
* My humor is mostly dark, maybe if I'm on good roll even witty but also sometimes over the top when I get really excited and it's "goofy time" which isn't rare if there is beer around.
* But sometimes though rare I have said something meant as joke but it offended people. Wasn't intended to offend. But I tend to carry away when it comes to joking and goofing.
I'm in my early 30s and male. Thank you and if you need more details then just ask
Been doing these MBTI tests and been getting ESFJ. But I'm not really sure about that. Some things match and I'l get to that soon but first of all even if I feel I'm social now. I wasn't some years ago. I was or at least I acted introverted. Now this might had only been because I have tendency to social anxiety which really doesn't sound like something a ESFJ guy has. But maybe it doesn't exclude that personality type. The thing is I always wanted to be really social but I was afraid of. I ended up mostly just gaming my childhood and even high school. I think I was just too afraid to go out. I remember I was depressed about it a lot and I wanted to be social. It was my biggest dream for sure.
But until some years ago with a lot of self-improvement I feel I'm actually quite social now. I have made most of my friends in about the last seven years and I made those in a helluva speed in one point after I got over my fears (mostly over, not completely) Before I didn't speak much and might even stutter time to time. Now I'm out every weekend with friends and really enjoying my time. First I met few people and then I met friends of these friends and then friends of friends of friends So now I have enough friends and acquaintances to go out to do whatever when I feel like it
What I feel is that I actually always was ESFJ but I was inflicted by social anxiety disorder which prohibited me to be my real myself. I have had a lot of compliments how much I have changed over the decade. I still have reservations and spikes of anxiety time to time. But it's so much better now.
Now about the ESFJ. I'm not sure if it really actually represents me but here are some points that I think might describe me more or less:
* From assurance/compliments I get a lot of mental boost get all giddy and energetic.
* I like stories, epic and dramatic stories. Everything with a little pow!
* To be part of something is very important for me. Like group of really close friends is of most importance for me.
* I tend to plan everything ahead. I don't like taking risk on anything.
* I'm really open. I can talk about anything and I will talk about everything But I never talk about things of other people if I feel it's not appropriate. And this is super important for me. Because nothing feels worse then saying something that I should not have said so I'm careful enough on that. But otherwise besides that I will talk about myself like I was writing private blog of my life.
* Really important that my friends don't get bored or that I don't do something that they don't like.
* I'm afraid of conflicts and I don't want to argue. I always feel bad after an argument.
* I spent a lot of time thinking how I can better myself on anything.
* But I'm usually quite lazy to go for it but not lazy enough for not having finished my education on computer programming.
* I like my life kind of simple. I don't like to do that much stuff spontaneously. I like to schedule things. But I have enjoyed spontaneous events though.
* I like traveling. Mostly to see the culture, not beaches. I have hard time staying still while traveling. I want to experience stuff but I would never go bungee jumping or anything that dreadful Like I said I tend to calculate risk and I avoid it, a lot. Though it might not me risky but it does scare me enough
* I like to analyze stuff and happenings in life.
* I reflect a lot on the past.
* I end up following feelings more then logic except if I feel there is risk involved.
* My humor is mostly dark, maybe if I'm on good roll even witty but also sometimes over the top when I get really excited and it's "goofy time" which isn't rare if there is beer around.
* But sometimes though rare I have said something meant as joke but it offended people. Wasn't intended to offend. But I tend to carry away when it comes to joking and goofing.
I'm in my early 30s and male. Thank you and if you need more details then just ask