fetus
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I know, I hate to be starting a thread here. Keep in mind, though, that I'm not asking you to type me. I'm just asking for a bit of help clarifying something for myself. I have always identified as a 4w3, but more than a few forum members have suggested 9w1. I know my tritype consists of 4, 7, and 9, in whatever order. But anyways, I can relate to a lot of both the 4 and 9 descriptions. Here's a little information about me.
-I want to say this in the least snowflakey way possible: I am different. In childhood, I just felt wrong and out of place. I would despair about wanting to be normal like everyone else, but as I matured, I realized that my uniqueness is a strength. It's become something I pride myself in. When someone calls me "weird," I swell with happiness.
-I am highly self-aware. People have even commented on this. If I'm not careful, though, I can become self-absorbed. In earlier days, people accused me of "dancing with pain" and not leaving my head, letting things fester.
-I work very poorly in stressful situations.
-Even those who know absolutely nothing about typology say that I'm a feeler and a dreamer.
-I hate conflict. I do one (or more) of the following when faced with it: physically close my eyes and cover my ears, beg everyone to stop fighting, or zone out and tell myself "it's just life" over and over. (Somehow saying that helps.)
-Self-assertiveness is not my strong point.
-I hate money. For some reason, it makes me anxious. I'm extremely meticulous with my savings (interestingly like my ISTJ dad in this respect). When I do make a purchase, which isn't often, I just pretend I didn't see the price tag.
-I'm not a risk-taker or thrill-seeker by any means. I am fine with new places if I'm with familiar people, or to a lesser extent, new people in familiar places--but the combination of new people and new places is too much for me. I was a cautious child and didn't walk or ride a bike until slightly later than others my age. (I seem to differ from other ExxPs in this way.)
-People have accused me of being passive-aggressive.
-I tire of the same-old, same-old. Sometimes I wonder if one day we'll squeeze all the ideas out of the universe, and everything will be bland for the rest of eternity.
-I have a very dramatic and flamboyant flair that is usually released around my closest circle.
-In work, assignments, or tasks, I do everything I can to inject some self-expression in there somewhere.
-I've always been very easygoing, and I often got the short straw of things when I was younger (middle child as well). I guess I've made up for a little as I got older; I can be extremely stubborn when I have to.
-I'm extremely lazy, procrastinating, and inactive. I seem to enjoy sitting down more than most people my age. I always hated PE in school; my best memories of that class were taking naps up against the wall, reading books, playing on my phone, or otherwise not moving.
-I'm usually very compliant, but when somebody says something that I know is wrong, or that is outright mean, I am very firm in telling them that their statement was not okay. However, doing this is very exhausting for me, and I often have to take a cry break afterwards.
-I have trouble making decisions. It's hard for me even to decide what leisure activity I'm going to do or what cereal I'm going to eat.
-Throughout my life, I have alternated between being very gentle, easygoing, and quiet, and enthusiastic, expressive, and a bit rebellious.
-I've always wanted to start rebellions and overthrow authority and hierarchy, but I cry when I get in trouble.
-I was always told in school that I wore my heart on my sleeve.
Feel free to ask me further questions if it seems necessary. Thanks for bearing with me.
-I want to say this in the least snowflakey way possible: I am different. In childhood, I just felt wrong and out of place. I would despair about wanting to be normal like everyone else, but as I matured, I realized that my uniqueness is a strength. It's become something I pride myself in. When someone calls me "weird," I swell with happiness.
-I am highly self-aware. People have even commented on this. If I'm not careful, though, I can become self-absorbed. In earlier days, people accused me of "dancing with pain" and not leaving my head, letting things fester.
-I work very poorly in stressful situations.
-Even those who know absolutely nothing about typology say that I'm a feeler and a dreamer.
-I hate conflict. I do one (or more) of the following when faced with it: physically close my eyes and cover my ears, beg everyone to stop fighting, or zone out and tell myself "it's just life" over and over. (Somehow saying that helps.)
-Self-assertiveness is not my strong point.
-I hate money. For some reason, it makes me anxious. I'm extremely meticulous with my savings (interestingly like my ISTJ dad in this respect). When I do make a purchase, which isn't often, I just pretend I didn't see the price tag.
-I'm not a risk-taker or thrill-seeker by any means. I am fine with new places if I'm with familiar people, or to a lesser extent, new people in familiar places--but the combination of new people and new places is too much for me. I was a cautious child and didn't walk or ride a bike until slightly later than others my age. (I seem to differ from other ExxPs in this way.)
-People have accused me of being passive-aggressive.
-I tire of the same-old, same-old. Sometimes I wonder if one day we'll squeeze all the ideas out of the universe, and everything will be bland for the rest of eternity.
-I have a very dramatic and flamboyant flair that is usually released around my closest circle.
-In work, assignments, or tasks, I do everything I can to inject some self-expression in there somewhere.
-I've always been very easygoing, and I often got the short straw of things when I was younger (middle child as well). I guess I've made up for a little as I got older; I can be extremely stubborn when I have to.
-I'm extremely lazy, procrastinating, and inactive. I seem to enjoy sitting down more than most people my age. I always hated PE in school; my best memories of that class were taking naps up against the wall, reading books, playing on my phone, or otherwise not moving.
-I'm usually very compliant, but when somebody says something that I know is wrong, or that is outright mean, I am very firm in telling them that their statement was not okay. However, doing this is very exhausting for me, and I often have to take a cry break afterwards.
-I have trouble making decisions. It's hard for me even to decide what leisure activity I'm going to do or what cereal I'm going to eat.
-Throughout my life, I have alternated between being very gentle, easygoing, and quiet, and enthusiastic, expressive, and a bit rebellious.
-I've always wanted to start rebellions and overthrow authority and hierarchy, but I cry when I get in trouble.
-I was always told in school that I wore my heart on my sleeve.
Feel free to ask me further questions if it seems necessary. Thanks for bearing with me.
