melisanddre
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1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
Well, a lot of things, actually. When I first started taking MBTI tests, nearly three years ago, I tested fairly often as INxP. At the time, however, I was in a grossly unhealthy state of mind. For the last year or so, I've tested consistently as ENTJ, and I've been pretty confident with that until the last few months. There are some moments where I feel like ENTJ really fits me, but much more frequently I feel like it doesn't whatsoever. Sure, I'm a good, organized, efficient leader, but I don't know if that's necessarily the forefront of my personality. I don't know if this is simply well developed Fi kicking in, my enneagram tritype, or if I'm just another type completely. Personality wise, I'm a hot mess between Peggy Carter and Queen Elsa - basically a bored 18th century french aristocrat in a teenager's body.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I'm not quite sure, exactly. Surely when I was younger I would say to be exorbitantly successful, powerful, and famous . Now, however, I would say that I would like to love what I am doing, and feel like I am making a difference. I want to be surrounded by people who understand me and care for me. I want to have better self-esteem, and be happy with myself. I do want to be successful, but I also want to have fun and explore the world and see all that it has to offer.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
A few years ago, after I got out of the hospital for my depression, I went to a gala at a famous art museum with my mother. Now, since my mother was talking business the whole time, I basically had the opportunity to do whatever I wanted. The exhibits were open, and I just remember standing in an empty gallery, right in front of Monet's Bridge over Water Lilies, mere inches from it. And I was alone - it was just me, the dull sound of conversation and music in the distance, and this exquisite work of art and I remember feeling strong. And happy. And I realized I wanted the rest of my life to be like that moment, with the Monet and me.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
I care very much what other people think of me, so if I think other people don't like me, I shut down. I try to please even the people I hate. I take great pride in my successes, so I don't take failure lightly. Mostly the first one, though. I was bullied growing up so I tend to look for insult even where it does not exist, and am secretly very sensitive.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
Usually how I will feel about it - will I be comfortable with it, will I be having fun? Will it be enjoyable? Will it help me, in the future? Then, I consider the point of view of those who matter to be (mostly my parents) - what will they think? Will it disappoint them? Would they approve? (I'm only 18, so this stuff still means a lot).
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I tend to be quite, erm, bossy when I'm the group leader? I just like to be in control, because I know my way will give us an A. Therefore, I usually prefer to work alone. I like to get started early, because if not, I know I'll procrastinate. I try to get it done quickly so I can move on to something else. I like every single step to be just the way I want it to be. I have very clear visions for what I do. Unfortunately, while I enjoy starting projects, I usually get bored with them when it comes time to finish them.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
I just got back from a class trip to Disney World, which was probably the most fun I've had in awhile. However, I enjoyed myself the most when I was alone. My friends wanted to do something different from me, and we split up. Just walking around the Magic Kingdom, taking in the castle, meeting the princesses, watching the kids on the big regal carousel, I felt the happiest I had in months.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
Just try it myself. When I wanted to learn fencing, I went to lessons right away. As for information, like in school, I memorize things pretty easily. I can form images in my head of where it was in my notes, where on the page in the textbook, etc. I also constantly use the internet to learn things (I know, smart). I also don't like help - in fact, I refuse it, because I like to figure things out on my own (another character flaw).
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
Organized in my own way, I guess. Not painstakingly, but I know where everything is. A sort of organized chaos, I guess. I’m only very thoroughly organized when I’m writing papers for school. My outlines are a thing of beauty.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
Mull them over, then see if it supports what I already know to be true. I pretty much believe in whatever there is enough evidence to support. I tend to sometimes get swept up in believing in popular opinion, and then kind of wising up and figuring out what I myself believe about something.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I feel at peace when I am being myself with a group of people who I fit in with and who include me. So, both. Probably the former a little more because I’m not quite sure what ‘being myself’ means quite yet.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I like group intellectual discussions, like in school, with people with interesting ideas. Among my friends, I like one-on-one conversations because I sometimes feel a bit lost among the loud voices of my friends. I try to think before speaking, really, but I have a penchant to just speak too quickly and end up saying something mean/blunt/putting my foot in my mouth.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
Though I love words, and firmly believe that words influence people beyond belief (the pen is mightier than the sword), they mean nothing without action to back it up. I am a firm believer in doing what you say. If you mean something, follow up on your promises. I’m kind of a mix of a planner and an improviser. I plan more complicated things but freely ‘wing’ things I think I can get away with, or 'wing' things when I get bored of planning.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Tape the show, go out with friends. We don’t go out that much, anyway. I’m constantly paranoid that they’re hanging out without me, or they secretly hate me (I have a hard time making friends, and have very few close ones, so I always wonder if they really like me or not), so I always want to go out and make sure that isn’t the case.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
Crazy. I become snappish and irritated, angry with everyone around me. I become anxious - literally shake, feel like I need to run a hundred miles, my brain feels like it’s going to explode. I feel sick to my stomach or like I need to sleep for a good week and a half. I usually cry, at some point or another, and feel like I have to vomit.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
People who are loud, people who are obnoxious, people who are unnecessary assholes, people who are ignorant, people who are stupid, people who don’t have good tastes, people who are sanctimonious, people who act like their problems are bigger than yours. People who ignore evidence that contradicts their own beliefs. People who push their beliefs in your face. People who are very much 'my way or the highway' (though I am like that, admittedly)
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
Literature, TV, movies, travelling, our hopes and dreams. Literary criticism and symbolism is kind of my favorite though. Also, with my close friends, gossiping about everyone we hate :/ which I realize is not great.
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
Honestly, my friends’ drama. Like I could care less. Also whatever the hell my extended family is up to. I also don’t really have a good short-term memory. I’ll just selectively forget things you tell me to do, or things I don’t deem important.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
They’d never admit it, but they know I’m selfish and elitist and pretentious. And ambitious and cutthroat and overly sensitive. In general, I’d say they know I’m a hard worker, resilient, and there for them 100%. They probably don’t know that under layers and layers of false confidence and happiness, I am deeply insecure and easily hurt. I feel a lot of things very deeply, though I don’t show it. Like I said, I am incredibly sensitive and emotionally guarded, because sometimes it feels like I feel things so strongly.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Sleep in, then head to the beach with a nice book (probably like, Jane Austen, or something). Freshen up, get dressed to the nines, and go to a fancy dinner before heading to an art gala/the opera/the ballet/the theater.
note - I started with this thread on PerC, but I just got a whole bunch of people telling me how dangerous my narcissism is so...I thought Typology Central would be more helpful
Well, a lot of things, actually. When I first started taking MBTI tests, nearly three years ago, I tested fairly often as INxP. At the time, however, I was in a grossly unhealthy state of mind. For the last year or so, I've tested consistently as ENTJ, and I've been pretty confident with that until the last few months. There are some moments where I feel like ENTJ really fits me, but much more frequently I feel like it doesn't whatsoever. Sure, I'm a good, organized, efficient leader, but I don't know if that's necessarily the forefront of my personality. I don't know if this is simply well developed Fi kicking in, my enneagram tritype, or if I'm just another type completely. Personality wise, I'm a hot mess between Peggy Carter and Queen Elsa - basically a bored 18th century french aristocrat in a teenager's body.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I'm not quite sure, exactly. Surely when I was younger I would say to be exorbitantly successful, powerful, and famous . Now, however, I would say that I would like to love what I am doing, and feel like I am making a difference. I want to be surrounded by people who understand me and care for me. I want to have better self-esteem, and be happy with myself. I do want to be successful, but I also want to have fun and explore the world and see all that it has to offer.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
A few years ago, after I got out of the hospital for my depression, I went to a gala at a famous art museum with my mother. Now, since my mother was talking business the whole time, I basically had the opportunity to do whatever I wanted. The exhibits were open, and I just remember standing in an empty gallery, right in front of Monet's Bridge over Water Lilies, mere inches from it. And I was alone - it was just me, the dull sound of conversation and music in the distance, and this exquisite work of art and I remember feeling strong. And happy. And I realized I wanted the rest of my life to be like that moment, with the Monet and me.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
I care very much what other people think of me, so if I think other people don't like me, I shut down. I try to please even the people I hate. I take great pride in my successes, so I don't take failure lightly. Mostly the first one, though. I was bullied growing up so I tend to look for insult even where it does not exist, and am secretly very sensitive.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
Usually how I will feel about it - will I be comfortable with it, will I be having fun? Will it be enjoyable? Will it help me, in the future? Then, I consider the point of view of those who matter to be (mostly my parents) - what will they think? Will it disappoint them? Would they approve? (I'm only 18, so this stuff still means a lot).
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I tend to be quite, erm, bossy when I'm the group leader? I just like to be in control, because I know my way will give us an A. Therefore, I usually prefer to work alone. I like to get started early, because if not, I know I'll procrastinate. I try to get it done quickly so I can move on to something else. I like every single step to be just the way I want it to be. I have very clear visions for what I do. Unfortunately, while I enjoy starting projects, I usually get bored with them when it comes time to finish them.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
I just got back from a class trip to Disney World, which was probably the most fun I've had in awhile. However, I enjoyed myself the most when I was alone. My friends wanted to do something different from me, and we split up. Just walking around the Magic Kingdom, taking in the castle, meeting the princesses, watching the kids on the big regal carousel, I felt the happiest I had in months.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
Just try it myself. When I wanted to learn fencing, I went to lessons right away. As for information, like in school, I memorize things pretty easily. I can form images in my head of where it was in my notes, where on the page in the textbook, etc. I also constantly use the internet to learn things (I know, smart). I also don't like help - in fact, I refuse it, because I like to figure things out on my own (another character flaw).
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
Organized in my own way, I guess. Not painstakingly, but I know where everything is. A sort of organized chaos, I guess. I’m only very thoroughly organized when I’m writing papers for school. My outlines are a thing of beauty.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
Mull them over, then see if it supports what I already know to be true. I pretty much believe in whatever there is enough evidence to support. I tend to sometimes get swept up in believing in popular opinion, and then kind of wising up and figuring out what I myself believe about something.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I feel at peace when I am being myself with a group of people who I fit in with and who include me. So, both. Probably the former a little more because I’m not quite sure what ‘being myself’ means quite yet.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I like group intellectual discussions, like in school, with people with interesting ideas. Among my friends, I like one-on-one conversations because I sometimes feel a bit lost among the loud voices of my friends. I try to think before speaking, really, but I have a penchant to just speak too quickly and end up saying something mean/blunt/putting my foot in my mouth.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
Though I love words, and firmly believe that words influence people beyond belief (the pen is mightier than the sword), they mean nothing without action to back it up. I am a firm believer in doing what you say. If you mean something, follow up on your promises. I’m kind of a mix of a planner and an improviser. I plan more complicated things but freely ‘wing’ things I think I can get away with, or 'wing' things when I get bored of planning.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Tape the show, go out with friends. We don’t go out that much, anyway. I’m constantly paranoid that they’re hanging out without me, or they secretly hate me (I have a hard time making friends, and have very few close ones, so I always wonder if they really like me or not), so I always want to go out and make sure that isn’t the case.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
Crazy. I become snappish and irritated, angry with everyone around me. I become anxious - literally shake, feel like I need to run a hundred miles, my brain feels like it’s going to explode. I feel sick to my stomach or like I need to sleep for a good week and a half. I usually cry, at some point or another, and feel like I have to vomit.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
People who are loud, people who are obnoxious, people who are unnecessary assholes, people who are ignorant, people who are stupid, people who don’t have good tastes, people who are sanctimonious, people who act like their problems are bigger than yours. People who ignore evidence that contradicts their own beliefs. People who push their beliefs in your face. People who are very much 'my way or the highway' (though I am like that, admittedly)
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
Literature, TV, movies, travelling, our hopes and dreams. Literary criticism and symbolism is kind of my favorite though. Also, with my close friends, gossiping about everyone we hate :/ which I realize is not great.
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
Honestly, my friends’ drama. Like I could care less. Also whatever the hell my extended family is up to. I also don’t really have a good short-term memory. I’ll just selectively forget things you tell me to do, or things I don’t deem important.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
They’d never admit it, but they know I’m selfish and elitist and pretentious. And ambitious and cutthroat and overly sensitive. In general, I’d say they know I’m a hard worker, resilient, and there for them 100%. They probably don’t know that under layers and layers of false confidence and happiness, I am deeply insecure and easily hurt. I feel a lot of things very deeply, though I don’t show it. Like I said, I am incredibly sensitive and emotionally guarded, because sometimes it feels like I feel things so strongly.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Sleep in, then head to the beach with a nice book (probably like, Jane Austen, or something). Freshen up, get dressed to the nines, and go to a fancy dinner before heading to an art gala/the opera/the ballet/the theater.
note - I started with this thread on PerC, but I just got a whole bunch of people telling me how dangerous my narcissism is so...I thought Typology Central would be more helpful
And it's usually because whatever we're doing is boring, or I already know it. I'm distracted by my own thoughts and ideas, I guess. I kind of space out. 
