Did you just mean personal relationship dynamics? How does she look at group dynamics?
Kinda hard to say because the last thing on her priority list is dynamics between others. She is the type to do her own thing socially and not really care about what others think, and others tend to follow suit with her. Yeah I meant personal relationship dynamics.
I actually don't try to gauge it; if the question ever comes up I will just ask the person. Sound weird to you? Well that's just how I work... I don't understand people who try to speculate about this sort of stuff. I don't like to make assumptions on this.
It's not really speculation to Fi users, it's observations and connections made between people and things. This is why I think Fi is your PoLR, or one of the main reasons anyway.
So LSI doesn't really have that problem?
Well LSI isn't so, I guess, malleable about the future compared to SLEs. They have Ni as a hidden agenda, so they tend to be structured with their Ni and actively and very deliberately pursue goals in an independent fashion. I kind of see the SXEs as being very goal oriented, but maybe needing some help from others. This is why I personally enjoy talking to others about my goals so that I may be able to change my course or do things differently to make sure everything is being done properly or the way I want it to be done. LSIs I don't think do much with this. LSIs are actually pretty concerned with what others think of them. There are some subtle differences between the two but I think on the scale you fall onto SLE.
Well when you know why the "to do list" is the way it is, you also gain more control over things.
If it concerns me personally, then I will find out why it is how it is. Or if something in particular at work is a pain in the ass I will try to understand how it is. But generally I don't really think much, I just "do" at work. If something needs to be done a certain way, by god I can do it that way, but I concern myself with other things going on and only until something comes up to make me question it will I. If that makes sense. That SLE I was talking about was actually with me on the same management team, and it was pretty cool working with her because she most of the time already had the answers I needed because she had found them on my own, but she was hopeless at creating harmony at work and understanding why some people did certain things a certain way or performed a certain way, which is why I think I was useful in that situation.
Don't you feel the need to have things out in the open? I find if I don't do that I'll just build up resentment which I don't like. Not that it's a real decision to try and avoid the resentment; I will usually express myself anyway, I can't hold things in.
It really depends on what it is. If I know that it would be all too selfish to keep something inside, then I'll let everyone know or warn everyone if I suspect it may cause something to go wrong. This is especially true of my friends, who I'm really open with and try to keep them as well informed on things as possible. But other than that, I think I kind of thrive on resentment, and it gives me a bit of a sick pleasure knowing that the person knows I don't like them and that's why I am how I am, or that I feel a certain way and that's just how it is.
Such is being an SEE 9 I suppose, aggressive-passive aggression? I just see no purpose in letting those know that I don't like how I feel on the inside. That's kind of the way I treat friends/people I like vs the others, it's usually really black and white. I think a lot of people like me, but also a lot of people don't like me. I think that this hints at the Fi being valued for me and not so much for you, because my internal feelings are reserved for friends and such. That isn't to say that I won't speak my mind, but my deeper feelings and more vulnerable things are for my friends.
I do use some judgments as given in the example earlier but it's a more in the moment thing. I forget them quickly. I never do this "huge judgment building up" thingie on any conscious level.
That's what I usually do. Quite the opposite!
What redeeming factor? An example please?
Well if someone has the balls to actually stand up to me when I express some dislike of what they do it actually kind of sparks some respect in me, and I'll be more inclined to listen to someone that takes themselves seriously. And from there we can get on the same page as each other and maybe understand each other.
Btw you are ISFP->SEE, in the same fashion, I would be ISTP->SLE? heh.
Yes. ISTP SLE isn't so uncommon, but I've only seen one other ISFP SEE on the internet. Thing is, Se dominance doesn't necessarily have to be overtly extroverted. Extroversion just makes sense for me as a person in a socionics lens, but biologically (if that makes sense) I can get drained by external stimuli and need to go be by myself to get recharged.
