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  1. #1
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    Default Can an INFP change their main function?

    I'm an INFP and i find it very upsetting to live my life this way

    I retook the jung test answering the question with the idea of who I would like to be
    and it came up with INFJ

    Do you think its possible to pick and choose what you want?

    I dont like Introverted Feeling as my dominant function

    Yes my values are important but it seems like thats all I know about myself
    my values my values blah blah everything I do or everything other people do I judge by my values

    the end I dont know anything else about myself

    I have creative interests but I cant express myself
    I care about people but I cant seem to express my feelings or show them how much I care
    Im unaware of what people are up to manipulation etc.

    Its just awful

    Is there something in my function I need to develop better?
    If I change my main function to Extraverted Intuition how would my thinking work?
    Is this even possible?

    Advice please if you can
    Thank you :/

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    Welcome to Sunnyside Mondo's Avatar
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    I'd advise you to not look at the values so simplistically.
    Love who you are,

    Ne- like any other Extraverted function- can only be developed by interacting with the outside world.
    MBTI Type: iNTj
    Enneagram Type: 3w4 sp/sx

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    You probably won't be able to change into an ENFP, but you consciously make the effort to use more Fi than Ne. Try to be open, don't use your values at all, and use lots of bullshit. Say what you don't mean and mean what you don't say. Talk non-sense.

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    Well you won't be able to change your type, but you can develop your Ne to make you more balanced.

    I actually think Moiety has a great point. As an ENFP I cannot constantly be making value judgements, because I find such things tiring and even absurd. Of course I do have a developed Fi (more and more so as I've gotten older) so I do have stong value judgements about particular things...but on a daily basis I'm often just exploring, taking in information, and observing or experiencing without judgement. Again, when I was a younger person I observed and experienced with a lot LESS judgement, because Fi is actually not my main function. I've developed more judge-yness in my personality as I've grown older. I'm open now, but I was INSANELY open in my late teens and very early twenties.

    Live in the world of ideas. Embrace the ridiculous. Practice bullshitting. Make arguments you don't believe in. Play games with other people. Expand the possibilities.

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    Default re: Can an INFP change their main function?

    Anything is possible.

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    I would also advise that you explore other functions as see how they work, perhaps developing them over time. For example My highest function order is Fi,Ne=Ti,Ni: all of these functions I use consistently, hell there's even somedays when I'll use nothing but one of my non-Fi functions. Practice using Ne or Ni or any of them and discover what results you can learn from using them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Live in the world of ideas. Embrace the ridiculous. Practice bullshitting. Make arguments you don't believe in. Play games with other people. Expand the possibilities.

    "Is there something in my function I need to develop better?
    If I change my main function to Extraverted Intuition how would my thinking work?
    Is this even possible?"

    INFP is who you are but INFP is not all that you are. Developing other functions is a must for any type. Some functions comes naturally and others need more considerate practice. Instead of simplifying everything to functions, concretely lay out what you think your weak points are and what you want to change and why.

    It sounds like you want to escape entirely who you are but you are just wasting time running away. Stay put, stay still, accept and learn. A person is meant to change. (I know. I have been through this, am going through it.)

    If you want to learn to express your feelings to others better, observe how others do it, practice, learn from those who do it naturally. I learned Fe from being in customer service and observing my boss do it in abundance. I also learned it from my Fe friends. Now I am quite good at Fe although when I was younger, I had negative Fe. I was so so terribly socially awkward.

    Just because I am Fi dom doesn't mean I will always be terrible at Fe. I am not naturally awesome at it, nor am I charismatic but I do my best. And with that, I am able to form connections pretty quickly with random strangers. It just means that I need more time, more instructions, more observations, make more mistakes. As I have gotten older, my Fi is more mellow and my Ne speaks louder.

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    You don't need to change your type. You just need to eliminate your inhibitions. Your main problem seems to be more of anxiety.

    I know. I have the same problem, but I've been working on it and it's getting better.
    Ti | Fi | Ne | Si | Te | Ni | Fe | Se
    Enneagram: 5w4 sx/sp

    "When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth."

    "It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of theories to suit facts."

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    First, a short story

    There was once a boy who was bigger and stronger than the rest of his classmates. It wasn't because he ate more or he went to the gym and pumped iron. It was just in his genes to be muscular. Because of his size, he got into trouble whenever he had disagreements with his classmates because he would lose his temper and end up hurting them badly.

    Now, is the solution of his problem to go on a diet and hope to lose all his muscles? Or wish that he wasn't born with such useless strength? Or is it to learn to control his temper and learn how to use his natural strength for more beneficial purposes?

    Ok, more practical advice. Learn to set boundaries. If you use Fi for every single decision in your life, you're gonna burn out. Figure out what is truly important to you and what is not. That is one of Fi's strengths. If something isn't worth the trouble, put it out of your mind or hide it away in some dark corner. You don't have to have a passionate stand on every single thing.

    But at the same time remember that you are responsible for your actions. Don't use any function as a crutch or excuse like "Oh, I can't do this because I'm an ABCD with function XY" Your function doesn't make you do things. It's still your choice.

    You said that you can't express yourself. Look inside and figure out why. Is it because you are afraid of what the others would think of you? You don't seem to have trouble spilling the beans in this thread. This is sort of related to the point of what is important. You don't have to be 'right' about everything. It's perfectly fine to be imperfect. Everyone is.

    No matter what, don't give up trying to be a better person. The road may be long and winded but I believe that you will be well rewarded for the journey.
    4w5, Fi>Ne>Ti>Si>Ni>Fe>Te>Se, sp > so > sx

    appreciates being appreciated, conflicted over conflicts, afraid of being afraid, bad at being bad, predictably unpredictable, consistently inconsistent, remarkably unremarkable...

    I may not agree with what you are feeling, but I will defend to death your right to have a good cry over it

    The whole problem with the world is that fools & fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts. ~ Bertrand Russell

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    You can, I allow it !

    And this no joke, you can really. You just gotta believe it hard enough, to eventually find out it isnt the type system that dictates your life, it's you who does

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