skylights
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She could have OCD or over-active Te...being only able to adapt to her own little world doesn't sound Fe dom to me at all, it seems like unhealthy Fi. As Tater also pointed out, Fe doms usually aren't "shy" either.
I see nothing Fe dom in your description, even unhealthy Fe.
this sounds pretty good, but... the only way we get Fi in a J is for her to be TJ, which i'm not really seeing.
with what tawanda said about her making quick, sure decisions, i'm less likely to see P with OCD or really strong Te (she's not sounding particularly logical in these decisions - Te and P would probably be more likely to make an outwardly logical decision and then wonder about it endlessly later because it might not be in line with Fi). i'm thinking J and poorly-used Fe with boundary issues. her internal world that's hard to change could be Ni, which can set a course and be unwavering, not unlike determined Fi.
NIMH page on Borderline Personality Disorder said:People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.
maybe?
tawanda, is she really shy around just that guy, or everyone? because i have to agree that i really don't know any Fe doms who i could call shy, but it's hard to see her either as P or TJ.