Falcon112
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- ENTJ
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ONE REQUEST - please don't quote me in this thread.
Three years? Four? I might almost now my type, but be overthinking again. I strongly rely on the „outsideâ€, regulating emotions and perceiving myself through the others' eyes. Thus, sensing myself causes some trouble.
In the past I wrote some „type me†questions, rarely using the prepared questionnaires – but never posted them at all anywhere. The first time I did was on the Reddit (and got typed as an ESTJ, which I doubt), a few days ago. If you were interested, I prepared a merged screenshot of my answers. However, I have no idea how to add it in a correct size. Tinypic could work, but these pictures stop working after some time.
I let myself check what kind of things are useful during typing process and decided to add some attachements:
The OCEAN:
What causes the most trouble? As a child I was different than I am currently. I'll add a description of my childhood behaviour because I think that it might be important.
Before turning eight I was really easy-going and physically active. My family spoilt me, an only-child (at that moment), a bit, but I wasn't arrogant or selfish – rather stubborn like a donkey, loving being the center of attention during family gathering and could get hysterical if I didn't get what I wanted. On the other hand, I used to read much, say hello to everyone and prepare hand-made gifts for my parents. When I corrected the pre-school teacher, I wanted to share my knowledge (or maybe boast a bit) and waited for a praise. I got punished, instead
Science accompanied me since kindergarten. While I learnt how to read, count etc. quickly, I was slower than the other children in things like riding a bike, tying shoes knots, doing sports. I enjoyed playing puzzles or drawing and cutting out nucleotides (seen in „Once upon a time... Life†series) from paper, but drawing and writing weren't so easy. It's hard to say whether I played with the other children or by myself. I enjoyed some company, that's what I remember, but spent much time alone, too.
One memory that still nurtures me - I was very honest. When I felt guilty, I confessed, even if these were silly things. My parents calmed me down, never pushing me to do such a thing, but it was very stressful to me. I felt really bad that I can't confess to my bullies that I told my parents on them. It felt like... not telling the truth breaks some kind of consistency.
Later, when I was 7-14, I still focused on science (until my parents' divorce). I enjoyed spending free time outdoors with other kids or playing video games. It was also the period when I started writing first stories, scene plays or childish poetry. I think that I spent really much time reading and playing. Like a normal child. Bullying occured when I skipped the second grade and my class teacher didn't accept me. A few people in my new class liked me and my life wasn't limited to the classroom, so I had some pals. Even as a kid I was perfectionist, ambitious and was worrying about my achievements. When I was six, for the first time I started to think that when you are a child, your achievements count more than when you are older and since then have been constantly thinking about running time. I didn't want to grow older.
Many creative tasks I did had to be well planned, not only including my first books or plays, but also creating families in the Sims. I gathered lists or notes and corrected spelling mistakes in books. My room was messy, though.
Mayflower's questionnaire:
1. During your youth (7'ish to 18), What did you focus on the most? What activities did you like and why? What aspect of life was lax in attention?
I liked reading books, handcrafting and playing outdoors, especially role-playing games - like the military, secret agents or school. I was also deeply focused on education, interested in maths, science or literature. My main focus were achievements, even though my family never pushed me towards them.
2. You're in you senior year of high school (or whatever equivalent) and you are looking back over the last couple of years. What was your favorite aspect of the schooling experience and why? Favorite subject and why?
Hard question. I never liked school, but there were a few teachers who made their lessons interesting and set foundations for my future education. I enjoyed playing in the school theatre (excluding the moment when I was a director, scenarist and an actor... what resulted in ruining the play by saying the wrong part. It was a class play, though, not the theatre extra-curriculars), writing for the art newspaper. There are a few people I was glad to have an opportunity to meet, even if we don't contact each others now.
I liked many subjects, but my favourites were Polish, maths, history, science and German. Well, everything could be interesting. I hated P.E.
3. A couple of friends call and invite you out to a restaurant. While there, you all are pleasantly conversing and one of your friends makes a comment that irked you. What are you're thoughts and how do you respond?
It depends... Is it my friend? Like,a close friend? Then he probably didn't do it intentionally and will soon understand from my face and glance that he did something wrong. If it wasn't someone extremely trusted, I would feel rising blood pressures, making my cheeks become red. I'm really sensitive to criticism. I would probably start defending myself, denying his words, or arguing. Maybe it would worsen the situation. After that I would seem insulted, maybe leave without a word and later tell him what I think. If these people laughed and didn't believe my statement, I wouldn't want to stay with these people any longer. I would complain to my close friend about the situation, feeling angry, upset and treated unfair.
4. Your schooling is done and it's time to strike out into the world!! What sort of career do you want to go into and why?
I described it below, so let's make it short – science, because I'm interested in it and want to achieve something academically.
5. A friend is getting married and they put you in charge of the cake. You narrowed it down to two places to make an order. The first is a bakery with whom you got a good relationship with. The other is a well-known cake maker to whom everyone goes to (your friend hints to it as well). Which one do you choose and why?
God, I don't have so many friends to go to a restaurant or have two different bakers recommended
Let's mark my friend as A and the well-known baker as B.
It depends on prices and the taste of the food. Which relationship is more important to me, the baker's or the young couple's? Is my friend, who recommends B, getting married? Well, then it's their decision where to buy the cake! If not, I think that buying it from A doesn't affect my relationship with the young couple, but could help my friend. Who would do their best to make a perfect cake in return. It's an advertisement for them. For me it's just a cake, I don't care about flavours too much. From my point of view buying from A has more advantages, unless their cake tastes worse.
6. You get into an argument with a friend/family member/co-worker. They criticize one of your personality traits. What would most likely be the focus of their critique?
Everyone criticizes me for something different. For being rude, too nice, unemotional, too emotional, overdramatic, not dramatic at all, scatterbrained, unhappy, too happy, asocial, seeking attention, arrogant, unassertive. My greatest fear is that someone might criticize me for low intellect or lack of knowledge.
At work I might hear that I am scatterbrained or try to do too much at once. That I put too much pressure on myself. Or that I rely on someone's instructions too much (lately I'm really scared of failure and making mistakes). Or that I don't listen to someone's advices and now everything the best.
My friends don't criticize my personality, but some people would say that I'm too confident that I know everything the best and that I treat them too cold when they need warmth.
7. It's New Years! You and your friends are out and about after a party. Being drunk, one of your friends suggests to do something....'questionable' (Nothing serious. I.e, drugs, escort, etc.). What are your thoughts and how do you respond?
I've never been such a party person like in this questionnaire I can't even imagine this situation happening in real life.
I don't do questionable things. I'm a boring person who has never tried alcohol and doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, won't take drugs, won't even go to a New Years eve party. Okay, let's assume I did. If my friend wants to do something risky and it is a close to me person, I would try to persuade them not to do it. I would probably insist on going home – they must be really drunk if they suggest something like that. Not because I think drinking is wrong, but because I know my friends and would be worried that something bad is going on.
8. A new art gallery opens up and your friend wants to go to the grand opening. Both of you analyze all the paintings and sculptures. What about these works warrants the most attention from you? Why?
Meaning or interesting form of presenting shapes. Like there are two things when you watch from different angles. Or smaller elements are connected into a bigger one. I like looking for hidden meanings or riddles contained in art. I could also try to recall the historical context of creation.
9. You have been saving up and decide to buy a new car. At the dealership, you peruse the lots. What are the criteria and factors that influence your choice? Which one would initially be your main focus?
I want it to be in a good shape so I don't have to go to the workshop too soon. It should be efficient, too, because I don't want to pay too much for it. It's better to do it once.
10. Yep, you now have a kid (sex of your choosing)! Years pass and they are now 15 years old. You notice their personality traits are the complete opposite of how you were when at their age. Describe how they are. Describe the possible conflicts that would arise between both of you due to differing temperaments.
Interesting one. This kid would probably be focused on their physical appearance more than on education. They would go to parties, maybe do irresponsible things and I would be worried for them. Yeah, they would be irresponsible, I guess. They care about an opinion of everyone else around, having no own, but not mine. Their free-spirit and dangerous behaviour would lead to conflicts. Not because I want them to be my perfect extension of myself, but because I don't want them to suffer. Their lack of academic ambition isn't a problem for me, because it's their life, not mine. When they are 15 years old, they make up their decisions mostly by themselves, but if they break the rules set by both of us, constantly lies to me and shows no remorse for it, I feel cheated. However, I hope that we've had good contact so far and we can resolve any conflict by discussion and respecting each other.
RadicalDoubt's questionnaire:
1) Context:
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect?
Poland. I could describe my religious or political beliefs, but it would take much space. I don't think it has an effect on my personality. I'm twenty two years old and study both physics (5th grade) and psychology (2nd grade). I'm more theoretician than an observer.
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?
I wanted to avoid answering this kind of question because it could suggest the answer. Thus, I allowed myself to slightly change the order of questions and put this one at the end. That's the reason why I didn't put the type I suspect on my profile and decided not to add an avatar yet.
2) What do you deem as your purpose in life?
My main goal is becoming a respected scientist and a fiction writer. I wish my life was meaningful in this way – being able to answer some questions about the nature is very important to me.
No matter how vain it looks, my narcissism makes me believe I desire fame. However, the imagination of being observed, judged and exposed to criticism makes me think that the fame is not what I truly want (that's why I felt uncomfortable as a religious believer). It's nothing more than my low self-esteem and desire of acceptance.
3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why?
Most? Easy! Pride or envy, they are linked. I'm afraid it would be very visible in this post.
And least? It's more difficult, maybe gluttony or lust?
4) Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
a) The type of people you are drawn to
INFJs, ENTPs, ISTPs
b) The type of people who are drawn to you
INFJs, INTPs, INFPs, ENFPs
c) The type of people you are repulsed by
I don't know these people well enough to type them.
5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate.
Lack of emotion. I don't experience much feelings, but am sensitive to criticism. It would be better to show no emotion, appear unimpressed, silent and shrugging when being insulted or treated unfair. I strongly dislike my outburts of anger, when the situation is overwhelming and I can't see the pattern „how to reactâ€. It's so embarassing.
6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger
It's one of little emotions I can actually feel and openly express. I probably do it too often. However, I'm never bossy around people I just met, because they are difficult to predict and I don't know how to interact with them. I'm more aggressive towards better known people. And it's hard for me to set borders if someone isn't openly aggressive towards me.
b) Shame
The second of the emotions I experience. When I feel ashamed, I close my eyes, cover my head and repeat some phrases, calculate chess variants or solve maths in my head in order to turn my attention somewhere elese. Activating the pre-frontal cortex is the most effective way of coping with feelings.
c) Fear
I'm rarely scared. Maybe in front of animals. When I'm scared, I focus on thinking about the ways I could react when the danger actually appears, trying not to move suddenly and just walk away if possible. There is one thing I run away from in panic, but only because „not moving†doesn't convince me. Being a bit paranoid, I won't tell what it is. When I lose control over something, at the beginning I try to focus, quickly get annoyed and then react too emotionally. Losing control over the situation or seeing your plan in ruins is horrible. To be honest, I don't know how to cope with emotion and which way of showing them is correct.
To avoid it, I often have additional backup plans. From A to Z. When Z doesn't work, it's time to panic.
d) Love/passion
I spent some time thinking what is love and whether I'm capable of it or not. I decided to describe it as a feeling of loss in case someone dies. If I love someone, I would cry at their funeral and care for their trouble (when they are alive). Actually care instead of making a check-list of fulfilling my social responsibilities. There are not many people I love to that point, but these ones should have no doubt. And passion? In what meaning? If about love, I'm asexual.
e) Conflict
Between people, right? Not the inner conflict? If so, steam and sparkles. It's hard for me to take the blame, especially if I actually feel guilty. It's like a coping mechanism. I can be very stubborn and even manipulative (I'm trying to fix it) and easily get annoyed if something messes up with my plan. I'm an immature person for my age and am aware of it.
The main reason for conflicts are misunderstanding. Literally. People add an extra meaning to my words and get angry with me because of their insecurities. There is also my fault here, as I assume that the others understand the context of my communicate. I rarely think verbally of "in pictures", so it sometimes is hard to explain to someone what I mean.
Let's add that I often think what kind of emotional reaction is expected, not what I actually experience. Because I either feel nothing or anger in various ways.
7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you’ve been unable to conquer, ect)?
1. Bullying in the primary school (I was 8-12), which made me more private, distrustful, sensitive to criticism and less confident. Until then I was a volcano of energy, jumping from one corner to another in breaks from reading books and shooting people around me with tons of questions. I was really talkative and open to the people.
2. My parents' divorce (I was 13), being abandoned by my dad with whom I had a really good relationship, financial problems. I started working at the age of 14, as a children tutor and don't regret it. It was an opportunity to revise some knowledge, practice communication and get some experience, that could be useful during my further career.
8) Answer only one of the following:
What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal?
Physics is my main field of interests. It has been since preschool childhood. Of course, not on academic level, but I read books about space or nature and discussed it with everyone I met on the street. Honestly, it could be annoying for the other children. However, the adult strangers in public communication were nice listeners.
When I was at the age of fourteen, I told myself "stop dreaming, start planning" after learning who I wanted to be. At that time I planned to work in NASA, that's the difference, and now I have much more specific and appropriate to my field of interest goals. The only thing I would change here is my burning out and grades. And my harmful „I must win†attitude.
I study also the second faculty, which is Pyschology, because I had very precise interests. Now, after two years of studying here, I see that I won't have a chance to develop my interests, so I'll probably give up on it.
9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on?
The first minutes of contact cost me much energy. I revise all of my learnt schemas of small talk and simultanously analyze the second person, which is really exhausting. The most imporant thing is communication clearness. I meet many communication obstacles and people usually misunderstand my words or intentions. The small talk can last ten minutes until I lose interest and want to walk away, if we don't have much in common with the second person. I prefer contacts that simulate me intelectually, what makes me feel refreshed and excited. My appearance might be childish, I guess, and people often think that I'm cute, naive and nice. It's not the way of first impression I want to make, though...
10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why?
I like making statistics about them! Without people, there wouldn't be any. Okay, now seriously, I neither hate them, nor love them. They just exist, whether I want it or not. If they interact with me, then, of course, it's time to make an opinion about these particular ones.
One of the biggest problems of the humanity is fear of innovation. The second one is interfering with the others' lives too much (unless their help would be useful, then it's a good time to disappear and not see anything). If they put as much engagement in fixing their own life as they put in telling the others what to do, the world would be a beatuful place. Next problem, making up imporant decisions based on irrational reasons – the most visible during election. Not thinking about the consequences. Not taking the responsibility for their actions. Thinking that only they are right. Being emotional in arguments or debates. Putting their lives in someone's hands. It all causes a big chaos and, indirectly, suffering of people they don't even know. We must remember that each action affects even a person living on the antipodes.
11) What are some of your hobbies and interests?
I like writing fiction, playing chess, studying history and maths.
13) How do you usually “hang out†with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction.
My friends don't live in my city. I rarely leave house, usually calling my friends instead. We discuss some ideas, talk about our common interests, sometimes discuss troubles. I'm comfortable with both sides being quiet, too. It happens often.
14) What is more important, actions or words? Why?
Both are imporant, it depends on the situation. Actions show what one person is ready to do for the second person, words are required for an effective communication. It's nice to know what the second person is going to do and be prepared for it. I prefer predictable environment.
15) Oh dear, you’ve been cursed by a witch! It’s ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose….
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!
„b†isn't much a curse. I can gain much knowledge, life experience, seek for patterns and maybe one day save the humanity. When I have enough, I can even prevent closest people from dying. There is a way I was cursed, too, right? So I can become a witch myself and lear her spells myself, maybe even turn the curse when I get bored? I don't like being trapped and seeing that there is no solution. I hope my body won't be getting older, of course.
If not „bâ€, I would consider „aâ€. Body sensations are not that important to me, it would be even better to stop eating tasty food, which is often expensive or junk. I don't like eating at all, chewing is tiring.
16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, ect.
I don't want to be unorganized, irrational, emotional or hysterical. I have emotional outbursts, but the reason is anger, madness, helplessness, not fear or seeking for attention. I don't want to be seen as vulnerable or pathetic. Dependent on others. No, no, no.
17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this?
Meaning stalking? Nah, I have more interesting things to do than watching someone's life. Even as a teen I never got interested in my idols' private life. Yeah, I know that Hetfield was raised in Christian Science and has some alcohol problems, that Orson Scott Card is a mormon and that Magnus Carlsen became the grandmaster at the age of 14 and that Stephen Hawking suffered from ALS, but reading too much about their private life would be both boring and embarassing. Same about people living nearby.
18) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies?
No surprises, please – the only ones I accept are surprise gifts, because I'm used to it. I've been making plans, lists and catalogues since childhood. When I was ten, I signed up written by me „books†with dates, wrote scenarios of plays and planned how the stage would look like. I was making cost lists for my future hotel and drew their plans. When I was 12, I counted and sorted by categories and alphabetically all of the books at home.
I can't think spontanously and when something unpredicted happens, I freeze or panic. I strongly rely on the plans. However, my desk is a bit messy and making a bed is not an every-day routine. I have inner order (13 labelled boxes, everything sorted there), but outside you can find some empty cups or papers I'm working on.
19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings?
Comfort is freedom and an ability to predict what is going to happen in my environment. Being prepared for it. Having solid A, B, C, D, E plans. Not being forced to used even C, but having Z in sleeve. I like to know where to look for things and have everything organized. However, I'm a bit lazy.
And MBTI:
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?
I'm almost sure that I have strong Te and annoying Fi. I also see much Ni in my life, because I don't literally think. I don't see any pictures in my head and rarely hear my inner voice. My thoughts are like dark matter. Invisible. I would type myself as an INTJ.
However, taking into account the fact that my disorders might influence it, I wouldn't be surprised if I was a hurt ENTP or ENTJ. If I'm a feeler, my main clue would be my childhood (when I was starting the conversations with basically anyone who wanted to hear about astronomy or square roots – it has changed after being bullied) and I would say that I'm an ENFJ.
My main problems with accepting the thought that I might be an INTJ are the facts that I'm quite open about my life (because I don't treat even „painful†events emotionally, they are just facts about me), I think much about the others' opinion, express my emotions loudly and seek attention.
I could add something more, like my self-description and other questionnaires, but I think there is already too much text. If there were any questions, I can answer them anytime. Thank you for your attention.
ONE REQUEST - please don't quote me in this thread.
Three years? Four? I might almost now my type, but be overthinking again. I strongly rely on the „outsideâ€, regulating emotions and perceiving myself through the others' eyes. Thus, sensing myself causes some trouble.
In the past I wrote some „type me†questions, rarely using the prepared questionnaires – but never posted them at all anywhere. The first time I did was on the Reddit (and got typed as an ESTJ, which I doubt), a few days ago. If you were interested, I prepared a merged screenshot of my answers. However, I have no idea how to add it in a correct size. Tinypic could work, but these pictures stop working after some time.
I let myself check what kind of things are useful during typing process and decided to add some attachements:
- OCEAN (below)
- family tree (below)
- functions tests (Te > Ti > Ni > Ne > Fi > Si > Fe > Se)
- enneagram: I lately got convinced to 153. Used to think that 3w4 would fit.
- I'm diagnosed with mixed personality disorder (narcissistic and obsessive-compulsive) and OCD. Due to my crossed lateralization, I have high functioning dyslexia and don't differentiate left from right. In my native language the mistakes occur extremely rarely, but in English it is much more common for me to make a spelling mistake. Which I, as a perfectionist, dislike. My sight-movement coordination is weaker than average.
The OCEAN:
What causes the most trouble? As a child I was different than I am currently. I'll add a description of my childhood behaviour because I think that it might be important.
Before turning eight I was really easy-going and physically active. My family spoilt me, an only-child (at that moment), a bit, but I wasn't arrogant or selfish – rather stubborn like a donkey, loving being the center of attention during family gathering and could get hysterical if I didn't get what I wanted. On the other hand, I used to read much, say hello to everyone and prepare hand-made gifts for my parents. When I corrected the pre-school teacher, I wanted to share my knowledge (or maybe boast a bit) and waited for a praise. I got punished, instead
Science accompanied me since kindergarten. While I learnt how to read, count etc. quickly, I was slower than the other children in things like riding a bike, tying shoes knots, doing sports. I enjoyed playing puzzles or drawing and cutting out nucleotides (seen in „Once upon a time... Life†series) from paper, but drawing and writing weren't so easy. It's hard to say whether I played with the other children or by myself. I enjoyed some company, that's what I remember, but spent much time alone, too.
One memory that still nurtures me - I was very honest. When I felt guilty, I confessed, even if these were silly things. My parents calmed me down, never pushing me to do such a thing, but it was very stressful to me. I felt really bad that I can't confess to my bullies that I told my parents on them. It felt like... not telling the truth breaks some kind of consistency.
Later, when I was 7-14, I still focused on science (until my parents' divorce). I enjoyed spending free time outdoors with other kids or playing video games. It was also the period when I started writing first stories, scene plays or childish poetry. I think that I spent really much time reading and playing. Like a normal child. Bullying occured when I skipped the second grade and my class teacher didn't accept me. A few people in my new class liked me and my life wasn't limited to the classroom, so I had some pals. Even as a kid I was perfectionist, ambitious and was worrying about my achievements. When I was six, for the first time I started to think that when you are a child, your achievements count more than when you are older and since then have been constantly thinking about running time. I didn't want to grow older.
Many creative tasks I did had to be well planned, not only including my first books or plays, but also creating families in the Sims. I gathered lists or notes and corrected spelling mistakes in books. My room was messy, though.
Mayflower's questionnaire:
1. During your youth (7'ish to 18), What did you focus on the most? What activities did you like and why? What aspect of life was lax in attention?
I liked reading books, handcrafting and playing outdoors, especially role-playing games - like the military, secret agents or school. I was also deeply focused on education, interested in maths, science or literature. My main focus were achievements, even though my family never pushed me towards them.
2. You're in you senior year of high school (or whatever equivalent) and you are looking back over the last couple of years. What was your favorite aspect of the schooling experience and why? Favorite subject and why?
Hard question. I never liked school, but there were a few teachers who made their lessons interesting and set foundations for my future education. I enjoyed playing in the school theatre (excluding the moment when I was a director, scenarist and an actor... what resulted in ruining the play by saying the wrong part. It was a class play, though, not the theatre extra-curriculars), writing for the art newspaper. There are a few people I was glad to have an opportunity to meet, even if we don't contact each others now.
I liked many subjects, but my favourites were Polish, maths, history, science and German. Well, everything could be interesting. I hated P.E.
3. A couple of friends call and invite you out to a restaurant. While there, you all are pleasantly conversing and one of your friends makes a comment that irked you. What are you're thoughts and how do you respond?
It depends... Is it my friend? Like,a close friend? Then he probably didn't do it intentionally and will soon understand from my face and glance that he did something wrong. If it wasn't someone extremely trusted, I would feel rising blood pressures, making my cheeks become red. I'm really sensitive to criticism. I would probably start defending myself, denying his words, or arguing. Maybe it would worsen the situation. After that I would seem insulted, maybe leave without a word and later tell him what I think. If these people laughed and didn't believe my statement, I wouldn't want to stay with these people any longer. I would complain to my close friend about the situation, feeling angry, upset and treated unfair.
4. Your schooling is done and it's time to strike out into the world!! What sort of career do you want to go into and why?
I described it below, so let's make it short – science, because I'm interested in it and want to achieve something academically.
5. A friend is getting married and they put you in charge of the cake. You narrowed it down to two places to make an order. The first is a bakery with whom you got a good relationship with. The other is a well-known cake maker to whom everyone goes to (your friend hints to it as well). Which one do you choose and why?
God, I don't have so many friends to go to a restaurant or have two different bakers recommended
Let's mark my friend as A and the well-known baker as B.
It depends on prices and the taste of the food. Which relationship is more important to me, the baker's or the young couple's? Is my friend, who recommends B, getting married? Well, then it's their decision where to buy the cake! If not, I think that buying it from A doesn't affect my relationship with the young couple, but could help my friend. Who would do their best to make a perfect cake in return. It's an advertisement for them. For me it's just a cake, I don't care about flavours too much. From my point of view buying from A has more advantages, unless their cake tastes worse.
6. You get into an argument with a friend/family member/co-worker. They criticize one of your personality traits. What would most likely be the focus of their critique?
Everyone criticizes me for something different. For being rude, too nice, unemotional, too emotional, overdramatic, not dramatic at all, scatterbrained, unhappy, too happy, asocial, seeking attention, arrogant, unassertive. My greatest fear is that someone might criticize me for low intellect or lack of knowledge.
At work I might hear that I am scatterbrained or try to do too much at once. That I put too much pressure on myself. Or that I rely on someone's instructions too much (lately I'm really scared of failure and making mistakes). Or that I don't listen to someone's advices and now everything the best.
My friends don't criticize my personality, but some people would say that I'm too confident that I know everything the best and that I treat them too cold when they need warmth.
7. It's New Years! You and your friends are out and about after a party. Being drunk, one of your friends suggests to do something....'questionable' (Nothing serious. I.e, drugs, escort, etc.). What are your thoughts and how do you respond?
I've never been such a party person like in this questionnaire
I can't even imagine this situation happening in real life.I don't do questionable things. I'm a boring person who has never tried alcohol and doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, won't take drugs, won't even go to a New Years eve party. Okay, let's assume I did. If my friend wants to do something risky and it is a close to me person, I would try to persuade them not to do it. I would probably insist on going home – they must be really drunk if they suggest something like that. Not because I think drinking is wrong, but because I know my friends and would be worried that something bad is going on.
8. A new art gallery opens up and your friend wants to go to the grand opening. Both of you analyze all the paintings and sculptures. What about these works warrants the most attention from you? Why?
Meaning or interesting form of presenting shapes. Like there are two things when you watch from different angles. Or smaller elements are connected into a bigger one. I like looking for hidden meanings or riddles contained in art. I could also try to recall the historical context of creation.
9. You have been saving up and decide to buy a new car. At the dealership, you peruse the lots. What are the criteria and factors that influence your choice? Which one would initially be your main focus?
I want it to be in a good shape so I don't have to go to the workshop too soon. It should be efficient, too, because I don't want to pay too much for it. It's better to do it once.
10. Yep, you now have a kid (sex of your choosing)! Years pass and they are now 15 years old. You notice their personality traits are the complete opposite of how you were when at their age. Describe how they are. Describe the possible conflicts that would arise between both of you due to differing temperaments.
Interesting one. This kid would probably be focused on their physical appearance more than on education. They would go to parties, maybe do irresponsible things and I would be worried for them. Yeah, they would be irresponsible, I guess. They care about an opinion of everyone else around, having no own, but not mine. Their free-spirit and dangerous behaviour would lead to conflicts. Not because I want them to be my perfect extension of myself, but because I don't want them to suffer. Their lack of academic ambition isn't a problem for me, because it's their life, not mine. When they are 15 years old, they make up their decisions mostly by themselves, but if they break the rules set by both of us, constantly lies to me and shows no remorse for it, I feel cheated. However, I hope that we've had good contact so far and we can resolve any conflict by discussion and respecting each other.
RadicalDoubt's questionnaire:
1) Context:
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect?
Poland. I could describe my religious or political beliefs, but it would take much space. I don't think it has an effect on my personality. I'm twenty two years old and study both physics (5th grade) and psychology (2nd grade). I'm more theoretician than an observer.
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?
I wanted to avoid answering this kind of question because it could suggest the answer. Thus, I allowed myself to slightly change the order of questions and put this one at the end. That's the reason why I didn't put the type I suspect on my profile and decided not to add an avatar yet.
2) What do you deem as your purpose in life?
My main goal is becoming a respected scientist and a fiction writer. I wish my life was meaningful in this way – being able to answer some questions about the nature is very important to me.
No matter how vain it looks, my narcissism makes me believe I desire fame. However, the imagination of being observed, judged and exposed to criticism makes me think that the fame is not what I truly want (that's why I felt uncomfortable as a religious believer). It's nothing more than my low self-esteem and desire of acceptance.
3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why?
Most? Easy! Pride or envy, they are linked. I'm afraid it would be very visible in this post.
And least? It's more difficult, maybe gluttony or lust?
4) Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
a) The type of people you are drawn to
INFJs, ENTPs, ISTPs
b) The type of people who are drawn to you
INFJs, INTPs, INFPs, ENFPs
c) The type of people you are repulsed by
I don't know these people well enough to type them.
5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate.
Lack of emotion. I don't experience much feelings, but am sensitive to criticism. It would be better to show no emotion, appear unimpressed, silent and shrugging when being insulted or treated unfair. I strongly dislike my outburts of anger, when the situation is overwhelming and I can't see the pattern „how to reactâ€. It's so embarassing.
6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger
It's one of little emotions I can actually feel and openly express. I probably do it too often. However, I'm never bossy around people I just met, because they are difficult to predict and I don't know how to interact with them. I'm more aggressive towards better known people. And it's hard for me to set borders if someone isn't openly aggressive towards me.
b) Shame
The second of the emotions I experience. When I feel ashamed, I close my eyes, cover my head and repeat some phrases, calculate chess variants or solve maths in my head in order to turn my attention somewhere elese. Activating the pre-frontal cortex is the most effective way of coping with feelings.
c) Fear
I'm rarely scared. Maybe in front of animals. When I'm scared, I focus on thinking about the ways I could react when the danger actually appears, trying not to move suddenly and just walk away if possible. There is one thing I run away from in panic, but only because „not moving†doesn't convince me. Being a bit paranoid, I won't tell what it is. When I lose control over something, at the beginning I try to focus, quickly get annoyed and then react too emotionally. Losing control over the situation or seeing your plan in ruins is horrible. To be honest, I don't know how to cope with emotion and which way of showing them is correct.
To avoid it, I often have additional backup plans. From A to Z. When Z doesn't work, it's time to panic.
d) Love/passion
I spent some time thinking what is love and whether I'm capable of it or not. I decided to describe it as a feeling of loss in case someone dies. If I love someone, I would cry at their funeral and care for their trouble (when they are alive). Actually care instead of making a check-list of fulfilling my social responsibilities. There are not many people I love to that point, but these ones should have no doubt. And passion? In what meaning? If about love, I'm asexual.
e) Conflict
Between people, right? Not the inner conflict? If so, steam and sparkles. It's hard for me to take the blame, especially if I actually feel guilty. It's like a coping mechanism. I can be very stubborn and even manipulative (I'm trying to fix it) and easily get annoyed if something messes up with my plan. I'm an immature person for my age and am aware of it.
The main reason for conflicts are misunderstanding. Literally. People add an extra meaning to my words and get angry with me because of their insecurities. There is also my fault here, as I assume that the others understand the context of my communicate. I rarely think verbally of "in pictures", so it sometimes is hard to explain to someone what I mean.
Let's add that I often think what kind of emotional reaction is expected, not what I actually experience. Because I either feel nothing or anger in various ways.
7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you’ve been unable to conquer, ect)?
1. Bullying in the primary school (I was 8-12), which made me more private, distrustful, sensitive to criticism and less confident. Until then I was a volcano of energy, jumping from one corner to another in breaks from reading books and shooting people around me with tons of questions. I was really talkative and open to the people.
2. My parents' divorce (I was 13), being abandoned by my dad with whom I had a really good relationship, financial problems. I started working at the age of 14, as a children tutor and don't regret it. It was an opportunity to revise some knowledge, practice communication and get some experience, that could be useful during my further career.
8) Answer only one of the following:
What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal?
Physics is my main field of interests. It has been since preschool childhood. Of course, not on academic level, but I read books about space or nature and discussed it with everyone I met on the street. Honestly, it could be annoying for the other children. However, the adult strangers in public communication were nice listeners.
When I was at the age of fourteen, I told myself "stop dreaming, start planning" after learning who I wanted to be. At that time I planned to work in NASA, that's the difference, and now I have much more specific and appropriate to my field of interest goals. The only thing I would change here is my burning out and grades. And my harmful „I must win†attitude.
I study also the second faculty, which is Pyschology, because I had very precise interests. Now, after two years of studying here, I see that I won't have a chance to develop my interests, so I'll probably give up on it.
9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on?
The first minutes of contact cost me much energy. I revise all of my learnt schemas of small talk and simultanously analyze the second person, which is really exhausting. The most imporant thing is communication clearness. I meet many communication obstacles and people usually misunderstand my words or intentions. The small talk can last ten minutes until I lose interest and want to walk away, if we don't have much in common with the second person. I prefer contacts that simulate me intelectually, what makes me feel refreshed and excited. My appearance might be childish, I guess, and people often think that I'm cute, naive and nice. It's not the way of first impression I want to make, though...
10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why?
I like making statistics about them! Without people, there wouldn't be any. Okay, now seriously, I neither hate them, nor love them. They just exist, whether I want it or not. If they interact with me, then, of course, it's time to make an opinion about these particular ones.
One of the biggest problems of the humanity is fear of innovation. The second one is interfering with the others' lives too much (unless their help would be useful, then it's a good time to disappear and not see anything). If they put as much engagement in fixing their own life as they put in telling the others what to do, the world would be a beatuful place. Next problem, making up imporant decisions based on irrational reasons – the most visible during election. Not thinking about the consequences. Not taking the responsibility for their actions. Thinking that only they are right. Being emotional in arguments or debates. Putting their lives in someone's hands. It all causes a big chaos and, indirectly, suffering of people they don't even know. We must remember that each action affects even a person living on the antipodes.
11) What are some of your hobbies and interests?
I like writing fiction, playing chess, studying history and maths.
13) How do you usually “hang out†with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction.
My friends don't live in my city. I rarely leave house, usually calling my friends instead. We discuss some ideas, talk about our common interests, sometimes discuss troubles. I'm comfortable with both sides being quiet, too. It happens often.
14) What is more important, actions or words? Why?
Both are imporant, it depends on the situation. Actions show what one person is ready to do for the second person, words are required for an effective communication. It's nice to know what the second person is going to do and be prepared for it. I prefer predictable environment.
15) Oh dear, you’ve been cursed by a witch! It’s ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose….
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!
„b†isn't much a curse. I can gain much knowledge, life experience, seek for patterns and maybe one day save the humanity. When I have enough, I can even prevent closest people from dying. There is a way I was cursed, too, right? So I can become a witch myself and lear her spells myself, maybe even turn the curse when I get bored? I don't like being trapped and seeing that there is no solution. I hope my body won't be getting older, of course.
If not „bâ€, I would consider „aâ€. Body sensations are not that important to me, it would be even better to stop eating tasty food, which is often expensive or junk. I don't like eating at all, chewing is tiring.
16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, ect.
I don't want to be unorganized, irrational, emotional or hysterical. I have emotional outbursts, but the reason is anger, madness, helplessness, not fear or seeking for attention. I don't want to be seen as vulnerable or pathetic. Dependent on others. No, no, no.
17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this?
Meaning stalking? Nah, I have more interesting things to do than watching someone's life. Even as a teen I never got interested in my idols' private life. Yeah, I know that Hetfield was raised in Christian Science and has some alcohol problems, that Orson Scott Card is a mormon and that Magnus Carlsen became the grandmaster at the age of 14 and that Stephen Hawking suffered from ALS, but reading too much about their private life would be both boring and embarassing. Same about people living nearby.
18) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies?
No surprises, please – the only ones I accept are surprise gifts, because I'm used to it. I've been making plans, lists and catalogues since childhood. When I was ten, I signed up written by me „books†with dates, wrote scenarios of plays and planned how the stage would look like. I was making cost lists for my future hotel and drew their plans. When I was 12, I counted and sorted by categories and alphabetically all of the books at home.
I can't think spontanously and when something unpredicted happens, I freeze or panic. I strongly rely on the plans. However, my desk is a bit messy and making a bed is not an every-day routine. I have inner order (13 labelled boxes, everything sorted there), but outside you can find some empty cups or papers I'm working on.
19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings?
Comfort is freedom and an ability to predict what is going to happen in my environment. Being prepared for it. Having solid A, B, C, D, E plans. Not being forced to used even C, but having Z in sleeve. I like to know where to look for things and have everything organized. However, I'm a bit lazy.
And MBTI:
b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?
I'm almost sure that I have strong Te and annoying Fi. I also see much Ni in my life, because I don't literally think. I don't see any pictures in my head and rarely hear my inner voice. My thoughts are like dark matter. Invisible. I would type myself as an INTJ.
However, taking into account the fact that my disorders might influence it, I wouldn't be surprised if I was a hurt ENTP or ENTJ. If I'm a feeler, my main clue would be my childhood (when I was starting the conversations with basically anyone who wanted to hear about astronomy or square roots – it has changed after being bullied) and I would say that I'm an ENFJ.
My main problems with accepting the thought that I might be an INTJ are the facts that I'm quite open about my life (because I don't treat even „painful†events emotionally, they are just facts about me), I think much about the others' opinion, express my emotions loudly and seek attention.
I could add something more, like my self-description and other questionnaires, but I think there is already too much text. If there were any questions, I can answer them anytime. Thank you for your attention.
ONE REQUEST - please don't quote me in this thread.
