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    Default 31/F: What's my MBTI and Enneagram type? Please help

    Hi, I'm a 31 year old woman from England. Non-religious. I've chosen a mix of questions from the questionaiire's provided to give enough info for you to go on

    Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?

    I usually test as INFP but I also relate to many aspects INFJ, ISFJ, ISFP, ENFP and even ISTP. I have trouble seeing myself objectively so it's difficult to see how I present myself to others. I was a terribly shy kid so I've always thought I was an introvert but now I'm wondering if I could just by a shy extrovert because I do love socialising (and my friends think I'm less introverted than I think I am). In terms of enneagram I flutter between 4,6 and 9.

    What do you deem as your purpose in life?

    I don't really believe in destiny or anything like that, but I know that I feel at my best when I'm creating something (either a piece of artwork or short story) and inspiring others, offering my empathy and support in one-on-one situations, experiencing something new for the first time, or partaking in something humanitarian. I push myself to arrange meet-ups and host local events regularly -- not so much because I enjoy hosting but because I get a great deal of satisfaction when I can bring others together and we’re bonding over a new experience. I tend to do all the planning/initiating and then sit in the background and let others take over from there (sort of like a catalyst -- I want to prompt change but not deal with all the details and organizing). It’s weird but I tend to have a lot more confidence if I’m the person in charge of a group than if I’m the person tagging along. If I’m joining a new situation where people already know each other, I get very reserved and uncomfortable.

    Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why?

    Most = Sloth, because I have trouble getting things done straight away. I tend to over-complicate projects because of my need for perfection so I end up procrastinating.

    Least = Greed, because I'd feel too guilty if I had more than others.

    Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
    a) The type of people you are drawn to

    I'm drawn to creative types, people who are somewhat alternative and often intensely emotional. I'm also drawn to laid-back, happy-go-lucky-types because they always perk me up and make me feel accepted.

    b) The type of people who are drawn to you

    Dominant, extroverts tend to be drawn to me because I'm told I'm cute and people just want to look after me.

    c) The type of people you are repulsed by

    Overly rational, conservative types who look down on people who are 'different' or liberal.

    What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate.

    I've always envied and admired bubbly, free-spirited people who live and let live and don't worry about what others think of them. They often take off on their own little adventure without a plan. I'm too reserved and conscientious to do that.

    What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?

    I've had long conversations about the psychology of other people in my life, the underlying reasons for why they behave the way they do (I love putting people into categories based on their unique traits). I've had a lot of in-depth conversations about darker topics and deep emotions. I like escape rooms and logic puzzles. I like to pick apart a movie I've just watched or predict what will happen in the movie based on overall concepts, standards and norms (e.g. I bet he turns out to be the son of that guy because that would be an interesting twist and that's the kind of thing movies normally do). Sometimes I spoil movies for myself in that way. I just enjoy going beyond convention and exploring everything there is to explore.

    If you were a fruit or vegetable, what fruit or vegetable would you be?

    An avocado -- I have a fairly hard outer shell that isn't very eye-catching, but inside you see I'm super colourful and mushy and I'm really good for you :P

    Describe your relationship with the following:
    a) Anger

    I rarely get angry as I'm pretty meek and mild. I tend to get frustrated if a particular person is being passive-aggressive towards me and my frustrations will build and build until eventually I may explode into an emotional rage...but that's rare because it's important to me to maintain a peaceful inner state.

    b) Shame

    I tend to feel shame quite often. I tend to constantly worry about things I've said and if I'm a bad person. I fear being vulnerable with others so I often appear rather reserved/aloof. I tend to internalise shame and feel guilty if someone gets upset because of something I may have said/done.

    c) Fear

    I'm a very anxious person in general, so fear is a big thing for me. I try and deal with fear by overthinking, second-guessing and seeking outside sources for advice and reassurance.

    d) Love/passion

    I'm a very sentimental person and I feel love and passion very deeply, but not many people would know this because I rarely share my feelings. I tend to show my feelings through actions as opposed to words (e.g. getting someone a thoughtful gift or offering my time and company).

    e) Conflict

    I don't really like to invite tension and drama into my life so I have the tendency to withdraw and remove myself from the source of conflict completely. If I do have to confront someone I tend to prepare and plan my words ahead of time because I know that I get emotional and shaky otherwise. I don't like unpredictability in social situations at all so I need to know what steps I'm going to take in advance.

    What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you’ve been unable to conquer, ect)?

    Social anxiety has always been a black cloud hanging over me, and as much as I've pushed myself to go out more and meet new people, I will always struggle to integrate myself into wider society and be around the same people day-in day-out.

    What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal?

    I work in live chat support at the moment. I chose it because I get to work from home and I enjoy using my writing skills, intuition and empathy to help people without having to speak to them verbally. I have also worked in web content management and copywriting because I like using my creativity to entertain others, especially in a comedic way. I love getting praise for my imagination and wit. My ideal job would be working in a non-profit company, raising awareness and also doing some work with nature on the side (e.g. gardener, park ranger) because being around nature makes me feel happy and inspired.

    When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on?

    I tend to focus on myself actually, how I'm coming across and if they're going fit into my life. And if I say something a little risky, I'm then studying their reaction to see if I've affected them in anyway, wondering "should I have said that?".

    How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why?

    I feel like humanity is divided between left-wing and right-wing people and therefore we'll never come to a universal understanding of one another. The left will see the right as selfish and overly patriotic and the right will see the left as 'snowflakey' and lazy.

    If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?

    I'd be really concerned my child would feel pressured to conform to society or would feel low self-esteem or lack of direction (all things I experienced as a kid). I'd probably try and encourage my kid early on to listen to their heart more and do what made them happy. I'd try and lead by example by making myself into the best version of me so my kid would see me as a role model. I'd want them to feel like there was no set path they had to follow and as long as they were doing their best that was okay.

    How do you respond to clingy people?

    I don't mind so much. I feel sort of flattered they want my attention. But I'll probably begin to ignore them a little if they get too much. I don't really like to tell someone to stop talking to me because I know they must be lonely/lost and I'm the kind of person that people feel comfortable with because I'm empathetic and understand their feelings so I want to be there for them if they desperately need me.

    How do you usually “hang out” with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction.

    I'll post a suggestion in the group chat and hope that enough people will be interested so we can arrange it together -- the more, the merrier. Usually I have one or two favourite friends I hope will show up more than the others. I don't tend to initiate on a one-to-one basis often.

    Oh dear, you’ve been cursed by a witch! It’s ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose….
    a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
    b) To be immortal
    c) To lose your memories
    d) To be poor for the rest of your life
    e) Or to never experience passion

    I hate all of those options, but if I HAD to choose I'd choose to be poor for the rest of my life (through process of elimination). I feel like other people may agree to look after me. I treasure my memories more than anything -- they're what make me who I am. I'd hate to outlive everyone I loved, and I'd feel so bored if I never experienced passion again.

    What did you like about your favorite story book from childhood?

    I liked that it was really unique and fantasy-based. It made me feel like magic existed and that there was more to life than meets the eye. It got me excited about the night sky and the things that may be lurking beyond...

    Organised or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies?

    I'd say I was somewhere between the two. I can let my house get very messy but it will bother me, and I'll need to dedicate a day to myself in order to get it all back to shape again. I do have a place for everything and I do like order but I do have a lot of trouble maintaining it. I also love surprises but I do plan ahead (at least in a rough way) but it's not something that came naturally to me. I think I learned as I got older to prepare ahead.

    How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings?

    Life for me, is all about being comfortable. I’m really fond of my belongings, my memoribilia, nostalgic symbols. I have a strong memory of my own personal experience so I can revisit moments and conversations from my past word for word. I’m usually the first to pick out if someone says something that doesn’t align with what they said in the past.

    I care a lot about my surroundings and home decor etc. I'm moving house next year and I've already planned which theme I want each room to be in. Every time I come across an overall design I like, I save it for inspiration. I'm definitely more about the overall vision than the details. I try to incorporate a mix of nostalgia and familiarity along with an overall theme so that when people come to visit me they'll see the best version of me and everything will relate to my character.

    A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?

    Inwardly, I'd feel shocked and disturbed by their claims, like "how can you possibly think that?", but outwardly I'd be more accepting and calm and try and say "I get where you're coming from, but don't you think that blah blah, because that's what I think is best". I always try and be tactful when I'm speaking to prevent any attacks on my character.

    Define justice!

    I think everything needs to be viewed on a case by case basis and I think it's all about intent with a person. You can't judge someone just based on their actions and words; it's also about their motives, why they are in the place they are today and if they can be saved.

    In what areas of your life would you like help?

    I need help getting motivated on a daily basis, to do things like exercise, chores, finish the book I've been putting off etc. I just feel like if I don't have an overall goal, I don't see the point. So then I set an unrealistic goal for myself and it feels too overwhelming... so I procrastinate more. The cycle continues.

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    925 sx/sp


    I'd guess enneagram 9w1 sp/so, with a strong 2 in your tritype of 926.
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