Based on those definitions, both 469 and 369 are possible. However, e4 is a reclusive type, so I'm skeptical in putting it as a main fix.
I do place a great value in bonding, and I think the definition "warm, yet distant" is really accurate. NTs usually are more aloof than me, but it's also true that they are usually either sx or sp. So that's were the word "bonding" becomes confusing. It is in a sx way? Or just social? Or is it defined by the instinct?
But the reason I'm so warm and fuzzy with people is because I think that if I let myself be as distant as I would, I would end up alone. It's being so reactive to the events that I can't explain. But maybe it's a 6 thing, which is the only type I'm sure of.
369 is also supposed to be the most common tritype, so it's not impossible I am one. The problem is that I'm starting to doubt that 9 fix. 9w1 is usually the most common gut type for NPs, so I had initially thought it had to be the one. But I've noticed I'm more reactive and warm than that.
So, could you explain to me how do 9w8 and type 4 show in a Ti-dom such as [MENTION=22257]Tater[/MENTION]? If you don't want to it's fine, of course.
Enneagram has always been confusing to me because it has a lot of variables involved, and I've never found a good way to unify them in a coherent model.