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- Preface - I read the book he refers to when I was in High School and can attribute it to a fundamental difference and value in my ability to relate to each others, which helped me get what I wanted.
In this video he will talk about how INTJs can win friends and influence people. INTJs are the most dissatisfied with friends - they have few and sometimes none. This video has pointers:
1. Put yourself in a position where you can interact with people - school, work, clubs - need more contact to have a friend
2. Need to be friendly and smile. You want to give them something they can read to show you are friendly and approachable. Smile - it makes you appear friendly, Make eye contact, shake their hands
3. Go into the social situation with some ideas of small talk topics relevant to the event to talk about.
4. Ask a lot of follow up questions. People love to talk about themselves.
5. Don't be so rude and blunt. We tend to speak our minds and say whatever we think without considering whether someone would be upset. Benjamin Franklin (ENTP) had this problem - a quaker friend told him - he was blunt, debating, arrogant, rude, abrasive, correcting people, and people got really tired of him. He began to use more open language - i think, i believe and stop debating people. People started to like him more then.
6. Stop trying to debate everyone. It turns them off. THey don't like being told they are wrong.
7. Maintain a professional demeanor and attire when you go to an event Dress dress shirt that is neutral, son't swear
8 Read How to Win Friends and Influence People - Billionaire Warren Buffet said he read it and it helped him.
