Hello. I been pondering on this question for many years, I spend countless years and hours of my time looking and sorting truth variety of sources both scientific as well as opinionated. And I still haven't obtain a satisfactory response to my question. Since my early childhood age I seemed different, I did not like to engage in social conversations, I did not like people to come over and play with me and I lived a rather solitary lifestyle. I however enjoyed fantasizing about the future with a realistic lense, I enjoyed drawing, I enjoyed playing with LEGO as well as taking this apart just to see what makes them up.
However as I grown older I realized I lack a lot of things, my 1st relationship was when I was 22. This happened to last only 6 months, which hit me. What hit me is that me saying "I love you" to my former girlfriend was nothing more than empty statement just to make her feel happy, spending hours talking with her started to annoy me rather quick and in general I started hating the whole relationship thing. I found it odd because I was rather hyped in the start and then as things moved along I became annoyed and bored. But this is nothing new to me, I will get hyped over something and over time grow tired of it, it's as if my brain requires constant input of new information and new sensory data.
To be quite frank I don't enjoy to use people and I came to a bit of a twisted conclusion that I function perfectly fine as a single "Unit" however, even truth I can function fine as a single "Unit" I still would need some maintenance, which in this case would be a "Sexual" connection. The problem with this is that Hookups or No-Strings-Attached is deemed as "Using" in my own moral policy, which becomes a Catch 22. So after much consideration I decided to give the dating world a try once again after a good 2 year break, what striked me as I turned 24 more girls started to approach me on dating sites and yet I still get bored of their simple and at times bit over the top views. What also hits me and a lot of times annoys me is that I'm a rather simple, realistic and blunt individual yet when I talk to people who claim similar I come to a conclusion that their statement is invalid and is a loads of bullshit. For example it strikes me how many shallow individuals there are in the dating pool, it strikes me how many women have unrealistic requirements of having "a Romantic" 1st date.
So with all this said, what is your opinion on the topic of ISTPs being unable to obtain a relationship where they are actually happy. I know as an ISTPs I'm driven by logic, I lack trust and I take my time with decisions. Which at times comes off as cold and distant or aloof with a handful of woman.
Thank you
However as I grown older I realized I lack a lot of things, my 1st relationship was when I was 22. This happened to last only 6 months, which hit me. What hit me is that me saying "I love you" to my former girlfriend was nothing more than empty statement just to make her feel happy, spending hours talking with her started to annoy me rather quick and in general I started hating the whole relationship thing. I found it odd because I was rather hyped in the start and then as things moved along I became annoyed and bored. But this is nothing new to me, I will get hyped over something and over time grow tired of it, it's as if my brain requires constant input of new information and new sensory data.
To be quite frank I don't enjoy to use people and I came to a bit of a twisted conclusion that I function perfectly fine as a single "Unit" however, even truth I can function fine as a single "Unit" I still would need some maintenance, which in this case would be a "Sexual" connection. The problem with this is that Hookups or No-Strings-Attached is deemed as "Using" in my own moral policy, which becomes a Catch 22. So after much consideration I decided to give the dating world a try once again after a good 2 year break, what striked me as I turned 24 more girls started to approach me on dating sites and yet I still get bored of their simple and at times bit over the top views. What also hits me and a lot of times annoys me is that I'm a rather simple, realistic and blunt individual yet when I talk to people who claim similar I come to a conclusion that their statement is invalid and is a loads of bullshit. For example it strikes me how many shallow individuals there are in the dating pool, it strikes me how many women have unrealistic requirements of having "a Romantic" 1st date.
So with all this said, what is your opinion on the topic of ISTPs being unable to obtain a relationship where they are actually happy. I know as an ISTPs I'm driven by logic, I lack trust and I take my time with decisions. Which at times comes off as cold and distant or aloof with a handful of woman.
Thank you
