[SP] Love Languages for SPs

[Lateralus]

All these words of affirmation and acts of service....

No wonder my ESTP thought he was always getting the brush off

Your ESTP? Quite possessive you are.

 

["?"]

I have a husband and a son who are both ISTPs.
One wants acts of service.
One wants gifts.

So was this receiving or giving or either. I clearly will give acts of service, however not necessarily want it in return. I would find verbal affirmations surprising even for extraverted types since SPs (or at least me) would prefer to do than talk. I would say
1. Acts of Service
2. Quality Time
Very distant follow-ups (and not necessarily in any certain order):
Receiving Gifts
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation

 

[aguanile]

My quiz scores were very close to what I thought.

8 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
4 Receiving of Gifts
3 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

 

[HomeSlice]

11 Words of Affirmation
9 Physical Touch
6 Quality Time
Receiving of Gifts and Acts of Service = insignificant

 

[Jeffster]

HomeSlice, I liked your old avatar better. That one is just freaky.

 

[Quinlan]

9 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
9 Physical Touch
2 Receiving of Gifts
1 Acts of Service

 

[riel]

ISFPs I think it seems to be 1. Acts of Service 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts.

For me:

1) Acts of Service 2) Physical Touch 3) Quality time(obviously)

* I don't really believe in Receiving Gifts though..your special someone can give you gifts but does not love you anymore.

 

[mcmartinez84]

It's supposed to be how you feel most loved (quality time--when someone focuses on you as an individual, truly listens to what you're saying, etc.; physical touch--when someone gives you a pat on the shoulder, a hug, an affirming head-pat, sex, etc.; words of affirmation--verbal expressions of your unique qualities and value as a person; acts of service--taking out the garbage, doing your laundry, helping you move, mowing the lawn, etc.; gifts--tokens, small and not so small tangible, material things given to you that show they thought about you and thought that you were worth their money to buy something or time to craft something for you).

1) Quality time - probably spent doing some fun activity together, likely outdoors... Eventually this will be combined with some physical touch.
2) Acts of service - I hate doing that crap and if anyone wants to do it for me, I'll like them all the better. I have a housekeeper now, so it wouldn't necessarily apply...but if I didn't...
3) Gifts - If someone can find a new gadget I'll like...
4) Physical touch & Words of affirmation - tied for last place. Either one of these by itself is lame.

 

[Poki]

i like to give:
1) acts of service
2) physical touch/quality time
3) words of affirmation
4) gifts


to receive:

1) quality time
2) physical touch
3) acts of service
4) words of affirmation
5) gifts

This is mine also. I have learned recently how important quality time is.

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

i like to give:

1) acts of service
2) physical touch/quality time
3) words of affirmation
4) gifts


to receive:

1) quality time
2) physical touch
3) acts of service
4) words of affirmation
5) gifts

This is exactly me. No changes. Wow...what an easy post!

 

[wildcat]

This is exactly me. No changes. Wow...what an easy post!

A secret society?
I thought I understood English.
Not any more. So be it.

Languages, they come and go.
Swahili, here I come

 

[brainheart]

Eww, blech. I can't even look at that website! It looks so... cheesy.

What would I say for me: doing household chores for me, holding a full-time job for me so I don't have to work, telling me that you dig me and find me attractive (and smart and creative and talented and funny), and... not being cheesy. Not pushing your agenda of what you consider to be romantic on me.

 

[Koocoomoo]

I am almost entirely positive that most ENFPs' number one is Words of Affirmation.
My number one is physical touch.
<3

 

[wolfy]

Physical touch is number one.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Actually the love languages is what makes you feel more loved?

Acts of service: cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, ect. does this make you feel like your mate truely cares about you?

Physical touch: is NOT sex. alot of people missinterpret that. so many males choose this. but really its how you touch someone. Does cuddling make you feel loved by your mate. holding hands...having your feet rubbed [if thats one lol]

Words of affrimation: having sweet nothings whispered into your ear, being told that you have an amazing sence of right and wrong, having someone write out a letter as to why the like/appreciate you. its not selfishness, its the way some people know/feel they're loved.

Gifts: do you tend to keep gifts that people give to you-even if its a little rock that your little kid brother gave to you 4 years ago? maybe that set of earrings you've wanted? people tend to feel loved by these because its a 'sign' of love to them. They can remember that day because of the gift they recieved.

Time together: this means taking a walk together, watching a movie, talking, anything that involves you and your mate spending time together. this results in the person feeling like you care about them so much that you'd take the time out of your day to just be with them.

All in all, your love language is what makes you feel more appreciated and loved. Everybody has a different love language, you just have to learn your mates so you can make them feel loved. And they can learn yours as well. :]

lol my mom did the whole study on this, so im pretty in tune with this stuff ;]

 

[ayoitsStepho]

oh and mine is probably in this order.

1. alone time
2. physical touch
3. words of afframation
4. gifts
5. acts of service.

 

[stellar renegade]

Physical touch: is NOT sex. alot of people missinterpret that. so many males choose this. but really its how you touch someone. Does cuddling make you feel loved by your mate. holding hands...having your feet rubbed [if thats one lol]

Very true. It's not all sex... but it does all lead to sex.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Very true. It's not all sex... but it does all lead to sex.

well, ok you win that one.