Ribonuke
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- Mar 16, 2012
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- esTP
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- sp/so
So it's recently come to my attention I have this bad habit of catalyzing conflicts.
For example: My s.o. is sometimes afraid of telling me things that might irritate me about his friends, because he's afraid I might end up addressing those friends the next time I end up seeing them. Why? Probably because I usually think if he's TELLING me about something that irritates him, he wants something done about it, but is in too much of a tenuous social position to be the one to do anything about it. I usually ask him first if I should intervene, but sometimes I end up misreading the situation and end up creating conflict that usually turns out later to have been 'completely avoidable'. (Childish Fe-fueled histrionics...bleh.)
Any other ESTPs here suffer from this problem?
For example: My s.o. is sometimes afraid of telling me things that might irritate me about his friends, because he's afraid I might end up addressing those friends the next time I end up seeing them. Why? Probably because I usually think if he's TELLING me about something that irritates him, he wants something done about it, but is in too much of a tenuous social position to be the one to do anything about it. I usually ask him first if I should intervene, but sometimes I end up misreading the situation and end up creating conflict that usually turns out later to have been 'completely avoidable'. (Childish Fe-fueled histrionics...bleh.)
Any other ESTPs here suffer from this problem?