Hey everyone, I'm new and hoping this is the right place to post. I need advice or insight into something thats driving me crazy. We were together almost 4 years, I have a child with him. Everything was great in the beginning of our relationship.
Long story short, he lied to me about silly things which really annoyed me, he got into a lot of debts and made financial mistakes leading us to finally, get evicted. I moved states to be with him, and I have issues with his family, so I moved back to live with my parents. Naturally for me after having so much stress and confusion from him, I slowed my contact right down. He has our child in his care. So contact with him literally cannot be cut off. He picked fights with me over the phone/text and I fired back as I am disappointed in him.
As soon as I'd left, he was constantly wanting contact with me/harassing me, it was very annoying as I needed time to firstly breathe, and think about things.
Anyway, now we are quite amicable. I have had a nervous breakdown (from the lies, stress and mother instinct - missing my child). I noticed on Facebook he was tagging this other girl and she was "liking" everything he posted. It took me days and days to drag it out of him.
I obviously want to fight for our family and relationship.. But, he has told this other girl he "likes" her, and he told me she said "me too". He is asking for space to decide what he wants. He said he isn't sure he wants to take a gamble with me again for me to take off and leave again.
I feel like he is just trying to let me down gently, seen as now I think I understand his lies about money - to avoid hurting me.
What do you ISTP's think? Thanks in advance!!
Long story short, he lied to me about silly things which really annoyed me, he got into a lot of debts and made financial mistakes leading us to finally, get evicted. I moved states to be with him, and I have issues with his family, so I moved back to live with my parents. Naturally for me after having so much stress and confusion from him, I slowed my contact right down. He has our child in his care. So contact with him literally cannot be cut off. He picked fights with me over the phone/text and I fired back as I am disappointed in him.
As soon as I'd left, he was constantly wanting contact with me/harassing me, it was very annoying as I needed time to firstly breathe, and think about things.
Anyway, now we are quite amicable. I have had a nervous breakdown (from the lies, stress and mother instinct - missing my child). I noticed on Facebook he was tagging this other girl and she was "liking" everything he posted. It took me days and days to drag it out of him.
I obviously want to fight for our family and relationship.. But, he has told this other girl he "likes" her, and he told me she said "me too". He is asking for space to decide what he wants. He said he isn't sure he wants to take a gamble with me again for me to take off and leave again.
I feel like he is just trying to let me down gently, seen as now I think I understand his lies about money - to avoid hurting me.
What do you ISTP's think? Thanks in advance!!