Common ISFP Issues

[Ravenetta]

Why

My mother is an ISFP, and I relate to her as much or more than anyone. I would like to type as one because I can in some ways identify with the type, but I don't know if it is a realistic typing for me. If I declare the type it would be because I think it's plausible. I waffle between whether it's close enough for jazz or just off-base.

Okay, so in a weird way it does make a lot of sense in my inner world, but I don't know if it makes sense in the outer world.

Wow, I just found this description of ISFPs and it's actually pretty close to how I am. It says they actually do take life seriously deep down, but seem light on the surface.

Portrait of an ISFP

[Gypsy-Flux]

[Fun in the Sun]

Is it just me, or do intuitives have an air of superiority? Jeeshhhh

[Smilephantomhive]

Is it just me, or do intuitives have an air of superiority? Jeeshhhh

Only insecure ones online.

[chickpea]

They are stupid, can be followers and getting them to tell you what's wrong is like pulling teeth, also they're not as strong or as good looking as me

this seems promising

[Peter Deadpan]

This is my new home. You're fucking stuck with me now.

[The Penguin]

Is it just me, or do intuitives have an air of superiority? Jeeshhhh

I don't know, but most ESTPs that I've met fit that description.

[Peter Deadpan]

This is my new home. You're fucking stuck with me now.

I'm so obnoxious.

[Ravenetta]

I'll post this in this quiet little corner of the universe. One reason I relate to ISFP has to do with the way I am with intimacy. I think possibly other ISFPs could relate based on what I know about the generalized theory of the type.

Being a Fi- dom I care a lot about meaningful intimacy and values. I can't just go around reckless with sexuality. It's not an option for me to be intimate with strangers, acquaintances, or people I'm not in love with. However, unlike Si which can internalize sensory experiences, I need to actually experience something to get the benefit of it, so can't go along with an idea of sexuality. For example, I've noticed Si people I'm close to will have an idea of nature that is part of their identity, and they may paint pictures of it, or talk about it, read books about it, watch shows, dream about it, or even live in nature, but never go outside. There is a concept of it that satisfies them without literally experiencing it and their sexuality can be the same (or it may be iNtuitition or something else). My point is that I'm not like that because I have a need to feel, smell, see, and hear it, literally in the moment, or it isn't the same experience at all, and it seems like that could be Se-related. There needs to be something new about it - something that has never been before and without that sense of discovery in the moment, there is a lack of life and energy to it. Sexuality is like that, so a lack of it is very much an absence that can't be recreated.

This combination of needing meaning with intimacy combined with needing the literal expression of it makes the experience somewhat out of personal control. It leaves a person destined to a painful life. I'm a bit extreme in all of those parameters because I've only been with partners I thought I would grow old with and love forever, but they never needed the literal expression of it the same way as me because they were abstract about it. Abstract love is hard for me as well - like I enjoy intellectual conversations or activities that could represent intimacy, but it isn't the same as fully experiencing the other person. It has caused a bit of a lonely life for me. So now I bellydance because that is the most autonomous expression of sensuality that I can determine for myself.

[Ravenetta]

Every time I start wondering if I'm an intuitive and should switch my type I encounter a theoretical discussion that drives me batty. I really don't like conceptual words and abstractions. In my mind they have a life that exists outside reality and debating them is like debating whether Narnia or Mordor is more realistic and constructing an absolutely certain conclusion that wins the debate. I feel theoretical exasperation a lot of the time, but it's hard to put actual reality into words because even words are abstractions - they are designed for imaginary thinking.

i see a lot of glorious theories about politics, love, and society as a way pissing on reality while everyone applauds.