Have you door-slammed someone? I did for a few but now I wonder if I've learned that from my mother. As I've seen her door-slammed more than a few and it does have to do with the issue of disrespectfulness. The amazing thing is that for me, once i door-slammed someone, I did kind of feel regret about it and always questioned myself on its ethical validity. Unlike most people, I door-slammed when I felt overwhelmed by being too attached with someone, like running away from them. Though it seems that my mother "never" regrets when she decided to cut-off ties with someone for good. That level of coldness is what I often felt surprised from her; however, I'm not sure if that also belongs to ISFP's traits.
I swear I hope that at least one member of my family is extroverts as they are all introverts.
Though I am attracted to extroverts more, I think my mother (being an ISFJ), does have a strong preference with other introverts too as most of her friends are quite introverted.
My mother is really good at crafting and making things without too much efforts. I know her heart melts from a bear-hug and I use that often whenever we had a fight (and often I started it, heh). I just really wanna show her my affections to her on a deeper level. So far, it seems writing a sincere letter works for her.
I can be quite over emotional and act abruptly. I've done lots of stupid and mean things out of emotional impulse. Things that would typically seem out of character. I've door slammed, slapped, thrown things. I've worked on this quite a lot. It didn't help that I grew up in a house with an ISFP mother and an extremely moody ESFP father. My mom never acted out in the way that me, my father and my sister all did. In that respect, we probably all looked like demons to my mother. But as I've gotten older, it's something I noticed in myself as an ugly trait and worked to get rid of. I can still be moody, but I act out less.
When it comes to extroverts and introverts, I love both types for different reasons. However, it's just much harder for me to live with an extrovert. Well, I take that back, with unhealthy extroverts that don't know how to introvert. My sister and father are both extroverts but I never felt them intruding on me. My dad doesn't seem to ever stop talking... but maybe I'm just used to it from him. And my sister, though an extrovert, does know how to be quiet and knows how to relax. So, it's not like she's too much in my face.
No, somehow I've managed to date or live with roommate extroverts that are always trampling my space. That, I can't live with. My dream house, whenever I'm married one day, will have an "office" for me to hide away in. I'll need a room of my own, for sure.
Another question:
What are some of the traits when you become unhealthy?
I'll need to get back to this one... I've had different styles of unhealthy. Over introverting and over extroverting. With one, I become overly sensitive, emotional and depressive. With the other, I'm overly impulsive, not thinking my actions through, and typically binge drinking and not taking care of my responsibilities.
I want your honest opinion on how well you get along with INTPs. I ask because you're dominant Feelers; we're dominant T's. Also your usage of cognitive functions is the opposite.
I have two for certain INTP friends. I like both quite well. However, I will admit that you INTP's are often an enigma to me. But I always thought that this one particular INTP I knew was one of the coolest kids I had ever met.
Do you consider yourself as passionate ? Romantic? Or more reasonable? Can I say, all three? When I first start to fall for someone I like, I can fall hard. But eventually, I start to become very realistic and that's usually when things start to fall apart. Starting relationships are difficult for me... I'm always swinging between reasoning and passion and romantic thoughts. I am constantly questioning and thinking about every aspect of the new relationship and why it will or will not work.
Do you regret sometimes to have been "too kind"?Not that I can think of. Sometimes I regret not being kind enough. I'm often reactive on my emotions, and so if someone upsets me, I may act in a way that I find unattractive in myself. I'm always striving for compassion for all. That's my ideal of perfection.
Do you like partying, drinking, loud music?Depends, depends, depends. I like a good time, but I'm starting to get too old for a lot of those things. I'm preferring more and more the simpler things. But when I was younger, yes, yes and yes.
Do you like sports? What kind of sport?I'm not an athletic person, nor have I ever. I used to run cross country... but that was about it really. I prefer long walks and hikes or even dancing to sports or work outs.
Is artisitic expression something vital and instinctive to you?Since I was very young, I was attracted to art and creating art. But it had less to do with artistic expression and more to do with perfecting a craft. I wanted to learn to see better in order to draw better and vice versa. Something about drawing really caught my attention at a young age and it was always more about the process than the end result. As I got older, and started into college as an art major, I started to feel as though I needed to have some sort of meaning behind my art, and I just didn't have it. I slowly became more self conscious about my art to the point I just quit doing it altogether and became more attracted to subjects like psychology, philosophy and anthropology. I'd like to dabble in the arts more again, but I certainly don't create as much as I used to.
How much sex is important for you?My longest running relationship with the man I fell in love with, fell apart due to a slowly dwindling and crumbling sex life. And somehow we just couldn't seem to fix it. So, I've come to decide sex may not be everything, but it's certainly important to a healthy relationship.
