[SP] SP dealbreakers and must haves

[BlackCat]

Must have-
Sense of humor.
Talkative, but not annoying. I love talking to the people I'm close to.
Give me space.
Sex, often.
Something to do together, shared hobby, go out places, whatever.

Dealbreakers-
Emotionally unstable.
Complicated (in a bad way).
Control freak.
Plays head games. I don't really see the point of it except to test trust. Why be in a relationship with someone you don't trust though? One of my exes did something like this. She was really unclear about her intentions, asked me a few questions that were a bit personal or that were a bit touchy, and then when I answered she clammed up. Lost respect instantly, it went downhill from there. INFP 4w5 sp/sx without much self confidence...

There are other dealbreakers, but the other SP guys covered them pretty well. They are pretty basic relationship dealbreakers.

 

[KDude]

Dealbreaker:

Vampires
Werewolves
Mummies
Zombies
Responsible adults *shudder*

 

[Sunny Ghost]

Dealbreaker:

Vampires
Werewolves
Mummies
Zombies
Responsible adults *shudder*

werewolves, zombies, responsible adults, OH MY!:horor:

 

[rhinosaur]

Must have:
Great hair


Dealbreakers:
Negotiable

 

[gromit]

I don't know, but somewhat anal retentive men are hott ......

Hahaha... I kinda have to agree...

 

[Jeffster]

Must Haves:

Chemistry
Good sex
Honest
Trustworthy
Fun

Deal Breakers:

Game Playing
Talks too much


That's all I got right now...

Who are you saying must have these things?

 

[OrangeAppled]

SP requirements are so much cooler and more sensible than the requirements of other types. Maybe I need an SP!

Nah...they're just less analytical. It's not a matter of always being less picky than less prone to picking apart WHY; and if you don't pick it apart, then you won't articulate it as clearly.

In some ways, that leads them into BAD relationships more often than an NF who will over-analyze and then make a run for it when they see the person is much too far from ideal.

Besides, SPs can also be more shallow in their requirements: "You're cute, we have fun together, let's date!".

That said, I am dating an SP right now (which I've announced in just about every post recently ).

 

[KDude]

i'm not less analytical (ok maybe). but i just think dissing people for wearing sneakers is mean. that's going a bit far in the analysis dept

i'm halfway serious about not wanting to date monsters. that's what NFs forget. that there are real problematic people out there - best to not get hung up on so many other things not being an ideal. remind oneself of what's truly shitty..things that are "fundamentally" bad.. and then you're cool with dating someone with crappy shoes.

 

[OrangeAppled]

i'm not less analytical (ok maybe). but i just think dissing people for wearing sneakers is mean. that's going a bit far in the analysis dept

i'm halfway serious about not wanting to date monsters. that's what NFs forget. that there are real problematic people out there - best to not get hung up on so many other things not being an ideal. remind oneself of what's truly shitty..things that are "fundamentally" bad.. and then you're cool with dating someone with crappy shoes.

But if you've read the NF lists, you'd see that's pretty much what they amount to; by analysis, I mean considering their character. I don't recall one listing shoes as a dealbreaker

 

[KDude]

someone did.. can't find it now, but it broke my heart.

 

[OrangeAppled]

someone did.. can't find it now, but it broke my heart.

Might you call that a dealbreaker?

 

[KDude]

it would be a dealbreaker, but i kinda put that already. "responsible adults". hating sneakers seems sort of adult-like. ;D not to say i couldn't fall into some style that was more genteel.. i can do that too, but i wouldn't want to be something too definitive. its a little different from SJs (a lot of them like to make fun of what's not "normal", i think), but someone with too many ideals can be imposing in their own way too (not all, don't get me wrong).

 

[Colors]

Dealbreakers:
Smoking
Lying
Pessimism

Must-haves:
Capability of both long conversations and companionable silence
Social awareness/compassion
Humor