camille
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I came over here a couple of months ago but family work schedules got crazy and I haven't been around.
Recently someone who has known me for a few years now mentioned he was questioning my type and thought I might be ISFP not INFP. I was first tested in high school several years ago and on all of the online tests (with the exception of testing as INTP a couple of times) I've always tested as INFP. I didn't fair well on the INFP global board (although I haven't been there in many years and am unsure how it has changed).
I had never read the ISFP description before. It's often been mentioned on the boards that I am a unique INFP.
But after reading the ISFP description, it really seems to fit nicely with the exception of a few things.
Something in the description really stood out to me, and that was being quiet about feelings and emotions except for with a few close friends.
I'm quite the opposite. I'm very open with people. It's a very upfront type of thing. I really don't feel any shame or regret about my past and have taken on the attitude that I'll just show and tell myself as I was and am and want to be. People can take it as they will, without me getting torn up about it. I started doing this a few years ago and have never looked back because it has worked well for me and built my confidence and I have found very intimate friendships that I never would have expected.
Blending in is something else I'm either not very good at or never really strove to be hidden. I shaved my first mohawk at thirteen. I dress however I want whenever I want, and it's pretty far from the norm. I'm always coming up with ways to challenge myself (such as no shampoo, buying only second hand clothing or making it myself, things of that nature).
I don't know enough about type to know if the people I have chosen to surround myself with are ISFPs, and wanted to talk to a few and ask some questions.
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I was abused as a child and in early adulthood relationships (physically and emotionally). My mother pushed me to excel because I had a talent for music and learning which I exhibited at a young age. I went into the gifted program when I was 6 or 7 and spent four days a week with five kids, not a large classroom.
School was where I felt comfortable and found peace, not at home. I think I sought out abusive relationships for a long time as a way to punish myself or perhaps even felt the dramatic emotions were what I needed....just being happy was never enough, or being content, or being angry...I needed extremes.
Was anyone else abused as a child or pushed to be perfect and did that lead you to become more open or to withdraw?
The intensity that I need in my relationships, without the control or expectation to constantly be available, has given me some trouble. I used to have a very difficult time with projection and mirroring. I walked away from a lot of people and relationships because of this.
Do you find you need an intensity in your relationships that does feed your senses? I don't want drama at all. It's so difficult to describe.
Physical intimacy is a necessity for me in all of my relationships. Not sex, but intimacy, touching - holding hands - kissing.
And just as important is the emotional intimacy.
The difference for me, between the two, is that I can be emotional intimate with someone I just met, or maybe want to be, and the physical intimacy is reserved.
I've said before that I can be a friend with someone for a day. It's so easy for me.
Recently someone who has known me for a few years now mentioned he was questioning my type and thought I might be ISFP not INFP. I was first tested in high school several years ago and on all of the online tests (with the exception of testing as INTP a couple of times) I've always tested as INFP. I didn't fair well on the INFP global board (although I haven't been there in many years and am unsure how it has changed).
I had never read the ISFP description before. It's often been mentioned on the boards that I am a unique INFP.
But after reading the ISFP description, it really seems to fit nicely with the exception of a few things.
Something in the description really stood out to me, and that was being quiet about feelings and emotions except for with a few close friends.
Although their inner loyalties and ideals govern their lives, ISFPs find these hard to talk about. Their deepest feelings are seldom expressed; their inner tenderness is masked by a quiet reserve.
I'm quite the opposite. I'm very open with people. It's a very upfront type of thing. I really don't feel any shame or regret about my past and have taken on the attitude that I'll just show and tell myself as I was and am and want to be. People can take it as they will, without me getting torn up about it. I started doing this a few years ago and have never looked back because it has worked well for me and built my confidence and I have found very intimate friendships that I never would have expected.
Blending in is something else I'm either not very good at or never really strove to be hidden. I shaved my first mohawk at thirteen. I dress however I want whenever I want, and it's pretty far from the norm. I'm always coming up with ways to challenge myself (such as no shampoo, buying only second hand clothing or making it myself, things of that nature).
I don't know enough about type to know if the people I have chosen to surround myself with are ISFPs, and wanted to talk to a few and ask some questions.
**
I was abused as a child and in early adulthood relationships (physically and emotionally). My mother pushed me to excel because I had a talent for music and learning which I exhibited at a young age. I went into the gifted program when I was 6 or 7 and spent four days a week with five kids, not a large classroom.
School was where I felt comfortable and found peace, not at home. I think I sought out abusive relationships for a long time as a way to punish myself or perhaps even felt the dramatic emotions were what I needed....just being happy was never enough, or being content, or being angry...I needed extremes.
Was anyone else abused as a child or pushed to be perfect and did that lead you to become more open or to withdraw?
The intensity that I need in my relationships, without the control or expectation to constantly be available, has given me some trouble. I used to have a very difficult time with projection and mirroring. I walked away from a lot of people and relationships because of this.
Do you find you need an intensity in your relationships that does feed your senses? I don't want drama at all. It's so difficult to describe.
Physical intimacy is a necessity for me in all of my relationships. Not sex, but intimacy, touching - holding hands - kissing.
And just as important is the emotional intimacy.
The difference for me, between the two, is that I can be emotional intimate with someone I just met, or maybe want to be, and the physical intimacy is reserved.
I've said before that I can be a friend with someone for a day. It's so easy for me.