[ISFP] ISFP questions

[ayoitsStepho]

I have a few questions that I wanted to ask my fellow ISFP's, because I'm curious to know if others react to certain situations the way I do. There just aren't a ton of ISFP's or threads about ISFP's, but I'm still curious about my mates. So feel free to answer the questions below.

How do you react to conflict?

Do you ever feel like your not understood?

Do you care how others see you?

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?

What is your current occupation/study?

What other types to you generally relate to?

I think thats all I have for now. Others are more than welcome to ask questions. I'm sure we wouldn't mind asking

 

[wolfy]

How do you react to conflict?

Depends, but I typically become very detached and objective.

Do you ever feel like your not understood?

Not really.

Do you care how others see you?

Yes and no. I realise that others view of me can influence things, and I want to put my best foot forward. I'm not overly attached to how others perceive me though.

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?

I don't know. Nothing that is really specific to ISFP. Staying organised, keeping the monkey off my back?

What is your current occupation/study?

I teach kids English and I work in the gym.

What other types to you generally relate to?

All SP and various individuals of other types. I find SP easiest to understand.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

How do you react to conflict?
I want to run and hide when conflict comes, but I know that'll make a problem worse. I try to deal with problems as they come with all the wisdom I can, but I'm not quick with the toungue so I often leave things out that I later regret.

Do you ever feel like your not understood?
I don't know if I feel missunderstood, or if I feel like people don't TRY to understand me. Probably the later.

Do you care how others see you?
Well, I care about my reputation and I try to keep all negetivity away from me.

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?
I'm not able to really express myself verbally and that tends to kill some relationships with me. I'm working on it.

What is your current occupation/study?
Right now I'm just floating around. I am trying to get into a college near me and major in graphic design and minor in journalism. Maybe do some fashion design, who knows.

What other types to you generally relate to?
So far, I have no idea. I talk to a few SJs. I haven't really talked to SPs. The NF's are really great ;D
NT's are a combination of yay and ow.

 

[Charmed Justice]

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?
I'm not able to really express myself verbally and that tends to kill some relationships with me. I'm working on it.
You seem really talkative on here. Are you quite irl?

What other types to you generally relate to?
So far, I have no idea. I talk to a few SJs. I haven't really talked to SPs. The NF's are really great ;D
NT's are a combination of yay and ow.

Every last ISFP I've known has been genuinely kind, patient, and loyal. So do you find that you click best with SJs, just like a good SP is supposed to?

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Every last ISFP I've known has been genuinely kind, patient, and loyal. So do you find that you click best with SJs, just like a good SP is supposed to?

Well, I think I relate to them so well because not only is my mother an ISFJ but my younger sister is too. But of coarse that really allows me to see the the flaws in their thinking as well. So, yes I work well with them [at least thats how they've brain washed me]

Oh yes, I'm actually really quiet IRL. But like I said, thats because nobody I know is really interested in hearing what I have to say, so I've learned to just not talk. Living with 2 ISFJ's an ENFJ and an ENTP doesnt always unsure that they'd understand my sparks of creativity and the thoughts I have.

 

[Charmed Justice]

Well, I think I relate to them so well because not only is my mother an ISFJ but my younger sister is too. But of coarse that really allows me to see the the flaws in their thinking as well. So, yes I work well with them [at least thats how they've brain washed me]

Hahaha.

Oh yes, I'm actually really quiet IRL. But like I said, thats because nobody I know is really interested in hearing what I have to say, so I've learned to just not talk. Living with 2 ISFJ's an ENFJ and an ENTP doesnt always unsure that they'd understand my sparks of creativity and the thoughts I have.

Well that's not good.:steam: What kinds of things do you want to say that they aren't interested in hearing?
My ex was an ISFP. He was super quiet almost always, but around me he was a total goof. He still wasn't really talkative, but he would do things that were so incredibly goof ballish. It was hilarious. He had so much to express, but he did it through action. He liked to draw, a lot, and he was great at it. He also wrote letters a lot. Something about the spoken word...but still, he was very expressive. Do you express yourself through art or written words better than through talking?

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Well that's not good.:steam: What kinds of things do you want to say that they aren't interested in hearing?
My ex was an ISFP. He was super quiet almost always, but around me he was a total goof. He still wasn't really talkative, but he would do things that were so incredibly goof ballish. It was hilarious. He had so much to express, but he did it through action. He liked to draw, a lot, and he was great at it. He also wrote letters a lot. Something about the spoken word...but still, he was very expressive. Do you express yourself through art or written words better than through talking?

Well, I've always had questions or thoughts that invade my mind. I maybe curious about something or my heart is really on fire about a topic and I try to talk about it [especially to my mom] and she ignores me. Either that or she gets really angry that I'd ask such questions about my faith or how I think and such. I almost feel like I'm an idiot every time I try to express verbally towards anyone. So I gravitate towards art in expression. I draw, I write stories, I dance. I do alot of graphic designing and I'd really love to write my own script. So yes, art and writting is deffinatley how I get those things out.
See, I can be really goofy and I know I have a great sence of simple humor. I'm not afraid to make a fool out of myself and I'll do almost anything [as long as its legal]. Sadly, I'm horrible at making friends. I always end up with people who treat me like trash, so I've learned to walk alone.

 

[Quinlan]

How do you react to conflict?

I go into thinking mode, and listen carefully while also trying to come up with solutions, I'm always looking for solutions and getting to the heart of things, hate arguing for it's own sake. If someone is really annoying me (not often) I get all cocky and smartarse.

Do you ever feel like your not understood?

I don't know, I'm probably not understood but I don't think about it much so it doesn't bother me.

Do you care how others see you?

Depends on my mood I think sometimes very much and sometimes not at all.

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?

Growing up trying to reconcile an ISFP kind of way of life within a very SJ family environment.

What is your current occupation/study?

Accounts.

What other types to you generally relate to?

I like the NFs, I think if there was a place somewhere between NF and SP that would be me.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Growing up trying to reconcile an ISFP kind of way of life within a very SJ family environment.

This is my current problem. ISFJ mom and ENTP dad. Where the heck do you fit into that??

 

[Quinlan]

I find that my personality is kind of all or nothing, if I am my true self then I am really cheeky and playful but growing up I think a lot of people found that obnoxious so I closed off a lot (and still do). I am quite content being the quiet one regardless.

 

[warm8]

How do you react to conflict?

if it's in a situation where I did something wrong, I usually feel really guilty and intimidated. I cower away and get quiet. if it's in a situation where the other person upset me then I can get really angry but I usually keep it in.

Do you ever feel like your not understood?

yes, but I seldom feel the desire to be understood. I'm kind of okay with it because I know I'm pretty different from most people I meet.

Do you care how others see you?

depends on my mood / if something's on my mind. I can get self-conscious about the randomest things sometimes though I'm usually nervous in a crowd of people if I can tell I'm being observed

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?

not being able to have the freedom I want. not being able to have a lifestyle where I can make artwork and music and feel free and still be financially stable. not being able to express myself well in personal relationships. being lazy as fuck / too care free / neglecting the future / crappy with money. being too timid sometimes and then too social other times. also getting severely depressed / hopeless-feeling at times.

What is your current occupation/study?

studying art in college.

What other types to you generally relate to?

hmm, well, I relate to a lot of types almost equally. ExFPs and ISTPs have stuck out to me as people I relate to. I have a lot of ENFP friends that I see a lot of myself in, and I don't know many ESFPs but the ones I do know I see a lot of myself in as well. ISTPs I feel an instant connection with them (in the friend way!)

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Quinlan: Yes, I can actually relate! I'd have to say I can be the same way. For myself though, I think I'm so far lost in myself because I dont feel I've been 'allowed' to act on my emotions and thoughts.

 

[Charmed Justice]

Well, I've always had questions or thoughts that invade my mind. I maybe curious about something or my heart is really on fire about a topic and I try to talk about it [especially to my mom] and she ignores me. Either that or she gets really angry that I'd ask such questions about my faith or how I think and such.

I can relate to that a lot. I get quiet when I don't think people want to hear me either. Then they usually end up begging me to saying something.

I almost feel like I'm an idiot every time I try to express verbally towards anyone. So I gravitate towards art in expression. I draw, I write stories, I dance. I do alot of graphic designing and I'd really love to write my own script. So yes, art and writting is deffinatley how I get those things out.

That's awesome. I think expression is expression, no matter how you do it. I find it easier to write a lot of things that I feel uncomfortable putting into words.

See, I can be really goofy and I know I have a great sence of simple humor. I'm not afraid to make a fool out of myself and I'll do almost anything [as long as its legal]. Sadly, I'm horrible at making friends. I always end up with people who treat me like trash, so I've learned to walk alone.

You sound like so much fun. Is it easier to express yourself in an online environment than irl? Like, do you find it easier to connect to people?
People who've treated you like shit need a good kick in the ass parts.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

You sound like so much fun. Is it easier to express yourself in an online environment than irl? Like, do you find it easier to connect to people?
People who've treated you like shit need a good kick in the ass parts.

It really is quite suckish But I know others have this same problem. I'm here for hugs

Why thank you! I hope I'm actually fun IRL xD
I connect with people online way better. I feel like all locks on me are taken off and I can express what needs to be expressed and that helps me. Plus I'm able to write my thoughts out better. So people online are getting a treat
Actually, this reminds me of a conversation my mom had with me yesterday. She told me that I have a rebelious heart and that stung. I had done alot of disobeying my mother at a certain time in my life because I wanted to do what the other kids where doing. I felt like they wanted to be with me and loved me, while my mother is the grand ol' judge.
So I didn't understand how i could've had a rebelious heart. I mean, I see her point, but thats not how I felt during those times. I KNOW I was just looking for someone to love me. But of coarse I didnt bother to explain to my mother because that just starts another conflict that I'd rather not start.

 

[Charmed Justice]

Why thank you! I hope I'm actually fun IRL xD
I connect with people online way better. I feel like all locks on me are taken off and I can express what needs to be expressed and that helps me. Plus I'm able to write my thoughts out better. So people online are getting a treat

I'm sure you are fun. It might get easier to find people you can relate, people who will appreciate you for all the things you are, as you get older and branch further away from home.

Actually, this reminds me of a conversation my mom had with me yesterday. She told me that I have a rebelious heart and that stung. I had done alot of disobeying my mother at a certain time in my life because I wanted to do what the other kids where doing. I felt like they wanted to be with me and loved me, while my mother is the grand ol' judge.

OMG, doesn't it totally suck to have your motives misunderstood? And then for someone to prescribe negative intentions to your actions?! That's the worst for me. I tend to assume the best of people, so it's still hard for me to understand sometimes when people think the worst of others, especially those they love. I really don't get that.

So I didn't understand how i could've had a rebelious heart. I mean, I see her point, but thats not how I felt during those times. I KNOW I was just looking for someone to love me. But of coarse I didnt bother to explain to my mother because that just starts another conflict that I'd rather not start.

Well, that's just her interpretation of course. You know what's in your own heart better than anyone else, and I'm sure it's not a heartless, mean spirited type of rebellion.

 

[ayoitsStepho]

I'm sure you are fun. It might get easier to find people you can relate, people who will appreciate you for all the things you are, as you get older and branch further away from home.


OMG, doesn't it totally suck to have your motives misunderstood? And then for someone to prescribe negative intentions to your actions?! That's the worst for me. I tend to assume the best of people, so it's still hard for me to understand sometimes when people think the worst of others, especially those they love. I really don't get that.


Well, that's just her interpretation of course. You know what's in your own heart better than anyone else, and I'm sure it's not a heartless, mean spirited type of rebellion.

Lol, its ok She'll be paying all my bills for my councelors.
Your right, as long as I know whats in my heart, I can live with that. It only sucks because I tend to believe things people say about me [especially bad].
Sigh

 

[bcvcdc]

How do you react to conflict?

Shut down. If you mean confrontation with someone who violates my values and ethics, that's a whole different story - I can become very, very angry.

Do you ever feel like your not understood?

Oh no, never.

Do you care how others see you?

In general, no.

Whats the biggest struggle you have being an ISFP?

Mostly feeling abused (deceived, certain people bringing up things from my past to use against me, constant harrassment, name-calling, stalking, etc.) by people who I believed were friends. I guess in general just feeling totally taken advantage of.

What is your current occupation/study?

Foreign languages

What other types to you generally relate to?

Mostly nf's and sp's

 

[ayoitsStepho]

Do you like being asked serious questions or silly questions better?

 

[Walking Tourist]

silly.
:hi:

Do you like being asked serious questions or silly questions better?

 

[ayoitsStepho]

silly.
:hi:

Thats what I thought
I'd rather be asked daring and silly questions than serious intelectual questions.
I guess thats why I'm so good at truth or dare