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[ISTJ] How to convince an ISTJ parent？
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Ursa
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- Try not to involve emotions in your discourse as much as possible. Use your head, not your heart, in your strategy and communications with him.
- Facts and data are your allies. Does your destination have a nice reputation? Prove it with sources. Does he not trust your companion? Use multiple anecdotes to illustrate how reliable this person this. Perhaps you can even have the two meet.
- Set boundaries. Are you an adult? Then it isn't his decision, it's yours, and he needs to respect that. Be honest, but polite, and direct about what you want to do. It is nice to hear what a parent has to say, but each adult ultimately has the liberty to make his or her own choices.
- Facts and data are your allies. Does your destination have a nice reputation? Prove it with sources. Does he not trust your companion? Use multiple anecdotes to illustrate how reliable this person this. Perhaps you can even have the two meet.
- Set boundaries. Are you an adult? Then it isn't his decision, it's yours, and he needs to respect that. Be honest, but polite, and direct about what you want to do. It is nice to hear what a parent has to say, but each adult ultimately has the liberty to make his or her own choices.
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Tell him it's really cheap. 
Seriously though, seeing that you are an ESFP type, you'd probably be in trouble before you even left. I bet you even forgot to renew your passport. And did you really pack enough warm clothes to survive any problems, like delayed flights or bad weather?
I bet your ISTJ dad might be thinking something like that.
To convince a worried parent, you'll need to make assure them you can fare by yourself. It is also important that you can take care of your buddy as well. You need to be prepared to face any misfortune that might befall on you. You need to have a plan and a schedule. You'll need to have a backup plan too, should things go wrong.
And ISTJs aren't emotionless. If it's important to you, it is important to your dad. Convice him that it will be a trip to remember, well worth the money. You can always get more money, clothes and other material goods, but experiences are always unique and everlasting.
Seriously though, seeing that you are an ESFP type, you'd probably be in trouble before you even left. I bet you even forgot to renew your passport. And did you really pack enough warm clothes to survive any problems, like delayed flights or bad weather?
I bet your ISTJ dad might be thinking something like that.
To convince a worried parent, you'll need to make assure them you can fare by yourself. It is also important that you can take care of your buddy as well. You need to be prepared to face any misfortune that might befall on you. You need to have a plan and a schedule. You'll need to have a backup plan too, should things go wrong.
And ISTJs aren't emotionless. If it's important to you, it is important to your dad. Convice him that it will be a trip to remember, well worth the money. You can always get more money, clothes and other material goods, but experiences are always unique and everlasting.
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The problem you will have in any argument you would naturally try to appeal to his emotions as you think thats how people relate to each other. You have to be factual, and show how this will benefit you. Try to find statistics that over protection might lead to negative consequences. Focus on the future not the present. Be very logical, and plan your trip. Your a perciever so you rely on improvisation rather than prior planning and of course this will make the ISTJ parent worried because he views you as irresponsible. Make a detailed plan with facts.
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