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[ISTJ] ISTJ men, are you ever attracted to INFs?

Are you attracted to INFPs or INFJs?

  • Yes, INFPs

    Votes: 4 57.1%
  • Yes, INFJs

    Votes: 3 42.9%

  • Total voters
    7

indigo_skies

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ISTJ men, are you ever attracted to INFPs or INFJs? Do you have a preference between the two? My roommate is an xSTJ and I really admire her responsibility, work ethic, and loyalty and we actually get along pretty well, for the most part. I would love to one day meet a guy with her personality traits. So I was curious to see if you ISTJ guys are ever interested in us INF types for long term relationships.
 

Habba

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I'm married to an INFJ. To me NF types are more attractive than ST types. Back in the day when I was still single, I used to look for ENFPs and INFPs, but after a while I knowling stopped doing that. Attractive as they were, they were never going to work. P + J on a daily basis can be very challenging.
 

Starrynight5

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I can't take the poll not being ISTJ, but I'm INFP and married to an ISTJ. Soo, yeah, attraction was part of it...
 

Habba

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Seriously, only one vote here? :D
 

stone

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I tend to draw XNFPs for some reason that is completely unknown to me, which is good because I don't do well with Ni in the long term.
 

indigo_skies

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Thanks for all the replies so far and to the 2 people who voted.

But come on now, ISTJ guys! Someone should at least break the tie. I've noticed that the SJ forums tend to be nowhere nearly as active as all of the xNxx type forums...but I know you are out there somewhere! ;)
 

Julius_Van_Der_Beak

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My dad's an ISTJ, and my mom's an INFP. They've been through a lot, and they're still together. Sometimes I see the relationship I have with my Mom as reminiscent of the relationship between Daniel Craig and Judi Dench in the latest series of Bond movies.
 

Raspberry_rain

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My dad was! My mom is an INFP and they definitely have their share of problems but they love each other tremendously and have been married for almost 23 years.
 

Ingrid in grids

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My ISTJ ex seemed to date INFs almost exclusively.

But he was also a narcissist, and I wonder if they were easy targets.
 

Riva

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This thread shouldn't limit the participants to ISTJs.

START ANOTHER ONE!!!!
 

LovelySweet

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I'm also curious about the way the ISTJ men think. What about the INFx that they find attractive? What works and what doesn't?
 

Cimarron

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Yeah, there is something initially attractive about a lot of INFx women, whether J or P. But I'm not turned off by many types right out of the gate, anyway. There can be some underlying "weird" aversion to NFs as well, though, from the ISTJ side. It's kind of a struggle of feelings...ugh.
 

indigo_skies

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Do you ever notice a functional clash between INFJ and ISTJ? Since the two of them use opposite functions. And as for INFPs, is there a noticeable J/P clash on certain things? What is it that you are attracted to about these types?

This thread shouldn't limit the participants to ISTJs.

START ANOTHER ONE!!!!

riva, I would do one for ESTJs too! I might some time, as I like them too. But I feel like there are even fewer ESTJs on here than ISTJs, and as you can see, this poll is not particularly active. ;)
 

Riva

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Do you ever notice a functional clash between INFJ and ISTJ? Since the two of them use opposite functions. And as for INFPs, is there a noticeable J/P clash on certain things? What is it that you are attracted to about these types?


riva, I would do one for ESTJs too! I might some time, as I like them too. But I feel like there are even fewer ESTJs on here than ISTJs, and as you can see, this poll is not particularly active. ;)

Oh i meant this poll should address all mbti types.
 

stone

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I'm also curious about the way the ISTJ men think. What about the INFx that they find attractive? What works and what doesn't?
I don't know how to answer this, because the things that attract me aren't type related. I can tell you that I have never dated an INFJ.
 

stone

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Do you ever notice a functional clash between INFJ and ISTJ? Since the two of them use opposite functions.
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Yes I have. I do not do well with Ni in the long term as I said before: communication can be difficult particularly when my energy levels are low.
 

JClassic

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I agree the P + J is tough. Its weird though everywhere I online it says that P + J might be good because it might offer the J type flexiblility in a relationship
 
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