User Tag List

First 123 Last

Results 11 to 20 of 26

  1. #11


    They typically fit gender roles pretty well. Some are incredibly paternal and others are more "I am a tough alpha male but cry on the inside" types. Lol ENFJ men seem much less like that. They can be charming as heck but still stick out like a sore thumb to me in terms of trying to emulate strict societal expectations.

  2. #12
    Senior Member tinker683's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    9w1 sx/sp


    The same thing male ISFJs do...just with more style and class
    "The man who is swimming against the stream knows the strength of it."
    ― Woodrow Wilson

  3. #13
    Bird of War Julius_Van_Der_Beak's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    5w6 sp/so
    LII None


    I have this theory, that Feeling is actually more strongly differentiated into masculine and feminine than Thinking.

    It definitely seems to be true for the SF's. The NF men do seem a little "softer", but I think they often have some kind of cockiness or rowdiness about them too. Think of John Lennon or Jim Morrison. They're like the "musician/artist" archetype a lot of women are drawn to. Perhaps not traditionally masculine, but there is something a little macho about it.

    I do know that the most "masculine" and "feminine" people appear to be Fs. If you thinking about it, it makes sense, because taking anything other than boobs and the ability to throw babies out and thinking about that as "feminine" is somewhat arbitrary and difficult to suss out logically. I suppose Te can see those things as "facts" maybe, but they don't hold up when you observe enough individuals.

    I have a friend who I think is an ISFJ ( we seem to have an alpha quadra at lunch going on of INTP ENTP and ISFJ), and he kind of comes off like a jock, but there's nothing intimidating about him once you actually know him.
    The gloves are off...
    The wisdom teeth fell out...
    What you on about?

    Visit my Johari:

  4. #14
    Wake, See, Sing, Dance Cellmold's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012


    Actually giving this thread some more thought, although I cannot speak for the majority of ESFJ men, I would say what I do is...nothing.

    I exist, I wake up, I go to social gatherings, I talk...usually quite emptily, I engage in personal hobbies and routines and then I retire to bed. The next day I do the same and then the next....until they run into one another and I die....liked by many, but loved by none.

    I made conversation fun and was a source of humour and well being they will say. I was an idiot say others who lacked a perceptive insight into any faculty of his or anyone else's existence, living entirely upon each emotional reaction like a puppet attached to electricity.

    In any case, people will conclude that I lived and died and fortunately the fact they noticed would perhaps be the second greatest success of my life, the first being that no one would morn for too long, as it should be.
    'One of (Lucas) Cranach's masterpieces, discussed by (Joseph) Koerner, is in it's self-referentiality the perfect expression of left-hemisphere emptiness and a precursor of post-modernism. There is no longer anything to point to beyond, nothing Other, so it points pointlessly to itself.' - Iain McGilChrist

    Suppose a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?"
    "Suppose it didn't," said Pooh, after careful thought.
    Piglet was comforted by this.
    - A.A. Milne.

  5. #15
    just a vessel EJCC's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    173 so/sx


    The ESFJ-ExTP comparison works very well, IME. Similarly to how female ESTJs can come across like ExFPs when they're socialized to be a bit more traditionally feminine.
    EJCC: "The Big Questions in my life right now: 1) What am I willing to live with? 2) What do I have to live with? 3) What can I change for the better?"
    Coriolis: "Is that the ESTJ Serenity Prayer?"

    ESTJ - LSE - ESTj (mbti/socionics)
    1w2/7w8/3w4 so/sx (enneagram)
    member of the month (May 2018)
    want to ask me something? go for it!

  6. #16
    mod love baby... Lady_X's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    9w1 sx/so


    i like esfjs so much i've decided. i have an older esfj friend and her ne shit is hilarious. i mean...she's just such a funny character. i think they're just so cool and capable...they can just do anything really it seems.

    annnyway...ben harper is an esfj i think...this is sort of what pops into my head when i think of them.

    Attachment 9791
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
    -Jim Morrison

  7. #17
    Nerd King Usurper Edgar's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008


    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    They're like really, really down-to-earth ENTPs with average joe appeal. Maybe even more ESTP if anything.
    What? ESFJs are nothing like ENTPs or ESTPs. Those are completely different types.

    ESFJ guy is usually a trendy dude who is obsessed about being liked and being part of the cool crew. Usually thinks status quo is totally sweet, unless he's pulling a "fashionable non conformist" thing. Generally very friendly and outgoing, until some line is crossed and it turns into a giant bitch fest. If ESFJ is not in it with the "cool kids", chances are, he's miserable as shit.
    Listen to me, baby, you got to understand, you're old enough to learn the makings of a man.

  8. #18
    my floof is luxury Wind Up Rex's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    853 sx/sp


    I'd come in here to say something more or less positive about ESFJ males.

    Then I got a text from my ESFJ ex and that basically fell apart.

    Best I can manage is that they're like more controlling versions of ESTJs.
    And so long as you haven’t experienced this: to die and so to grow,
    you are only a troubled guest on the dark earth

  9. #19
    Senior Member MetalMoon's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2013


    I think the unhealthy ones need to be avoided...or matured...

    and the healthy ones need a hug and a shield from the bias of typology. Poor, well-meaning ESFJs.

  10. #20
    Blind Guardian Haven's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    2w3 so/sp
    ESFj Ti


    I'm actually a software guy, I write code for a living. I travel a lot and the weather has been poor lately so I've been staying inside more.

    I wouldn't say I'm entirely healthy. I'm controlling, yes, but not nearly as much as others because I'm also ambitious, and I don't like to waste my time.

    I like talking to people about their ideas and getting different perspectives on the world. That doesn't pay the bills though, so I work and study a lot. Maybe I'll return from my isolation soon and venture into the world again.

Similar Threads

  1. [ESFJ] What do ESFJ women look for in a man?
    By Snape42 in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 11-13-2013, 07:57 PM
  2. [ESFJ] ESFJs what do you admire about Madonna & Donald Trump
    By Afkan in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 08-10-2010, 09:45 AM
  3. [ESFJ] what do you guys think of ESFJ girls?
    By niki in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 63
    Last Post: 04-02-2009, 07:47 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO